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“The Book Of Marriage”

“The Book Of Marriage”

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“The Book Of Marriage”
“The Book Of Marriage”

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http://www.abukhadeejah.com/shaikh-fawzaan-the-book-of-marriage-from-buloogh-al-maraam-when-one-of-you-proposes-for-marriage-look-at-her/By Abu Khadeejah Abdul-Wahid
Shaikh Fawzaan: “The Book Of Marriage”, from Buloogh al-Maraam: When one of you proposes for marriage, look at her..
In the name of Allaah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy.Title:
 (The Book of Marriage) from Shaikh Saalih al-Fawzaan’s explanation of
Bulooghal-Maraam min Adillatil-Ahkaam
 of Al-Haafidh Ahmad Ibn `Alee Ibn Hajr al-Asqalaanee (Born 773H, Died852H). Shaikh Al-Fawzaan’s tremendous explanation is entitled
Tas-heel al-Ilmaam bi-fiqhil-Ahaadeeth minBulooghil-Maraam
and is printed in seven volumes. The following is a translation of this important and veryenlightening chapter, adapted in places for brevity and simplicity. The following is from volume 4.
Al-Haafidh Ibn Hajr (rahimahullaah) said:
974. Narrated Jaabir (radiyallaahu `anhu) who said that Alaah’s Messenger (salallaahu `alaihi wassallam)said:
“When one of you proposes to a woman for marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so.”
Reported by Ahmad, Abu Dawood, and all the narrators in the chain are trustworthy. Al-Haakim graded it asSaheeh. [1]975. The narration also has support with what is narrated by at-Tirmidhee and an-Nasaa’ee from al-Mugheerah. [2]976. Also reported by Ibn Maajah and Ibn Hibbaan from the hadeeth of Muhammad Ibn Maslamah. [3]
Shaikh Saalih al-Fawzaan (hafidhahullaah) said:Explanation:
This hadeeth proves that is permitted in the Sharee`ah to look at the one proposed to. So if a personintends to marry a woman, and desires to marry her regardless of whether he has already proposed to her or not; then it is recommended that he looks at her – towards that which will induce him and place in him adesire for her, so that he becomes well-acquainted with the one he is about to marry – and so that he isnot ignorant concerning her. And as a result of that, there is a distancing from living in an unhappy marriageand in disharmony. So if he sees her, and he is acquainted with her, then this leads to harmony between thetwo of them, and removes risk, and removes the ignorance concerning her appearance. And for this reasonthere occurs in another hadeeth:
“For indeed, that is more suitable so that there is harmony between the two of you.”
Meaning: that by doing so, you will attain harmony and agreement because you took her whilst you knewher. You know her beauty or unsightliness. You know the fullness of her body or its slenderness.So this is a proof that there is no problem in looking at the one being proposed to, rather it is somethingrecommended. However this looking should be towards her face and hands. This is because the faceshows you her beauty, and her hands show you the fullness of her body or its slenderness. And it sufficesthat one looks at these places, and not to increase upon that. And this is done in the presence of her Waliyy (father or appointed guardian). Or that he hides himself from her in a place, and snatches looks ather just as Jaabir (radiyallaahu `anhu) did, as occurs in a narration [see: Abu Daawood, no. 2082]. And asfor being secluded and alone with her, then that is forbidden, and traveling with her, then that is evenworse. It is not permitted for a man to be secluded with a strange woman due to the saying of the Prophet(salallaahu `alaihi wassallam):
“There is not a man who is alone with a woman except that Shaytaan is the third amongst them.” 
[Reported by at-Tirmidhee, no. 2165; an-Nasaa'ee in al-Kubraa, no. 9219]This hadeeth proves that the origin of the affair is that it is forbidden to look at strange or unrelatedwomen – and that is because the Prophet (salallaahu `alaihi wassallam) only made the allowance for theone proposing for marriage. So this proves that the origin is that it is prohibited due to the tribulations andtemptations it leads to. Allaah, the Most High, said:
Tell the believing men to lower their gazes and guard their private parts. That is purer for them.Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gazes and guard their private parts..
[an-Noor 30-31]So this is an important matter and a rebuttal of those who say: “The woman is a human being, so why doesshe have to wear this hijaab.” They mock and say: She is like a walking tent; following worn-out andoutdated practices; this behaviour is restrictive upon the woman; this code of conduct [in Islaam] isbecause of evil suspicions [Muslims have] towards women, and other similar statements of disbelief (kufr) – and Allaah’s refuge is sought. And they desire, by making these statements, that the woman should befree to do as she pleases.Rather, a person does not have the freedom to do as he pleases in matters that have been prohibited by Allaah – or to do that which entails falsehood and Shirk. He does not have the freedom to oppose theSharee`ah of Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic. For each person is a servant of his Creator, and he is obligedto restrict himself to the Sharee`ah of Allaah, the Most Perfect, the Most High. A human has been created by Allaah as a slave. So either he is a slave to Allaah, or he is a slave to theShaytaan. So if he restricts himself to the Sharee`ah of Allaah and His Religion, then he is a slave of Allaah[his Lord and Creator] – and if he exits the Sharee`ah of Allaah and his Religion, and calls to “freedom” todo as one pleases, then he is a slave to the Shaytaan. Al-`Allaamah Ibnul-Qayyim (rahimahullaah) said:

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