"I never had any real friends." By his teens, he was "borrowing" his mother'sclothes in secret, by his 20s was taking "crazy cocktails" of antidepressants,and in the mid-1970s a psychologist he was referred to put him in crude grouptherapy.Identified as a transvestite (cross-dresser), he assumed the professional knewbest."That cost me 25 years of reality."Emma's experience gives the lie to common misconceptions and underlines thedifference between gender and sexuality.Her gender dysphasia was clearly hard-wired, nature not nurture."I never really got on with my mother and admired my father much more, soany? Nurture? Would have been in the opposite direction."Despite the macho trappings, such as the sports car, "girls treated me as if I was some strange creature without a sex."In my brain I was female, in my body I was a heterosexual male."I never had a homosexual relationship."Martin and Linda enjoyed a healthy sex life and marital happiness, yet fromMartin's point of view there always seemed to be "a lot missing". The couple lived in each other's pockets."We became like Darby and Joan in our early 30s," Linda says."Martin told me before we married that he liked to cross-dress. I was quiteinnocent, so it wasn't something I really liked but it was a part of Martin and I was in love."He would cross-dress in the privacy of their home, after asking for her consent,about once a month.She recognized that it served as stress release.By the late 1990s, Martin had set up his own IT consultancy and had alsotrained as a psychotherapist and counselor to help others in a similar positionto himself.In September 1998, a client he was counseling asked why he cross-dressed."It's right, natural? How things should be," Martin replied. Then the full impact of his explanation hit him under the ribs."I wanted to try and fight it and I did for a few months, but it was no good."What on earth was Linda going to say? We'd been together 20-odd years."I think I broke the news saying, I’ve got a horrible feeling I might betranssexual."Linda launched a last ditch attempt at denial. "I thought, It will blow over."And when it didn't?