I have made some decisions regarding my health, my business and myrelationships
We celebarated 10 years of marriage
I read at least 20 life changing/inspirational booksSo I have acheived loads..unfortunately we are not brought up to say “Well doneme” to blow our own trumpet, to praise ourselves and celebrate when we aregreat…as Joseph McClendon tells to say…You Freakin Rock!
What changed for me
Sometime I really don’t believe that I am a confident person, but I try not to letthat stop me moving myself through the pain barrier and doing what needs to bedone to connect with the right sort of people.A few years ago a went on a NLP workshop (Neuro linguistic programming – basically analysising what beliefs that you have about yourself and dealing withthem)A few strange things happened:There were 10 people attending the course and we shook hands & said Hi asyou do. As we (me & my husband Ian) shook hands with a guy he said “Hi IanGoddard” WOW out of 10 people what are the odds that someone there shouldhave the same name as my husband!!Over lunch at the pub we discovered that not only did the Ians have the samename (middle names as well!!) they also had the same birthday..spooky.Joking I said to one of the girls “bet you don’t have the same maiden name asme though ..Pease” to which fell a horrid silence, “No” she replied, ”but mymothers maiden name is!!” Oh my God I can not tell you how freaked out I was,tingles down the spine.Anyway back to confidence..at this workshop you had to share an issue with thegroup that was bothering you. I shared that I had no confidence, I thought thatno-one ever remembered who I was and that I was quite insignificant. The groupwere amazed and shared with me the actual persona that I give off (unbeknownto me!) Apparently when I walked in to the room I walked in confidently, giving anair of knowing but approachable, they all said that I was definitely memorableand they completely broke down the “idea” that
of myself. This was arevelation to say the least.Since then, although I do still have the odd panic of insecurity, I do feel moreconfident, more able to hold my head up and say “here I am”. I also use a fewlittle tricks that may help you too:-