- http://thenationonlineng.net/web2How fathers can know when their children are having a challengehttp://thenationonlineng.net/web2/articles/19724/1/How-fathers-can-know-when-their-children-are-having-a-challenge/Page1.htmlBy Olufemi FasanyaPublished on 26/09/2009
Last year, my son moved from nursery one to two; he is a young lad who is full of life. The best way todescribe him is the word ‘hyper active.’ I jokingly tell people that I need someone who can take him off myhand two hours every day. He is one guy that rarely falls ill, so if you see him keeping quiet, it is easy toconclude that something has gone out of place in his life.
Last year, my son moved from nursery one to two; he is a young lad who is full of life. The best way to describe him is the word ‘hyper active.’ I jokingly tell people that Ineed someone who can take him off my hand two hours every day. He is one guythat rarely falls ill, so if you see him keeping quiet, it is easy to conclude thatsomething has gone out of place in his life. The same year, he fell at school and I was called to come and pick him up because hewas down. I had to rush down because since he was born five years ago, I can countthe number of times he has been down with sickness. It was when I got to his schoolthat I was told he climbed one of the swings and had fall down. When I took himhome, he was his active self again.When he changed class, I noticed after a period of time that he was not excited aboutgoing to school like in the past. Here is a lad who, if you had earlier told him that itwas school time, he would be excited. But during a period last year, he just seemedto hate school and I had to force him down there. So, I sat him down to find out fromhim what caused his change of attitude to school and I discovered that his new classteacher does not have the kind of patience the other ones that taught him earlierhad. A child’s parent in the same class with him (my son) eventually reported her(the teacher), and she was changed. Guess what! The same lad I had to practicallycoerce to go to school got excited again.So, children have a way of passing information to their parents when they are goingthrough challenges. However, it is only a few parents who are discerning enough toknow the changes in the lives of their children. Children who are abused passmessages to their parents indirectly about their abuser; just like my son passedinformation to me that his school was not as exciting as in time past because of theway his new class teacher was treating him and his class mates.
One advantage that people who abuse children have is that the parents of the children they molest are too busy to develop relationship with theirown children.
They are rarely around, and when they are, they never seem to havetime to get to know how they (their children) feel. Ask any parentswhose children have been abused; they will tell you that they noticethat the attitude of their children changed but they simply ignored ituntil the shocking revelation of the abuse hits them after they