It takes a great deal of courage to listen as fate slowly and painfully reveals thebitter truths in asking for change. I fought fate at every corner, determinate to make mymarriage last. After three years, five months and two days I surrendered. The relationshiphas exhausted its limitations as signs of old age signal death.My final decision to ask for a divorce came ironically, after a heart to heart with mygrandmother who has been married for over forty years. She said to me that everythingends badly, otherwise it wouldn’t end. People drift apart as easily and naturally as theycome together. I know now my belief that once two people have come together, they shouldnever part was as unrealistic as it was naive.While endings are painful, they offer an invaluable introduction to a new level of experience. “ If we resist the pain of ending, we skirt around the opportunity for initiation.If we embrace the pain, not only do we find a beginning that is not simply a repetition of the experience we had in the former relationship, we may also find the consolation of knowing that in a mysterious way, effected by fate instead of human intention, therelationship has been fulfilled.” In life this relationship is considered a failure, but to thesoul it is a successful celebration.The ending of a relationship is a time of difficult emotion, challenging fantasy, anddangerous vulnerability. It is a crucial moment when we are faced with the opportunity toexplore a new level of openness or alternatively retreat into some unyielding state. If welook beyond our need for personal protection, we might very well find a door opening us upto promising new world.