process, whereby sins could dissipate and wea%nesses could be transformed into strengths.;owever, when it came to my sexuality, ) had no idea how this was going to change. )n fact, ) didn<t really thin% there was a possibility of changing my sexual desires. ) made a commitment to celibacy, choosing to live with these same-sex desires the rest of my life. ) was not connected with ministries helping individuals transition out of homosexuality, and going to counseling was a scary prospect. 6o ) focused my energies on growing in my relationship with #hrist. od had specific plans for me. ;e brought men into my life that loved me and modeled for me what it meant to be both godly and intimate, without any hint of homosexuality. &hrough my close relationships with these men over a period of ten years, od brought up the unresolved issues in me that needed to be addressed. =lthough there was no ministry around at that time to aid me in my journey, od did the same wor% in my life through relationships, a process analogous to many ex-gay ministries today. &he "ody of #hrist became the instrument for healing in my life. &he result was a complete change in my sexual desires from homosexuality to heterosexuality. &oday ) am married and have two sons.>or the #hurch to ma%e a decision to bless same-sex unions or ordain practicing homosexuals is to communicate to me, and individuals li%e me, that the transformation in my life did not happen and that ) am obviously in an unhealthy state of denial. =s ) mentioned above, ) did not even %now that it would be possible to change my sexual orientation, but od transformed even this area of my life2&o allow for same-sex unions and ordination of practicing homosexuals in the #hurch is to prevent the opportunity for individuals to even consider that a change is possible. ) was an outcast once because ) had homosexual desires. )f the church changes its standards, ) would return to being an outcast in the #hurch again because my experience would be invalidated. We need to turn to the truth of 6cripture and believe that ?With od, all things are possible? 8atthew 530A. :et us %eep our hope in od alone and remain faithful to what ;e has made clear in 6cripture in regards to sexuality.
Brad Grammer is director of an Exodus referral ministry in Indianapolis and a member of the OneByOne Speakers Bureau.
Testimony - KyeKye!s "tory
) have been a #hristian all my lifeDthatEs 0 years. 6ince ) believe 6cripture, ) %now that homosexuality is sin. Fou may be wondering, ?;ow does a #hristian end up gay(? )Eve wrestled with that question most of my life. &here are