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Kept Up in the Pit

Kept Up in the Pit

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To all those who, for one reason or another, are in a pit and being kept up in that pit I have come to offer you a choice. You have the choice of being kept up in the pit or taking a way out of the pit. It would seem like an easy choice. A way out of the pit would seem preferable to being kept up in the pit. The problem is that many have become satisfied in that pit and have made themselves at home there. They have settled because they wouldn’t know what to do if they were suddenly set free from the pit they have become accustomed to. In the first chapter we will discuss the pit. We will discuss where the idea of being kept up in the pit came from. We will talk about the mindset of enablers who see to it that those who are in the pit are kept up there. They provide them with whatever they need that takes away their will to come up out of the pit. There are violent husbands, threatening wives with bodily harm or worse. They spend years demoralizing their wives, taking away their support system, self-worth and esteem. Wives stay because they are afraid to leave. They are unable to take care of themselves financially, they have been separated from family and a support group. They are being kept up in the pit. The husband thinks that he is keeping them safe from the consequences of a break up such as homelessness, the welfare of the children, the shame of a break-up, etc. It becomes a matter of intent vs. consequences. They cannot come to a reconciliation because the husband is focused on his intentions while the wife is focused on the consequences. Therefore they have two different conversations going in two different directions. I realized this reading an article entitled, “Damage Control” by Peter Bregman from a Harvard Business Review in the Reader’s Digest . The price, however, is too high because it is not the thought that counts or the action because the offended person doesn’t experience the thought or action, they experience the consequences.
Being kept up in the pit has such far reaching and profound implications that are seen in politics churches, business, etc. It is seen in politics where politicians do the will of the big money contributors rather than their constituency who is being kept up in the pit. There are churches where those who contribute large amounts of money in the church get special privileges or threaten to withhold their finances and cripple the church; and don't talk about the "family churches" where the family members hold all the paid fiduciary positions in the church. Many are working on jobs where they are under-appreciated and underpaid in just about every facet of life. This phenomenon was set in good intentions that were twisted just like a lie that came out of a truth that was twisted. When you twist anything you change its original intent. When you twist good far enough you get evil, the intent is profoundly changed. In the movie, “The Karate Kid” with Jackie Chan, Jackie (Mr. Hahn), trains Jaden Smith (Sha Dre', Chinese for “Little Dre”) for a tournament so that he could fight some boys who have been bullying him. He finally gives him a day off from training and tells him not to come for training tomorrow. When the boy inquires why, Mr. Hahn tells him, “Woo Gee Be Faun.” It means, “Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. ” Of course it is not spelled correctly, but it sounds the way it’s spelled (phonetically). Even a good thing when it is twisted can become a bad thing. As we approach the first chapter that deals with the pit, start thinking about your future. It has been said that "the future is unborn, the past is dead and gone. It has no claim on us. There is only the here and now. We are the masters of this moment. " Would you want to continue to settle for this financial pit you are in, or this loveless marital pit you are in? Would you stay in a church just because your family has been there for 50, 60, or 70 years when you are starving for a chu
To all those who, for one reason or another, are in a pit and being kept up in that pit I have come to offer you a choice. You have the choice of being kept up in the pit or taking a way out of the pit. It would seem like an easy choice. A way out of the pit would seem preferable to being kept up in the pit. The problem is that many have become satisfied in that pit and have made themselves at home there. They have settled because they wouldn’t know what to do if they were suddenly set free from the pit they have become accustomed to. In the first chapter we will discuss the pit. We will discuss where the idea of being kept up in the pit came from. We will talk about the mindset of enablers who see to it that those who are in the pit are kept up there. They provide them with whatever they need that takes away their will to come up out of the pit. There are violent husbands, threatening wives with bodily harm or worse. They spend years demoralizing their wives, taking away their support system, self-worth and esteem. Wives stay because they are afraid to leave. They are unable to take care of themselves financially, they have been separated from family and a support group. They are being kept up in the pit. The husband thinks that he is keeping them safe from the consequences of a break up such as homelessness, the welfare of the children, the shame of a break-up, etc. It becomes a matter of intent vs. consequences. They cannot come to a reconciliation because the husband is focused on his intentions while the wife is focused on the consequences. Therefore they have two different conversations going in two different directions. I realized this reading an article entitled, “Damage Control” by Peter Bregman from a Harvard Business Review in the Reader’s Digest . The price, however, is too high because it is not the thought that counts or the action because the offended person doesn’t experience the thought or action, they experience the consequences.
Being kept up in the pit has such far reaching and profound implications that are seen in politics churches, business, etc. It is seen in politics where politicians do the will of the big money contributors rather than their constituency who is being kept up in the pit. There are churches where those who contribute large amounts of money in the church get special privileges or threaten to withhold their finances and cripple the church; and don't talk about the "family churches" where the family members hold all the paid fiduciary positions in the church. Many are working on jobs where they are under-appreciated and underpaid in just about every facet of life. This phenomenon was set in good intentions that were twisted just like a lie that came out of a truth that was twisted. When you twist anything you change its original intent. When you twist good far enough you get evil, the intent is profoundly changed. In the movie, “The Karate Kid” with Jackie Chan, Jackie (Mr. Hahn), trains Jaden Smith (Sha Dre', Chinese for “Little Dre”) for a tournament so that he could fight some boys who have been bullying him. He finally gives him a day off from training and tells him not to come for training tomorrow. When the boy inquires why, Mr. Hahn tells him, “Woo Gee Be Faun.” It means, “Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. ” Of course it is not spelled correctly, but it sounds the way it’s spelled (phonetically). Even a good thing when it is twisted can become a bad thing. As we approach the first chapter that deals with the pit, start thinking about your future. It has been said that "the future is unborn, the past is dead and gone. It has no claim on us. There is only the here and now. We are the masters of this moment. " Would you want to continue to settle for this financial pit you are in, or this loveless marital pit you are in? Would you stay in a church just because your family has been there for 50, 60, or 70 years when you are starving for a chu

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