Being able to recognize an opportunity toempower a child takes awareness. I believe par-ents need to decide to make every interaction asimportant and powerful as possible. Children sodeeply want, need, and wish to feel fully sup-ported here on earth—and it’s up to you to real-ize that you are the perfect person in the perfectplace at the perfect moment to do it.Learning to empower children isn’t compli-cated. It really takes the same effort you apply toany goal with enthusiasm, dedication, and a will-ingness to “set aside” your own ego, emotions,and limited thinking.Achild so wholeheartedlywants to believe that his or her dreams can cometrue, so it is up to us, the adults, to support thisnotion (whether it makes sense to us or not!).Like little Joe, age three, who told me he isgoing to be a spaceship repairman. I said, “GOFOR IT.”As you gather your emotional and mentalforces to focus upon empowering your child orchildren, there are two techniques that can helpyou consciously empower them. They are:•
– It is the process of serving asthe reflection of a child’s abilities, skills, andqualities, so they begin to “see” themselves asthey really are—highly valuable, talented, andcapable right now.Owen’s father (from above) mirrored toOwen his creative strengths. The effect wasnearly immediate as you could see Owen feelingmore positive and confident.•
– It is the act of literally“putting in courage” or belief in your child.Such support enables them to “see” themselvesas they are—skilled, competent, and able
.Madeline, age six, recently had her trainingwheels taken off. She was excited and terrified.Her mom, Sam, came to her side and said, “Youcan do it! I believe in you,” and with a littlepush, she did it! Such words of encouragementmade all the difference.Encouragement and mirroring may seemextremely simple to you. I agree. I also believethat many things
simple, but not alwayseasy. For example, riding 100 miles on yourbicycle is conceptually easy, but the practicebecomes a whole lot harder.
Words have power. Selecting just the rightwords and saying them to your child with mean-ing and enthusiasm can fuel his or her best life.Mother Teresa captured this sentiment when shesaid, “Kind words are short and easy to speak,but their echoes are truly endless.” I know thisto be true.One event stands out in my mind. In 1998, Iwas at a fancy dinner with my father, overlook-ing the Grand Canyon. He leaned over the tableand said, “You are my
accomplish-ment!” I was surprised and delighted. He passedon later that year, but his words still sing inmy soul.Children are the same. They listen with theirminds and hearts to every word their parents,caregivers, teachers, and friends say. Words shapetheir world.
Selecting just the right words and saying them to your child has the power tostrengthen them
, and in today’s world, every childneeds to be strong from the inside out.More specifically, I believe words spoken withthe intention to instill a greater level of confi-dence, courage, self-trust, optimism, and connec-tion are essential words of empowerment.And tohelp you, the interested adult, I have included mydefinition of such inner qualities along with sam-ple sayings below to get you started.
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