Modern Latter-day Saints have been counseled by the Churchleaders to pray about those whom they marry. President Kimballgave this counsel:“In selecting a companion for life and for eternity, certainlythe most careful planning and thinking and praying andfasting should be done to be sure that of all the decisions,this one must not be wrong. … Emotions must not whollydetermine decisions, but the mind and the heart,strengthened by fasting and prayer and seriousconsideration, will give one a maximum chance of maritalhappiness.”
But, as a recent survey from Brigham Young Universityshows, the majority of Mormons reject this advice, with 78% of men and 71% of women not considering spiritual confirmation to bean important factor in deciding who to marry.
Considering the fact that to attend B.Y.U. a person must bein full standing with the Church and maintain certain moral andreligious standards, the number of Latter-day Saints in general who pray about who they will marry is probably much lower. But thisissue asks “what does God expect of us in selecting our spouses?”Over the years most of our issues have focused on topicsrelated to history and authority. Very little has been written on howthe Gospel relates to relationships, and nothing has been said aboutthe part human love plays in God’s plans. With this issue it is hopedthat balance will be redressed.This issue is dedicated to the spouses we have and the oneswe have yet to marry. May we always remain true to each other.
We float our hearts upon the water and see them floundering in the surgebut if they hold fast and do not falter into another’s heart they will merge And by this journey we are strengthened as along the way our weakness we meet for no other route can there be takento make our love last and be complete
1Spencer W. Kimball, “Oneness in Marriage,” Ensign, Mar. 1977, p. 3.2B.Y.U. Studies 46:3, “A Survey of Dating and Marriage”, 2007.