Pleasing and Pampering a Woman

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Pleasing and Pampering a Woman/Author Unknown"I'm going to let you in on a few little secrets from a woman's perspective, andlet you know the things many women want.This is about how you can go about pleasing your wife, lover, and friend. Thisisn't going to be about what you want, or even fulfilling your desires. This isabout learning to give without conditions and expectations. It's totally aboutwhat measures you need to take if you wish to truly please and pamper your lovedone.If you are serious about going out of your way to make her happy, you'll set outto find out the things which delight her. When does she seem happiest to you?Most responsive? You've seen it. That beautiful smile when you see her beam brings a mysterious happiness in all the surrounding energy.You know what I mean. You've brought her flowers for no reason. Stopped by thestore on the way home to pick up a pound of her favorite gourmet coffee, just because. You've gotten out of bed at 6:00 a.m. the day you get to sleep in, toshovel half a foot of snow off her car and start it, so it would be heated whenshe is ready to leave.So many of these things most women are accustomed to doing because it is innatefor us to nurture and love. Men can do this too. Some men can do it very wellwith little or no instruction. Others need to be taught. This is for men, whichneed a little instruction in the pleasure-giving department. First, you have toget into the headspace of where you please your woman on a mental level. Womenlove conversation.They love to talk about themselves. Stop and listen for a change. The desire to be celebrated and to celebrate another individual in a deeply satisfyingrelationship that fosters personal growth and a sense of communion isfundamental to all that is divinely feminine. Ask her questions that lead her totalk more about herself. Find out how she's really doing. Now you can find outif there's anything you can do to make her life easier.If you have a relationship that is not openly kinky, one that you have hiddenyour desires from your partner, this is the perfect opportunity for you to serveher without her knowledge. You don't have to scream it from the rooftops, "Hey,I'm submissive." Thereby jeopardizing what is otherwise a wonderfulrelationship.Instead, in this way, it will be an unspoken servitude fulfilling your desiresto serve, and certainly making your partner extremely happy in the end. If youare in an openly kinky relationship, which normally breeds a much deeper intimacy, this will only bring you closer. Bottom line is, you want to try anddeepen the intimacy of your relationship.Communication is key; you've heard it a million times before. You've probablyeven heard it from your partner before. If you have indeed heard it from her lips, you really need to stop now and remedy the situation; otherwise, you willonly drift apart in the end. If you value your partner and the relationship youshare, do it now. Take the time out of your busy workweek and schedule this timefor communication.

Don't be mentally and emotionally unavailable; it will destroy your relationship. The more you reach out to her on this mental level, the more shewill want to be with you on all other levels; emotionally, spiritually and physically. Women need the mental discourse to feel love.Believe it or not, by reaching out to her on a mental level, you are actually perpetuating more intimacy on other levels. She talks, you listen, she feelscloser to you than ever before, she reaches out and wants physicality or toexpress deeper emotionality. This works not only when she talks, but when you both share a rapport as well. The more you communicate constructively, thedeeper the intimacy becomes.People communicate on many levels. I'm talking about constructive and satisfyingcommunication, not yelling at one another. You want to manifest a deeper trustin your lives, which is only achieved by healthy discourse. Healthy and normalare very subjective. It means different things to different people. Feelingcontentment, satisfaction and happiness is a pretty safe bet you are on theright track.So you're enjoying long hours of intellectual intercourse, encouraging your significant other to reveal to you the things that make her spirit sing. Makemental note of everything she says. Have these conversations often to re-affirmher pleasure invoking senses and practices.The best part about this mental stimulation is the care you are showing by your sincere interest in HER. This alone, will propel your relationship to newlevels. Women want to be heard. Look into her eyes, stroke her hand, her chin; aloving gesture during your conversation will make her feel at ease and only lendto bring you much closer.Most important of all, LISTEN.Don't stare into her eyes and drift off in a daze and daydream. We can tell whenyour eyes glaze over. Don't look away, it will show disinterest. Focus all your energy on her. You have to find out what she likes. This is really easier thanyou think.If the two of you are a new item, long hours of conversation in thegetting-to-know-you infatuation stages can bring you great knowledge about thethings she loves. Talk to her; find out what makes her soul resonate. If you've been together for years, by now you should already have all the information youneed to please.Does she love flowers? Go out of your way every week to bring her favoriteflowers home with you. What are her favorite flowers? Can't afford fresh flowersweekly? Then do it bi-weekly, or monthly at least. Surely $20.00 a month isn'tgoing to break you. If you take a good hard look at the money you spendfrivolously, you can afford to stop calling your bookie and betting on footballSunday mornings, or forego the extra case of beer.You have to make the commitment in your own mind first to please your partner.If you don't do this, it won't even come close to being a sincere gesture. Get a part time job, if this is what it takes. Show her by your actions you mean business! What are all the mundane things she does everyday to keep your livesorderly?

Start watching and then one by one, begin doing them yourself. You pick up thedry cleaning; start doing the laundry and not waiting for her to do it. If youdon't know how, learn. Pick up the kids after school; pick up after yourself.Keep your environment clean, if you can't do it, hire a professional to come inand do it. Feed the pets. Make breakfast while she reads the paper in themorning.There are so many routine tasks done out of habit every day to keep a householdrunning. Set out to make her life easier by doing these everyday chores. Youwill have a very pleased and contented Queen in your presence. The mostessential thing I believe is, for you to become a self-starter. Learn what her needs are and how she likes things done. Every woman runs her household acertain way. Learn these practices and mimic them.Anticipate her needs by being one step ahead in fulfilling them. Always keep akeen eye around you, paying attention to your environment and the minute detailsof how it is run. Is the dish detergent almost out? Pick some up on the way hometonight. Will she have enough cream for coffee tomorrow morning?Anticipate longer-range goals as well. Have you planned what you will do for her next birthday? What about your next Anniversary? Always have little surprises upyour sleeve. These needn't even cost anything. Some of the greatest gestures of love and devotion, like the ones we've been discussing, often do not cost athing.Leave love notes for her to find in the middle of her busy, stressful day. Putsomething special for her to find in her lunch bag. Call her up and invite her to a picnic in the park for lunch. If you're going out of town, leave adoringmessages for her on her voice mail. Send her an online greeting card to show her how much you miss her. You should be investing a minimum of one to two hours per day in pleasing your Queen; in whatever capacity this takes form.You should always be thinking ahead and devising plans to bring her greater pleasure. Does she love gardening? Take a trip to your local gardening storetogether and spend the day puttering around the garden, digging holes, fetching plants and making a connection with the earth. You can spend long hours sittingoutside on the patio and watching the life you've both so painstakingly nurturedgrow and take pride in the beauty of all that is around you.Is she fond of antiquing? Make a day trip of going from antique market toantique market, researching beforehand where they are located. Is she cultured?Does she love the arts? Find out what she loves and buy the tickets to attend.Does she just like to stay home and recluse? If she loves to nest, make thisevening as special as you can.Set out to make her a lovely dinner of her favorite dishes. If you can't cook,order in her favorites and set up a candlelit dinner with wine. Take a cookingcourse. Maybe she loves champagne. Have that chilled and waiting for her whenshe gets home. Serve her every need. Make sure her glass is always filled.Create a romantic ambiance with lighting, candles, incense, essential oils, andmusic.After dinner, allow her to relax while you clean up. Put her legs up on thesofa, make sure she has all that she needs and go about your chores. She may

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murklore_it_helps

aa7800.. i did have a woman who did nothing... was not fun.. i know that not all women are like this one but i realize that there are some out there.. believe me.. but nevertheless you are right.. it is a bit exaggerated.. even if sometimes i have 'went overboard' myself with candle/wine/bath oils or a sudden 'weekend getaway' for no particular reason.. nothing wrong with this..

reply04 / 21 / 2012

murklore_it_helps

mapunderground sounds angry.. and with todays society i cant say i blame him.. its gotten so bad even some women are shocked by the behavior and attitudes of other women.. sounds like he got hooked up with a bad one... that is not to say there are no good ones out there.. but it is a virtual minefield with few telltale signs of whats worth it and what isnt.. sorry you got burned dude.. so did i..

reply04 / 21 / 2012

Now I disagree mapundergroung, with the fact that women don't do nothing. I agree that these 6 pages are a bit exagerated. specially the every week part with flowers. The one with the 6 a.m. is ok, you can do it one time, without her knowing it and let yourself "caught" and if she says something , you respond: I was lookin for something >:P " always send mixed signals, women love that. If she say

reply12 / 30 / 2009

Please Please Please. Can someone explain to me how and why we need 6 pages of explainations of how to treat and pamper a woman? all you need is a couple sentences. Women are extremely selfish and only care about themselfs and what others think about them. A better idea is for you to write 6 pages about how women are abusing and using men like never before and how THEY should learn how to please us. because i know for sure my girlfriend would never ever even think about waking up at 6a.m. to do anything for me. They expect us to pamper and treat them like the gods they dont act like. If a woman gets pampered it should be because she has been a good partner and shows the same love and respect as you show her. But anyways. Times have changed women are controlling and more manipulative then one could ever imagine. This is not a corrupt or bi-est view. Im sure many will agree.

reply08 / 19 / 2009