You feel rejected and less than. You feel as if there issomething really wrong with you
. You wonder what you could doto
this person want you.
It’s frustrating if they are with a new person who doesn’t comeclose to being what you are.
You seethe because this new person isa snake in the grass and your ex doesn’t see it. This new person isimmature or unavailable or spoiled or just plain stupid. And your ex isenthralled none the less.
Or there is no one else and nothing else. This person just fell out of love one day. Or failed to fall in love on the day you did. That’s evenmore baffling. Wait. You’re choosing
Or your ex has spiraled into some other mindset. They’re depressed orupset or self-absorbed in some way.
Wouldn’t you want someone tohelp carry the burden
, you ask.The answer is
please leave me alone
.You’re freaking out. How is it that they want you to help by goingaway?
The first emotion is disbelief.
How can this be? How did I gethere?
How am I hurting over this person? Maybe your personality isdraining away…you used to be fun and helpful and have a great senseof humor. Now you’re plain and dull and you’re boring all your friendswith your sad refrain of unrequited love. Part of you refuses to believe it. It
be so. Something willchange. This is a phase. This is temporary.
I’ll just sit here and waitfor my love to smarten up and see the light. That is what I willdo.
Better yet, I will
things. I will call him or her or text him orher. We will get into a big emotional conversation and I will persuadethem that this is all
In the beginning it’s hardest to
do anything. You’re havingtrouble absorbing the news and the reality and before you feel thefeelings of that reality you’re going to do your damndest to make itdifferent or refuse to believe it.