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Parents and Children - Al Balagh Foundation - XKP

Parents and Children - Al Balagh Foundation - XKP

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Published by islamicmobility
Topics like Child Wishes vs Father Wishes,

Among the Mistakes of the Parents

1 - Essential Differences

2- Determination and Strictness

3- Spying and Monitoring

4- Guardiahip and Protection

5- Independence and Separation

Points of Differences Between the Two Generatio

Parents and Educational Affairs of Children are discussed in this short book a must read!

IslamicMobility.com
Topics like Child Wishes vs Father Wishes,

Among the Mistakes of the Parents

1 - Essential Differences

2- Determination and Strictness

3- Spying and Monitoring

4- Guardiahip and Protection

5- Independence and Separation

Points of Differences Between the Two Generatio

Parents and Educational Affairs of Children are discussed in this short book a must read!

IslamicMobility.com

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Published by: islamicmobility on Feb 20, 2014
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Child's Wishes
I am hoping that my father will not interfere in my affairs…. I want himto give some kind of freedom to me.I hope he will discuss with me on some important issues…not commandme to do something with the sense of command…rather in a fatherlyand kindly manner.I hope he will remember his youth, while he is interrogating me or put-ting an eye on me.I hope he will respect me in front of my friends and mates, as I used torespect him in front of his friends and relatives.I hope he will understand that I have my condition and power, as he hashis own condition and power, so that he will forgive me of the uninten-tional mistake I made.I hope he will understand that I was created for a particular time, not histime; he should not make me his copy in everything.I hope he will be just between me and my other brothers.I hope he will take care of me, but without interfering in my personal af-fairs, he should be decisive to me without cruelty… he should be my ad-viser not my dictator… and that he should not regard my effort asnothing.
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Among the Mistakes of the Parents
It might be possible that some will put all the blame on the parents alone, because of the fact that they have much experience in life and that theywere expected to be forgiven and possess a wider heart and mind.Based on these, we will not forgive children, upholding blames on them,when they go against the advice of their parents, especially if they knowthat they are not suppose to do what they did.However, because the responsibilities of parents are great, we will lookinto the mistakes of parents, which if it is treated well, the gap betweenchildren and parents will be filled.Some parents treat their children very harshly, the way they were treated by their parents as if they inherited this harshness. Here we are not goingto discuss this matter and study the effect of our relationships for the fu-ture of the family's relationship. Rather, we want to tell these parents,who are fond of dealing with such negative relationships that: Remem- ber the effect and your hatred of the harsh treatment your parents usedon you? How can a father, who lived in such a harsh condition and treat-ment, feel good to see his son in such a situation?Is it good for a father to always shout and beat his children for a minormistake, and to be talking in a wild and horrible voice in the house as if he is a small executioner?It is narrated that one day the governor of a province visited one of thecaliphs and found him playing with his child. The child was climbing upthe back of his father, the caliph. The governor was surprised at what hesaw, to the extent that he couldn't hide his surprise, so, he asked the ca-liph: "Why are you doing so, Oh my lord?!"Then, the caliph asked him, knowing that the governor was not treatinghis children in like manner, "How are you treating your children, mydear?" The governor answered: "If I enter my house, the one standingwill sit down and the one talking will keep quiet." Then, the caliph said:"You are not illegible to be a governor, because by these actions, you arehurting your subjects."
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