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Divorce Recovery Newsletter / Vol 24
October 6, 2009
October brings us Halloween...
...the holiday that brings out the witches andwarlocks, goblins and gremlins to haunt andtorment us! Although we know that there are nosuch things aswitches, warlocksand goblins, Ihave a totallydifferent viewpointon the subject of gremlins…
Negative Mind Chatter: Your Gremlin
Divorce turns on that endless tape loop of mind chatter. It torments us. It tells useverything we have done wrong, what afailure we are, how unworthy and unlovablewe are, why we aren’t good enough as ahuman being…you name it and your gremlin(the mind chatter) will use it to sabotageyour life.
Gremlins Do Not Like Change!
The gremlin gets real frisky during and after your divorce because the gremlin does notlike change. It will employ all sorts of lies tokeep you stuck where you are…in pain!
Your Gremlin is Based on Your Wounded Ego
In Richard Caron’s book, Taming Your Gremlin, he describes how your gremlin, which is based in your wounded ego and all your emotional
 
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 baggage, interprets your every experience to make you feel bad. The gremlinwants you to believe that its interpretations are reality. But they aren’t, theyare interpretations, not facts! It’s like being under a witch’s spell and notknowing it.
You ARE NOT the Gremlin!
Your gremlin is the narrator in your head, an entity that is separate fromyou. Simply notice it. Start to become aware of that incessant mind chatter and separate from it. It isn’t you. It’s the gremlin. Your self-saboteur. Don’targue with it, just notice it. Be aware and conscious. Understand that you arethe observer of the gremlin and therefore not it!
Tame that gremlin by fst, noticing it.
Oh there’s that little sucker gain. Thank it for sharing its nonsense and thenlet it go. Name it so you really get a sense of your separateness. Mine isAngelika, that little bratty girl from Rugrats. Notice, do not engage. Don’tlet it run you. Choose how to handle it and stop being enslaved by your oldhabitual response to the gremlin. Old habits empower the gremlin.So does fear. Remember, on Halloween we fear what we imagine to belurking around the next corner. Truth be told, there is no way to predict whatis coming down the pike, what is around the next corner. We can fear thatuncertainty or have faith that we will okay and life will play out in our bestinterest.
What face did you carve on your jack-lantern?
Does your jack-o-lantern have a scary face or a silly one? What the heck does this have to do with divorce recovery?Perspective. We get to choose which face we carve onto our pumpkin. Makeit scary, sad, happy, and funny. You get to choose the face on it and that facewill predict what the little trick-or-treaters experience when they come to
your house. Will they be frightened or lled with laughter?
You get to choose your perspective on life and I assure you that perspectiveis a very powerful tool in the arsenal of skills to facilitate your recoveryfrom divorce. I can choose how I want to see my future: through the lensesof fear or faith in my future.Either looking at everything that might be wrong with my life or everything
 
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Quotes of theMonth:
Fear is that little darkroomwhere negatives are developed.
Michael Pritchard
Change has a considerable psychological impact on thehuman mind. To the fearful itis threatening because it meansthat things may get worse. Tothe hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better.
To the condent it is inspiring
 because the challenge exists tomake things better.
King Whitney Jr.
Halloween , Divorceand the Kids:
Some advice from Dr. AmyStark on how to co-parent onHalloween:http://www.dramystark.com/index. php?op=fft&a=parents&topic=1that just might be right. Choosing to see what might be possible now or whatis impossible. Where are the new opportunities or the obstacles?It’s all how you look at it and I promise you that how you view your life willhave a tremendous impact on your ability to let go and move on.
Picture of the Month:And now for something completely different…
Take some timely advice from this little girl about monster:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAYWPV3F41Y
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