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Love Systems Insider
Date: April 2009
In this issue...
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  The truth about dating younger women
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 Let's hear from the Sheriff 
1. The truth about dating younger women
If you are in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or even beyond, and you want to be with hot younger women,this is for you...(This is also for you if you ever date women who are “different” from you... this LSi is focusedon age differences, but many of the techniques can be translated for dating across cultures, borders, language, and so on.)Far too many men think that you have to be rich, famous, or have the moves of a professionally-trained Love Systems lead instructor to date young, beautiful women.This is a MYTH.It comes from older women (or younger men) who don’t want the competition. And it comesfrom some older guys themselves. Sometimes it’s just easier to give up on your goals becausethey are “impossible” than it is to pursue them.In other words, it can be tough knowing that there are guys who are no better than you havingthe time of their lives and dating young, beautiful women...... and not just for looks, either.It’s not politically correct to say this, but as someone who prefers to date younger womenmyself, I prefer to date women who have less baggage, less cynicism, and more love of life andadventure. Some single older women can come off jaded...
 
So, I’m going to share some powerful techniques – right here.
 LOVE SYSTEMS TIP #1: Don’t force yourself into her world 
About a year ago, I was leading a Love Systems bootcampin New York. Bootcamps usually have 8-10 guys (and 3-5 instructors), and one of the students was a recently divorced man in hislate 40s I’ll call “Brian.”Brian didn’t want to settle for the divorcee circuit, full of endless dinner dates with women hisage complaining about their ex-husbands. He even told me about one date when the woman toldhim it annoyed her when her ex-husband wanted sex because “sex is for teenagers.”Brian wanted to date young, beautiful, fun women, but had mostly given up. He told me hisLove Systems bootcampwas his “last chance.”Talk about pressure!Anyway, we weren’t going to let him settle. And some of his problems were obvious. He wasgoing to the 20-something clubs, wearing 20-something clothes, talking in slightly out-of-dateTV slang. Women avoided him.Brian was making the classic mistake that generals and leaders have made throughout history – he was fighting on the enemy’s turf.Brian’s competition is mostly the young, trendy guys women will see in class or in entry-level jobs every day. And Brian was assuming that he had to beat them at their game – be just asyoung, energetic, cool, and trendy as them.Wrong.Look at it this way. If Bill Gates and I wanted the same woman, I’d ask him to pay me off youcan be damn sure that I’d change the subject every time “computers” or “having trillions of dollars lying around” came up. I’m not going to fight him on his turf.
 
The same thing goes for Brian. The women he likes are around young, trendy guys all the time.The road Brian was on, he would at best become a competent imitator, but always inferior to thereal thing.So, we flipped the script.
 LOVE SYSTEMS TIP #2: Flip the script 
We changed Brian’s basic strategy. Instead of talking about MySpace and Tila Tequila, Briantalked about travel, art, and adventure.Instead of letting him wear clothes too young for him, we put him in a suit. He radiated power and confidence. These are powerful aphrodisiacs, especially in older men.And instead of trying to order Jaeger shots over blaring music, we took him to lounges and wine bars where his class and sophistication could show through.(And where, if anything, the quality of younger women was even higher...) Now we’re fighting on HIS turf. He’s competing based on sophistication, class, power andstatus. In other words, his strengths.It doesn’t guarantee success, of course. There’s no point competing on a strength that womendon’t care about. And some women ONLY want a guy who fits in at raves and keg parties.Dismiss those.Most women want a combination of things. So, pick a couple of your strengths and go withthose. This is all part of  building an identity.  (Magic Bulletsreveals the secret eight things that beautiful women the world over wantin a man and how to convey these to her right away. If you don’t have Magic Bulletsyet, stop here and at leastdownload the free chapters. I promise you’ll be blown away).Back to Brian. We go out two nights (and have three days of seminar instruction and exercises)as part of our  comprehensive bootcampevery weekend. On the second night, Brian got three
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