The question made me reflect on my first experiences with “pornography.” I was 11 or so and beginning to feel the sexual juices flowing. They seemed to be on all the time and just about anything would set off an erection—a pretty girl sitting next to me in class, myteacher, Miss Carruthers, who everyone thought was sexy. A furry animal scurrying up atree.I knew there were sex magazines with pictures, but I had never seen one. Riding my bikehome one day, I found and old magazine in an empty lot. It turned out to be a “nature”magazine with pictures of nude men and women playing volleyball and generallywalking around as though being naked was the most natural thing in the world. To myhypersensitive, sexual brain, it was like being dosed with cocaine. I started to search for other images that would turn me on.Like many kids of this age, sex was new and we were mostly shy and too young to beable to get anything going with a real girl. As I grew up, had girlfriends, had sex, gotmarried, got divorced, got married again (does this sound familiar), the desire for pornslipped into the background.But with the advent of the internet it seems to be in our face in a big way. So why domen use porn? Based on my experiences as a therapist working with men and my ownlife experiences, here are the top 8 reasons.1.They enjoy sexual excitement and release and porn delivers.2.They like sexual variety and porn has an endless selection to choose from.3.In real life the sexual practices that men like might not be those that their partnerswould like to engage in. In the world of porn, our sex partner will do anything wewant them to do. And they will enjoy it. And they never get tired. And they arealways ready for more.4.The real world has a lot of stress and uncertainty. The world of porn is predictable and controllable.5.Even when our sexual partner is available and interested most of the time thereare always those times when we’re hot to trot but our partner is tired tonight. Aquick visit to the home office and a harem of available playmates awaits our commands.6.Though many have overcome the Madonna/Whore complex where we find itdifficult to get aroused with our motherly wives but go wild for the wantonwoman we work with, for many it’s still easier to have “regular sex” with our partner and let our minds run wild with the “bad” woman we fantasize abouthaving.7.In a world where we are all so busy with work, home, and family, a pornographicaffair may seem like some small comfort for those who are cut-off and lonely.8.“Instant gratification isn’t fast enough for me,” one client told me. In our speededup world where we want everything served up fast and hot, pornography may bethe perfect solution for our times.