- http://thenationonlineng.net/web2Fathers ought to protect their childrenhttp://thenationonlineng.net/web2/articles/21338/1/Fathers-ought-to-protect-their-children/Page1.htmlBy Olufemi FasanyaPublished on 10/10/2009
Recently, I had a burden in my heart on the issue of abuse by fathers against their children. This burdenwas ignited by the incest case involving Josef Fritzl; a man who was charged with abusing a familymember.
Recently, I had a burden in my heart on the issue of abuse by fathers against theirchildren. This burden was ignited by the incest case involving Josef Fritzl; a man whowas charged with abusing a family member. He had locked up his daughter for 24years, had forced sexual intercourse with her and had seven children out of thatrelationship. When I heard the report on CNN, it got me thinking.Late last year, in one of the social networks I joined on the internet, a lady askedthose who joined the network to give her advice on what to do. She wrote that herfather had been having sexual intercourse with her since she was a teenager. BeforeI could respond to it, the network had taken off the question from its site. Josef Fritzl’s case does not show that incestuous sexual relationship between a fatherand his child(ren) is only a foreign problem. The lady that asked for help on the socialnetwork is a Nigerian. I have read in some of the Nigerian newspapers shockingstories of fathers abusing their daughters. It is therefore out of concern for the familythat I am writing this. Though abuse may take varying forms, I consider sexual abuse by far the worse,especially when it comes from someone who should be your protector - one’s father.No child who has ever been abused gets over it without what I call 'divine' help. Thequestion that needs to be answered is: why do some fathers abuse their child(ren)?I have discovered an important reason for that: Perverted lifestyle - Years ago, Iwrote inspiring words and mailed them to people on my mailing list. I got the emailaddresses from friends and extracted some of them from email sent to me. I wasdoing this for some years when I got a reply from one of those that had been gettingmails from me, saying he was gay. I responded by telling him that I was not gay butwe could be friends if he wanted. So, I gave him my home address and asked him tocome visiting. It was when he came visiting the second time that I discovered that hewanted to make a gay out of me. So, that put an end to that relationship. Years later,I have appreciated the fact that I did not give in to him. Today, I have two children -both boys. If I had given in to that perverted act, my children would not be safe withme. There are certain perverted acts that some fathers have gotten involved in in theway they treat their own children that later boomerang. Some have molestedchildren when they were much younger; some have been involved in masturbation (Ihave read reports that masturbation can be healthy, but I really do not accept that)