mmgonsa

You have put into words something that was buzzing in my mind for a long time. I am a successful professional married to another successful professional. However, my husband appears much more pressed to give an image of success than I am, above all, in the financial aspect. It is like he has to prove to himself and to others that he is the major provider and that he is in charge. I try to understand his feelings but now, looking at him as a representative of a species on the verge of extinction I can appreciate and understand him much more. I am also the mother of a young male. He was raised to see women as equal to males. He has grown to appreciate a woman's intelligence, desire to achieve, and commitment to success. He also understands that being a male does not signify that he is devoid of feelings. Women can be role models not only for their daughters but also for their sons. I believe that the clue to the survival of the male is in the hands of the women that give birth and raise them. Our society should strengthen the role of mothering, helping women that educate themselves and achieve success in their professional lives to be also successful as mothers.

suzanner

I teach an all male class of at-risk 15 year olds. I guess even their gender is at risk -ironic, since most days, they think their 'macho' is the one thing they have for sure. I teach girls as well, and see many more of them over-achieving every day. It is a subject I discuss with both genders often. They view it as some sort of competition, not as evolutionary process.

helenwinslow

This fish needs her bicycle. Jed, thanks for throwing p.c. caution to the winds here. --It's a tough job but somebody's gotta do it! Thanks especially for #6 Being Male is Seen as Bad and #13 Fatherhood is On the Way Out.