In 1952, Philomena Lee became pregnant out of wedlock in Ireland and was sent to a convent, where she gave birth. Her son was adopted by an American family, despite her objections. After decades of secrecy, she revealed the story to her daughter and sought help finding her son. Unfortunately, he had passed away without knowing his birth mother searched for him. Her story was made into a film starring Judi Dench.
In 1952, Philomena Lee became pregnant out of wedlock in Ireland and was sent to a convent, where she gave birth. Her son was adopted by an American family, despite her objections. After decades of secrecy, she revealed the story to her daughter and sought help finding her son. Unfortunately, he had passed away without knowing his birth mother searched for him. Her story was made into a film starring Judi Dench.
In 1952, Philomena Lee became pregnant out of wedlock in Ireland and was sent to a convent, where she gave birth. Her son was adopted by an American family, despite her objections. After decades of secrecy, she revealed the story to her daughter and sought help finding her son. Unfortunately, he had passed away without knowing his birth mother searched for him. Her story was made into a film starring Judi Dench.
for adoption. The story of her search for him is told in a moving new lm INTERVIEW: PHILOMENA LEE Interview by LUCY COLLINS Photography LOUISE HAYWOOD-SCHIEFER C hristmas bundles from Ireland, reads the newspaper caption accompanying the family photograph. A beaming couple and their clean- scrubbed sons gaze at the small children they have adopted, Mary, two, and Michael, three. The scene at Chicago airport marks their homecoming, but the childrens apprehensive stares belie the happy occasion. The picture captures the start of their new life, far from their grieving mothers left behind in County Tipperary. The cutting is preserved in a photo album belonging to Michaels mother, Philomena Lee. Her quest to nd her son, with the help of journalist Martin Sixsmith, has been turned into a lm starring Steve Coogan and Judi Dench. In person, Philomena is far from the naive, homely Irishwoman portrayed by Judi Dench; she is warm, intelligent and brimming with humour. However, she accepts that artistic licence has been used in the storytelling and likes the lm. Besides, Dame Judi is tipped for an Oscar. I know! My goodness! says Philomena. Little old me getting Judi Dench to play me. I couldnt have wished for anyone better. We meet in a St Albans pub, accompanied by her daughter Jane Libberton, and she tells me the sorrowful tale of a life shaped by secrets and shame. Philomena, now , became pregnant out of wedlock when she was . I was Michael's arrival in Chicago was reported in the media Secrets, SHAME and a love denied WI Life November & December 2013 17 a dumb-cluck, I didnt know what pregnancy was and my father disowned me. She was packed o to Roscrea convent to give birth and her ve siblings were told she had run away. The shame instilled in her was so great that Philomena believed Anthonys dicult breech birth in July 1952 (he was renamed Michael by his adoptive parents) was punishment for her sins. Her penance for being taken in by the nuns was three years work in the convent laundry and signing away all rights to her son, who she saw for an hour a day. Like the other girls, Philomena was stripped of her identity and assigned a new name: she became Marcella. She says: We were made to feel so guilty: youre continually praying because you committed a great sin by having this baby. Anthony was adopted by the Hesses, wealthy American Catholics who had three sons and longed for a daughter. Mrs Hess ew in from St Louis and chose Mary but was so taken with Anthony that she took him home, too, after paying an adoption fee of $1,000-$3,000 to the convent. Martin Sixsmith, who wrote the book The Lost Child of Philomena Lee: A Mother, Her Son, and a Fifty-Year Search, likens the payment to an illicit baby trade. Philomena says: For a fortnight after he went I was blubbering. I used to be told to shut up and dont be so stupid and stop your nonsense. The nuns werent physically cruel but they were mentally cruel. The last Philomena saw of her son was him waving to her from the back seat of the car as it pulled away. I loved him from the minute I saw him, she says. I used to sing the little Irish ditties to him and throw him up in the air and catch him. I thought that eventually Id be able to go out and get a job and take him with me but that wasnt allowed. Did she never think about running away? Oh I did, many of us did, but where could I go? My father wouldnt have me. I had nowhere to go, no money, nothing. Philomena was eventually allowed to leave the convent and moved to England, where she worked as a psychiatric nurse and married. She had a daughter, Jane, and a son, Kevin. It is thanks to a kindly young nun, Sister Annunciata, that Philomena has photographs of Anthony. Every time shed get a chance shed sneak a photograph and I kept that little album without telling anyone for 50 years. When she broke her silence in 2002 and told Jane about Anthonys existence, Jane immediately realised who the boy in the photos was. She says: Theyd been in our family album for years and, as a child, when I asked, mum said it was her cousins son. Fear kept Philomena from telling the truth. The shame was instilled in you so much, she says, twisting the Gaelic-inscribed ring of Anthonys she wears, the thing that worried me was that my family would disown me and I loved them to bits. But Jane was so lovely. She threw her arms around me when I told her and said mum, hes my brother. Jane enlisted the help of Martin Sixsmith to help nd Anthony. He learned that Anthony was a handsome high yer who had worked as chief legal counsel to former US president George Bush Snr. He had longed to nd his birth mother and had made two pilgrimages to Roscrea, but the nuns had refused to release any information. As these scenes unfold in the lm, anticipation of a happy ending builds, but it is not to be. Michael died of Aids aged 43 without meeting Philomena or knowing that she was searching for him. Anthony died thinking Id abandoned him at two weeks old. Thats what he was told; thats what creased me, says Philomena. Unbeknown to her, he had been buried in the Roscrea graveyard after bequeathing the convent a generous legacy. It had been his dying wish. Despite the role of the church in the original adoption and its determination to obstruct the search the nuns knew Michael and Philomena were seeking one other but refused tell either of them, much less help Philomena harbours no resentment. I didnt want the lm to be hammering the church, she says, and it doesnt. It was a long time ago: you forgive, not forget. I love life, I couldnt go through my life being miserable and they were the times. It was the 1950s; you cant put todays values on it. While the lm tells the tale of a mothers love for her lost son, another story has emerged: that of a daughters love for her mother. Jane says: Whereas in England at 18 you can nd out information about your birth parents, in Ireland they tell you nothing. We hope the story helps people. Im not sure its going to change the law but it will certainly make them think about it. Philomena (12A) is on general release The nuns werent physically cruel but they were mentally cruel Anthony on the steps of the convent (left) and in adult life as a successful lawyer Philomena with daughter, Jane who encouraged her mother to search for Anthony NOV/DEC CELEB INTERVIEW Philomena.indd 2 01/11/2013 12:48 WI Life November & December 2013 17 a dumb-cluck, I didnt know what pregnancy was and my father disowned me. She was packed o to Roscrea convent to give birth and her ve siblings were told she had run away. The shame instilled in her was so great that Philomena believed Anthonys dicult breech birth in July 1952 (he was renamed Michael by his adoptive parents) was punishment for her sins. Her penance for being taken in by the nuns was three years work in the convent laundry and signing away all rights to her son, who she saw for an hour a day. Like the other girls, Philomena was stripped of her identity and assigned a new name: she became Marcella. She says: We were made to feel so guilty: youre continually praying because you committed a great sin by having this baby. Anthony was adopted by the Hesses, wealthy American Catholics who had three sons and longed for a daughter. Mrs Hess ew in from St Louis and chose Mary but was so taken with Anthony that she took him home, too, after paying an adoption fee of $1,000-$3,000 to the convent. Martin Sixsmith, who wrote the book The Lost Child of Philomena Lee: A Mother, Her Son, and a Fifty-Year Search, likens the payment to an illicit baby trade. Philomena says: For a fortnight after he went I was blubbering. I used to be told to shut up and dont be so stupid and stop your nonsense. The nuns werent physically cruel but they were mentally cruel. The last Philomena saw of her son was him waving to her from the back seat of the car as it pulled away. I loved him from the minute I saw him, she says. I used to sing the little Irish ditties to him and throw him up in the air and catch him. I thought that eventually Id be able to go out and get a job and take him with me but that wasnt allowed. Did she never think about running away? Oh I did, many of us did, but where could I go? My father wouldnt have me. I had nowhere to go, no money, nothing. Philomena was eventually allowed to leave the convent and moved to England, where she worked as a psychiatric nurse and married. She had a daughter, Jane, and a son, Kevin. It is thanks to a kindly young nun, Sister Annunciata, that Philomena has photographs of Anthony. Every time shed get a chance shed sneak a photograph and I kept that little album without telling anyone for 50 years. When she broke her silence in 2002 and told Jane about Anthonys existence, Jane immediately realised who the boy in the photos was. She says: Theyd been in our family album for years and, as a child, when I asked, mum said it was her cousins son. Fear kept Philomena from telling the truth. The shame was instilled in you so much, she says, twisting the Gaelic-inscribed ring of Anthonys she wears, the thing that worried me was that my family would disown me and I loved them to bits. But Jane was so lovely. She threw her arms around me when I told her and said mum, hes my brother. Jane enlisted the help of Martin Sixsmith to help nd Anthony. He learned that Anthony was a handsome high yer who had worked as chief legal counsel to former US president George Bush Snr. He had longed to nd his birth mother and had made two pilgrimages to Roscrea, but the nuns had refused to release any information. As these scenes unfold in the lm, anticipation of a happy ending builds, but it is not to be. Michael died of Aids aged 43 without meeting Philomena or knowing that she was searching for him. Anthony died thinking Id abandoned him at two weeks old. Thats what he was told; thats what creased me, says Philomena. Unbeknown to her, he had been buried in the Roscrea graveyard after bequeathing the convent a generous legacy. It had been his dying wish. Despite the role of the church in the original adoption and its determination to obstruct the search the nuns knew Michael and Philomena were seeking one other but refused tell either of them, much less help Philomena harbours no resentment. I didnt want the lm to be hammering the church, she says, and it doesnt. It was a long time ago: you forgive, not forget. I love life, I couldnt go through my life being miserable and they were the times. It was the 1950s; you cant put todays values on it. While the lm tells the tale of a mothers love for her lost son, another story has emerged: that of a daughters love for her mother. Jane says: Whereas in England at 18 you can nd out information about your birth parents, in Ireland they tell you nothing. We hope the story helps people. Im not sure its going to change the law but it will certainly make them think about it. Philomena (12A) is on general release The nuns werent physically cruel but they were mentally cruel Anthony on the steps of the convent (left) and in adult life as a successful lawyer Philomena with daughter, Jane who encouraged her mother to search for Anthony NOV/DEC CELEB INTERVIEW Philomena.indd 2 01/11/2013 12:48