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Pride Beat Goes On:

Ft. Wayne, Lafayette
& Kings Island Ahead
If you think pride is over for the year,
grab your rainbow bracelet, your car keys
or a bus ticket and think again, because
we have more pride than any other region
with events in July in Fort Wayne, August
in Lafayette and the annual Kings Island
Pride Night on the horizon in September.
While Springfield, Dayton, Spencer,
Cincinnati, Louisville and Lexington
might all be in plain view in your rear-
Record!
INDIANAPOLISThere are all sorts of

numbers being bandied about for Indy
Prides attendance, but whichever set you
believe it was a record. According to Pride
Vice President Chris Morehead, 95,000
for the Festival and 40,000 for the Parade,
but whatever you decide to go with, it was
a fun, well-planned event. See Page 16 for
more of Tallahassee Cherrys photos, and
Page 28 for photos from Dayton & Cincy.
view mirrors, we still have a lot of

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World Pride? The

Words There!
This years World Pride was taking

place in Toronto as this edition went
to press, but dont despair! The Words
photo staff are on the scene. Look for
their photo report next issue.
Get Set Cincy; Here Comes

Core Redevelopment
CINCINNATIWhat happens when one of the biggest and most popular downtown
Indianapolis redevelopment companies feels that they have gone (as the old song
about Kansas City said) about as far as they can go there? Well, in the case of Core
Redevelopment, they take their act of turning empty, disused or derelict buildings,
often in just coming back and emerging gay neighbourhoods into awesome
apartments on the road and in Cores case their first outside Indianapolis venture
is just starting construction in a retired 100-year-old historic school on the edge of
downtown Cincinnati.
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Pride Beat Goes On Thru September

Continued From The Front Page
celebrating to go. Here are the details as of presstime:
FORT WAYNE MARKS PRIDE IN JULY
Fort Wayne Pride started out with humble beginnings in 1997
with the first gathering drawing less than a hundred people. Now
in its 18th year, Fort Wayne Pride draws over 10,000 people to
their two-day event in Northeast Indiana.
Admission to Pride is just $3 Friday and $5 Saturday with children 12 and under free both days. Fort
Wayne Pride would like to thank its sponsors The Word, Miller Lite, Coors Light, Mikes Hard Lemonade,
Doctor Feelgood DJ & Lighting, Hot 107.9, Rewind 106.3, Whatzup Magazine and the Hilton. For more
information on pride visit their website www.fwpride.org or like them on Facebook.
LOOK FOR LAFAYETTE IN AUGUST
Keep the pride going all summer with OUTfest 2nd August in Lafayette from 4 p.m. to midnight at
Riehle Plaza and along 2nd and Main streets in downtown Lafayette. Admission is $5 for adults, $3 for
students and anyone 12 and under is free. Or, you can earn free admission by volunteering at OUTfest
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Pride 2014 is set to bring the best lesbian, gay, bi & trans party
Fort Wayne has ever seen and it all happens 25th and 26th July.
Headwaters Park will serve as host again allowing for attendees
to enjoy the festival no matter the weather, because its the areas
ONLY pride fully under roof. The all-ages festival includes a
vendor market, beer tent, food, KidSpace, tournaments, and live
entertainment throughout.
Friday kicks off pride weekend at 7 p.m. with doors closing at
midnight. Local favourite Sum Morz will start the night right
with funky covers and originals. Cougar Hunter will continue
the party, playing the best of the 80s. The evening will end with
a local DJ spinning music for dancing (or just hanging out). The
beer tent will be open till midnight as will many of the retail
vendors and food concessions.
The 3rd Annual Pride March steps off Saturday morning at
11.30 in front of Headwaters. The march is open for anyone to
participate or watch from the sidelines. The march will wind
through downtown and end back at the park in time for the start
of the festivals Saturday events. Gates will open at noon for
Saturday prides main event. This years theme is #BEPROUD and
chairman Nikki Fultz noted, We have a lot to be proud of. We
have so much support from our community and have been lucky
to have large increases each year in our crowd.
Saturdays happenings include: a vendor market, food, beer tent,
KidSpace, tournaments and live entertainment throughout.
The vendor market promises to bring a diverse mix of retail,
businesses, churches and organisations all of which are gay,
lesbian, bi & trans owned or friendly. KidSpace is a free area
open to children 12 and under which has a moonwalk, games,
prizes and crafts. Saturdays stage will be packed with a variety
of local, regional and national acts. Dario headlines this years
festival.
Canadian singer/songwriter Shawnee, who has appeared on such
shows as Canadian Idol and Disneys The Next Step brings her
talent to Fort Wayne Prides stage. She will be joined by Boston
area indie rocker Kristen Ford, Detroit R & B crooner JaRay and
Cleveland country beauty Jordan Genovese. The day will also
include several local bands and singers. Pride closes with the
popular drag show featuring 24 non-stop acts from the areas
favourite drag queens and kings.
Pride week begins Wednesday the 23rd at Snickerz for Pride
Comedy Night featuring lesbian comedian Kristin Key who
has been seen on Last Comic Standing and Comics Unleashed.
The evening will also include a silent auction with proceeds
benefitting prides year round gay & lesbian youth events.
Pride Night at the Tincaps will be Monday, 30th July at Parkview
Field. The minor league baseball game is always a favourite event
outside of the festival with hundreds filling the stands with red.
Come out to Fort Wayne Pride the last weekend of July wherever
you are. The Fort Wayne Hilton is the official host hotel offering a
pride rate which can be accessed on the website.
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By Michael Chanak Cincinnati Pundit & Commentator
Ladies, Smile and dial! said Tami Lunan, Southwest Ohio coordinator for
Equality Ohio (EO) as she addressed her volunteer charges. The occasion: a small
group of EO volunteers making phone calls to find parade participants to help that
organisation.
These are the spontaneous moments I crave! The way the expression tripped off
Tamis tongue was one of those you had to be there moments. Your Goose simply
lost it.
Just about the time I start to screech that everything is dead (a.k.a. boring, same
old) it is that spark of humanity which has brought me back to volunteering. Goddess knows after pride we all need a little levity...especially the volunteers. One of
the best traits I feel I possess is a superb sense of humour, both about myself and
others. Gosh knows, you need to have it after pride season in these parts grinds to
a close!
I really never was a good relationship person so I am not coupled (or as Sassy
Bear, Rusty Lockett once said, Who wants all that?). I am much too headstrong,
opinionated and, I hope, passionate about things to be a middle-of-the-road,
gotta-have-a-relationship type. Now this is a shot at my partnered friends, but Ill
admit I can be a bit much and the Goddess knows it.
I guess I married the community whether it married me or not and so I became a chronic volunteer. Plus my snoopy, nosy side is well fed by the tidbits that
always come up about others, and that includes people and events.
After all, I really was a broadcast journalist at a two-watt station in the day. I figure
as an old (and long departed) queen once said of me Sis, 10 people might have
heard that broadcast but at the end of the end 10,000 claimed they did.
Besides, isnt the truth the TRUTH that sometimes folks like Goose, who shoot
off their mouths helpful allowing others not just to know about some deceit,
but giving others the permission to ask questions and not be blamed for them? I
am good with that. After all, I think there will be no gilded HRC dinner invitation
or award at my door anytime soon. Yes, I am (proudly) one of those people.
From Alternating Currents, Out Front, This Way Out and various writing gigs and
broadcasts Ive had to develop a pretty good sense of humour about myself. I may
be bloated (around the goose-line) but I think one of the traits of anyone who is
successful at being part of the volunteer community is enjoying others and enjoying a thorough reading, even if its at the expense of their (or my) own sagging ego.
Some of the best shots: Bryan Nolte who said of me, Gurl, I have never met a
queen who could eat ice and spit flames like you.
When I fractured my foot due to an old foot surgery this past year, Rusty Lockett
explained to another she put her full weight on it.
Pride Beat Continues Thru September

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for a two-hour shift.
Tonya Agnew of Pride Lafayette told The Word, OUTfest is a fresh, fun and familyfriendly street festival celebrating the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex
community and our families, friends and allies. OUTfest, Lafayettes annual pride
festival hosted by Pride Lafayette, aims to increase public awareness of the community
in Lafayette and beyond, bring attention to our issues, provide resources and
celebrate diversity.
Each year OUTfest gets bigger and biggermore vendors, more sponsors, more
community involvement, and more attendees. In 2008 OUTfest started with 3,000
visitors and last year more than 9,000 people came out to be part of it. And this year,
thanks to our generous sponsors The Word, Knickerbocker Saloon (Indianas oldest
bar), Awards Unlimited and BloomingOUT, we hope to host an even bigger event,
Agnew said.
OUTfest 2014 marks its 7th year with a family area, live bands, DJs, food, beer
gardens, dancing, the annual light-hearted drag show, vendors with jewellery, clothes,
books and crafts, plus informational booths. There will also be extended hours for
downtown businesses. Agnew said, Its not too late to get involved. Show your
support by hosting a vendor booth for your business or volunteer to help with the
event. OUTfest is looking for volunteers to assist with set-up, stage help, security,
decorations, clean-up and tear-down. Contact info@pridelafayette.org for details.
For more information about OUTfest visit www.pridelafayette.org/OUTfest, ring
765/423.7579, e-mail info@pridelafayette.org or see them on www.facebook.com/
OUTfestLafayette or tweet twitter.com/OUTfestLafIN Please note that due to health &
safety issues organisers ask you to leave your pets at home. Service animals only will
be admitted.
DONT LET SUMMER END WITHOUT KINGS ISLAND PRIDE NIGHT
Dont miss it: the Midwests largest amusement park entertainment event takes place
5th September benefitting a local community group the Gay & Lesbian Centre of
Greater Cincinnati. You can buy your tickets online now at www.cincyglbt.com/pridenight or at select ticket locations or at the gate. According to Rusty Lockett, President
of the Gay & Lesbian Community Centre of Greater Cincinnati, Folks from over 30
states attend this event and The Centre thanks the generosity of Kings Island. It is a
great value and a chance to benefit Greater Cincinnatis only gay, lesbian, bi and trans
centre, serving a diverse community. The proceeds cover much of the annual operating
expense of this 21-year-old community organisation (founded 17th September 1993)
and this marks the 18th year Kings Island has hosted our event.
Tickets not only include free parking ($12 value) but have not increased in price for
this event in five years, and have decreased this year: Individual tickets online, $39 in
advance and $43 at gate; or groups of 7 or more $36 (online only). A portion of the
ticket sales, depending on attendance, is donated to the centre, which is a non-profit
organisation as recognised as by the IRS 501(c)3.
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Then many years ago, when I was far younger, the treasurer
of the now-defunct All Saints Chapel said of me, Kent State
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By Dr. Fred Schloemer, LCSW / Louisville
Dear Dr. Fred:
Im a 65 year old gay male, happily partnered for 20 years to a wonderful man. I was
previously married to a woman with whom I had a daughter Ill call Gina here. Gina is
now 40 and lives out of state, where she recently divorced her husband. He easily obtained
custody of their three children because Gina didnt want them, (Shes too busy partying
and chasing men.).
Its as if shes having a second adolescence, although I dont know why because she sure
had a hell of a first one. She was wild, drinking and drugging and skipping school. She
eventually met the man who became her husband and settled down, until a few years ago
when she began drinking heavily again.
Ive tried to be supportive through all this drama, but it hasnt been easy. She only reaches
out to me when she needs something and gets angry if I try to offer any advice. Recently,
she cut me off when I asked her to seek counselling. Ive e-mailed her to tell her that I love
her, and sent her cards on her birthday and other holidays.
Now Ive been diagnosed with a very aggressive cancer which has a high mortality rate.
Im in chemotherapy and its slowing the cancer down, but the disease will most likely
get me eventually. I was devastated at first, of course, but have gotten some counselling
myself, plus lots of love from my partner and friends, so Im more resigned to it now.
I havent informed Gina of all this for several reasons. I dont want to worry her for one
thing, but I also cant bear the thought of being hurt and rejected if I do tell her and she
doesnt respond supportively or doesnt respond at all.
My partner is pressuring me to tell her, saying she has a right to know, and that it may
even jolt her to her senses; maybe help her to see that life is short and too precious to
waste both mine and hers. He recently bought your book Parenting Adult Children and
we both read the chapter dealing with children who cut their parents out of their lives.
That led me to write you and ask your advice about what to do with Gina.
Any ideas you can offer will be greatly appreciated, and the sooner the better, since I dont
know how long I have.
Sign me,
Heartbroken Dad in Ohio.
Dear Heartbroken Dad:
The first thing I need to say is how sorry I am for your illness and how much I admire
the courage and fortitude youre showing in dealing with it. While its always wise to be
prepared for the worst, perhaps some new development may occur which raises your
chances of a cure or at least remission.
My own partner is an oncology nurse and works with researchers developing new cancer treatments. He often comes home with exciting stories about the success of some
new drug, so I hope that your doctors are keeping their eyes out for new treatments
that may be helpful in your case.
The next thing I want to say is that youre not alone, both with your cancer, and with
the situation concerning your daughter. Out of all the chapters in my book, the one you
mention dealing with children cutting their parents out of their lives is the one that has
brought me the most e-mails and referrals. Clearly this phenomenon is more common
that many of us may have realised.
For the sake of readers here who havent read the book, the chapter told the story of
a loving Louisville family whose daughter moved to the west coast, then unexplainably quit answering their phone calls, cards and letters. The mother tried everything to
reconnect with the daughter but to no avail. My advice to the mother was to love the
daughter from afar and continue to reach out to her in positive ways without pressure
in the hopes the daughter would eventually come to her senses.
That family however wasnt dealing with a possibly terminal illness, as you are, so my
advice to you must be a bit different. In short, I agree with your partner.
Sadly, many times in life it takes a major crisis of some sort to force us to re-examine
our thoughts, feelings and behaviours, and then to make a decision to change. And
while you are handling it well, you are definitely dealing with a major crisis. So call
and write your daughter telling her whats up and appeal to her better nature to recon-
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nect with you. Be matter of fact and non-judgmental, but tell her how important it
is to you to be back in touch with her as you deal with your life at this difficult time.
Dont beg or abase yourself in any way but dont be afraid to plead either.
Ive never met anyone heartless enough to refuse to speak to a parent who may be dying so I hope she will respond well. But if not, continue loving her from afar, sending
cards and letters any time you feel the need. That will at least help you to feel connected in some way to her even if she doesnt choose to reconnect with you.
Finally, I hope you will keep going to counselling.
Fred Schloemer, Ed.D, LCSW is a gay psychotherapist in Louisville, and can be reached at
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PREDSIDENTIAL INTRERVENTION
At presstime an important announcement had just been made regarding lesbian, gay, bi &
trans civil rights and it is bound to make some right-wing heads spin. President Obama has
agreed to sign an executive order which bans lesbian, gay, bi & trans discrimination by all
federal contractors. And its huge. The order covers any employee of any federal contractor.
And it could be larger than it first appeared. Almost 20% of the American workforce could
be implicated. And catch this: it could cover employees whether theyre engaged in federal
contract work or not.
If you work for GM for example, making Chevy transmission parts at Tonawanda, N.Y.,
youre not directly working on a federal contract. However, GM has other federal contracts.
Massive federal contracts. Given this administrations desire to reach as far as possible on
such issues, we can expect all GM employees to be affected by this executive order.
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Multiply that impact over all companies which deal with the federal government, and the
impact is enormous. And consider this: the HR policies at these companies often form the
template for similar policies across-the-board. The larger companies handbooks are used
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prior to his 2011 re-election campaign. There were multiple reasons for his 2011 victory
including some strong campaign management. But make no mistake: the massive street
resurfacing leading up to 2011 was targeted to build a 50.1% majority. The total package
worked. The 2014 municipal bond wrangling was always using the 2015 election as a backdrop. And that election will have strong implications for our community: Ballard has been
a strong supporter. It will test the community in different ways. And this is how we grow
looking at entire campaigns and platforms, instead of just one or two issues. And so it goes.
We have one example close to home which needs re-visiting: Ball Memorial Hospital. Four
and a half years ago the Muncie regional hospital behaved very badly when admitting a
transgender patient. Lets just say it was stupid behaviour, and the patient thankfully complained. The hospitals HR staff was cooperative with efforts by Indiana Equality president
Jessica Wilch, transgender activist Vivian Benge and others to rewrite and re-focus the
hospitals policies.
And it became broader: shortly thereafter, Ball Hospital was absorbed by the IU Health
system. Ball Hospitals recent experience was valuable to the IU Health family. It became
embedded in the IU hospital chains standard practices. So heres hoping that the presidents stellar order ripples across Americas boardrooms and factory floors to companies
large and small.
Someday well look back on these incremental victories and wonder why it was such a big
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Many thanks to the incredible folks at Indy Pride, who honoured me as a Parade Grand
Marshall on the 14th of June. Me, along with Freedom Indiana campaign manager Megan
Robertson, Indiana Fever player Layshia Clarendon and the wonderful Coby Palmer.
Coby showed up in typical style draped in a white gown with a 30-foot train which was
carried by four handsome attendants. There was an enormous turnout and it capped a long
week of amazing activities.
Indy Pride is one of our communitys best assets. Their board members labour all year to
stage a week of incredible activities. This year they added a new twist Diversity Night
at the Indiana Fever, in conjunction with Indiana Equality Action. Theres Pet Pride, the
Picnic, Girl Pride, a 5K Run, and of course the parade/Saturday festival.
I noticed a shift in prides community-listening skills in 2013. These selfless folks are operationally intense, smart and thorough. They sensed like most of our community that
the 2014 HJR6/3 battle was going to demand much from our community. Weve got more
battles ahead of us so its good to see that our institutions, like pride, are in for the long
haul. Because you can have fun AND be an activist at the same time.
POTHOLE POLITICS
For those paying attention, the 2015 Indianapolis municipal election is heating up already.
Well, sort of Mayor Greg Ballard proposed an expensive bond issue nine months ago
dedicated to sidewalks, pothole repair and street resurfacing. The 30-year bond was a tad
unusual often, bonds are used for longer-lasting items. Sidewalks last an average of 5-6
years. But this mayor correctly foresaw the wretched Winter of 2014. Potholes are everywhere as a result.
And the repair tab is soaring. But this is about choices. The Democratic City Council objected to the term and carrying charges for this bond. As a result, the mayor reworked his
pothole bond last month. Eight months after his original proposal. After months of fingerpointing and thousands of bent wheel rims citywide. Lest anyone think this is solely about
bonds, theres more: Ballard successfully put forth Rebuild Indy in 2010, just one year
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In dollars-conscious Hollywood, movie-making has always embraced the old
maxim, Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
Nothing succeeds in theory, at least like that which has succeeded before.
Its the driving force behind countless sequels, remakes and films that cannibalise
the plots of other films.
Cheerfully borrowing from the 2011 techno-thriller Source Code, which just
as cheerfully ripped off its major plot element from 1993s Groundhog Day, Tom
Cruises new sci-fi action adventure film, Edge of Tomorrow, falls unabashedly
into the latter category.
Here the Groundhog Day reset-repeat loop is sutured onto a plot involving an
alien invasion of Earth. An asteroid bearing a life form called mimics crashes
into Germany and very quickly octopus-like biomechanical creatures overrun the
entire European continent.
Enter Major William Cage (Cruise), a U.S. military spin-doctor, whose face has
become a common fixture on news programmes spouting platitudes about the
NATO-like United Defence Forces plans to defeat the aliens.
Cage flies to London to meet the UDFs commanding officer, General Brigham
(Brendan Gleeson), who is overseeing the upcoming invasion of Europe Operation Downfall (a curiously inapt and inept name choice for a battle you hope to
win?). Cage believes he is in London on morale-boosting mission for the troops.
Brigham tells Cage that rather than being ensconced in the comfort of a TV studio, he will be embedded with UDF troops the following day during the invasion
of the Normandy coast.
The trouble is: Cage is not a soldier; he is a talking head. He is, in addition, something of a coward. He tries to wriggle out of the assignment by saying he isnt
battle ready. When that doesnt work, he tries to blackmail the general.
His actions land him accused of deserting, stripped of rank and enlisted as a
grunt in J Squad, a group of misfits under the leadership of Farell, a sadistic
master sergeant (played by Bill Paxton, sporting an exaggerated Kentucky accent). The sergeant tells Cage: Tomorrow morning you will be baptised. You will
be born again. Little does either of them know.
When Cage is dropped into the hellish D-Day-type invasion, the future-seeing
aliens are ready and waiting. The UDFs troops are massacred. But not before the
dying Cage has killed and been spattered by the blood of one of the aliens.
This, apparently, is what propels him to relive the same events over and over
again until he can find a way to kill the source of the alien life force the mimics hive queen.
It seems a somewhat flaccid premise. And there is much more plot-wise that
doesnt make a whole lot of sense. The film is, after all, based on a Japanese sci-fi
comic novel. Not exactly War and Peace.
(Why, for example, are the aliens called mimics? What exactly are they mimicking? This is never explained in the film. It could be that they are named after the
mimic octopus,a species capable of impersonating other sea creatures. They do
look like octopi).
After he is killed on the Normandy beach, Cage wakes up the day before the
allied invasion. He knows what is about to happen. He tries to tell his superiors
and his fellow alien-fodder about the upcoming ambush. Thinking he has gone
stark raving bonkers, no one listens. They send him off to meet his fate again
with his mouth duct-taped.
Each time Cage starts over the day of battle, he learns more and more about the
aliens and what he must do to survive a few extra hours before his life button is
reset.
On the battlefield, he meets a female super-soldier named Rita Vrataski (Emily
Blunt). She has also been through the live, die, repeat loop several times before.
She tells him to find her when he wakes up. He does and they decide to work
together to defeat the aliens.
The film is saved from tedium, at this point, by its deft use of comedy. Because
Cage knows what is about to happen, he can outwit and flummox those (especially his superiors) who think of him as a coward and a deserter.
He becomes stronger, mentally and physically, with each reiteration of himself.
The second half of the film drags a little, inevitably. The battle scenes are intentionally reminiscent of some of the more violent genres of video games, particularly in the reloading or repeated spawning of the central character after death.
But, even video games can get samey and dull. There is too much emphasis on
action and not enough on character in the film. I would have liked to get to know
Rita a little more. Cage too, for that matter.
The problem may be that Edge of Tomorrow went through several re-writes and
employed at least five writers. Up to the time of shooting, the filmmakers didnt
have a suitable ending. Even in the finished product, the ending appears a little
pat.
The film is not without interest, however. On seeing Cruise appear onscreen the
first time, one might be forgiven for thinking: Tom is looking a little old and
even a bit fragile. This is clearly intentional and central to the plot.
Despite the films videogame aesthetic, the battle scenes are harrowing. Released
in the USA on 6 June, the 70th anniversary of D-Day, the film vividly captures
the spirit of the Normandy landings of 1944. The scenes on the beach are given
a technological update in terms of weaponry, but they are as harrowing, one
imagines, as the original battle.
Emily Blunts character, Rita, is nicknamed the Angel of Verdun, referencing a
famous battle from World War I. (Interestingly, the female protagonist portrayed
by Andie McDowell in Groundhog Day is also called Rita. Bill Murray, who plays
Phil the weatherman, says to her at one point, Youre kind to strangers and children, and when you stand in the snow you look like an angel.)
Watching Tom Cruise as Bill Cage reminds me of watching Chris Evans play Steve Rogers in Captain America: the First Avenger (2011) In Captain America, CGI
technology is used to transform Evans/Rogers from a five foot five, 90-pound
weakling into a 6-foot, 200 pound super warrior. In Edge of Tomorrow, we watch,
fascinated, as the weak and spineless Cage metamorphoses into Tom Cruise,
super soldier.
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Its almost the Fourth of July, the day when we celebrate our independence as a
nation and the many liberties we enjoy as individuals. Still, we have to keep working to earn some freedoms such as financial freedom. But by making the right
moves, you may eventually enjoy your own Financial Independence Day.
Here are a few such moves to consider:
Set free your vision. Your first step in moving toward financial independence
is to establish a vision of what this freedom might look like. Ask yourself some key
questions: When do I want to retire? What do I want to do during my retirement
years? How can I be confident that I wont outlive my financial resources? The answers can help you develop a clear picture of where you want to go which will
make it much easier to create a financial strategy for getting there.
Liberate your full investment capabilities. Right now, you may have good
investment opportunities that you are not fully exploiting. For example, are you
contributing as much as you can afford to your IRA and your 401(k) or other
employer-sponsored plan? And when your income goes up, are you increasing your
contributions to these accounts? Both an IRA and a 401(k) offer tax advantages
and a variety of investment options, so try to get as much out of these plans as you
can.
Avoid the bondage of a non-diversified portfolio. If you only own a few
types of investments, you are restricting your opportunities and probably taking
on too much risk. If a downturn primarily affects just one or two asset classes, and
most of your investment dollars are tied up in those assets, your portfolio could
take a big hit.
But if you free up your holdings by diversifying across a range of investments
stocks, bonds, government securities, certificates of deposit and so on you may
give yourself more chances for success while reducing the effects of market volatility on your portfolio. (Keep in mind, though, that diversification cannot guarantee
profits or prevent losses.)
Unshackle yourself from debt. Its not always easy to lower your debt burden,
but its worth the effort. The lower your monthly debt payments, the more money
you will have available to invest for the future and for your ultimate financial
freedom. So look for ways to consolidate, and reduce, your debts.
Escape from disability and long-term care expenses. Few events can threaten
your financial independence as much as a disability or the need for long-term care,
such as a nursing home stay. Even a short disability and time away from work can
wreak havoc on your financial situation. And an extended stay in a nursing home
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you may want to consult with a financial advisor, who can recommend the appropriate protection vehicles.
The Fourth of July is a festive occasion. But youll have even more reason to celebrate once you can declare your own financial independence. So, do what it takes
to speed the arrival of that day.
Speaking of Indpendence Day and our founding fathers, did you know many of
them lived to what for their time were ripe old ages? That makes me ask: Could
You Afford to Live to 100?
Heres an interesting statistic: Over the past three decades, the centenarian population in the United States has grown about 66%, according to the U.S. Census
Bureau. Of course, this doesnt necessarily mean that you have a good chance of
living to 100 but the possibility may not be as remote as it once was.
In any case, if you do plan to retire in your mid-60s, and you are in good health,
you may well have two, or even three, decades ahead of you. To enjoy this time to
the fullest and to help prevent the possibility of outliving your financial resources you will need to invest for income and growth throughout your retirement
years.
As a retiree, how much income do you need from your investments? Theres no
one right percentage for everyone.
Furthermore, you shouldnt have to rely solely on your investment portfolio, because you may have other sources such as Social Security and potentially your
employer-sponsored retirement plan from which to draw income. Nonetheless,
your investments can play a big role in providing you with the income youll need
during retirement.
Many retirees depend on fixed-rate investments for a good portion of their retirement income so its a real challenge when interest rates are low, as they have
been for the past several years. Consequently, when you retire, youll certainly need
to be aware of the interest-rate environment and the income you can expect from
these investments.
Longer-term fixed-rate vehicles may be tempting, as they typically offer higher
rates than shorter-term ones, but these longer-term investments may have more
price fluctuation and inflation risk than shorter-term investments. Ultimately,
youll likely need a balance between short-, intermediate- and long-term fixedincome investments to provide for a portion of your income in retirement.
While its important to invest for income, you cant ignore the need for growth
because you wont want to lose purchasing power to inflation.
As you know, weve experienced quite mild inflation recently. But over time, even a
low rate of inflation can seriously erode your purchasing power.
To illustrate: If your current monthly costs are $3,000, they will be about $4,000
in 10 years with only a 3% annual inflation rate. And in 25 years at that same rate,
your monthly costs will have more than doubled, to about $6,200.
To help protect yourself against inflation risk, you should consider having at least
some investments that offer growth potential, rather than only owning fixed-income vehicles. And some investment vehicles, such as dividend-paying stocks, can
offer both growth potential and current income.
In fact, some stocks have paid, and even increased, their dividends for many years
in a row, giving you not just income, but rising income. (Keep in mind, though,
that companies are not obligated to pay dividends, and can reduce or discontinue
them at any time.)
To determine the right mix of growth and income vehicles for your individual
needs, consult with a financial advisor who is familiar with your retirement plans,
your risk tolerance and your family situation.
And it may well be a good idea to plan for a very long retirement. You may not live
to be 100 but it would be a good feeling to know that you could afford to do so,
wouldnt it?
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Bill Malcolm / Word Columnist
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BACK HOME IN INDIANA...TGIF!
Who Whacked Iona Traylor? TGIF bowling tournament comes to Indianapolis the 4th
of July weekend, featuring some of the towns and regions finest keglers. 140 bowlers from all over the country will converge on the Circle City as events will be held at
Western Bowl on both the 5th & 6th of July beginning at 10 a.m.A canned food drive
will be held at the registration party on the 4th at Gregs. Proceeds will benefit the Greg
Powers Defa fund.For more information, see www.tgif-classic.org and you can also
find them on Facebook. The funny name at the beginning? Well, the theme this year is
Who Whacked Iona Traylor.By the way, The Word is a proud sponsor of this event.
Welcome to Indianapolis, bowlers!
VOLLEYBALL TOURNEY ON SCHEDULE
IndyPride and the Indianapolis volleyball team will have a tournament in Indianapolis
in October . See www.nagva.org for details on this and other tournaments or check the
IndyPride website for details on this event.
SOFTBALL IS OFF TO A SLOW START
1,400 Midwestern athletes head to Gay Games

Its finally almost here and as we hit the streets with this July edition of The Word, we
are less than five weeks away fromGay Games 9 in Cleveland/Akron which will be held
from 9th through 16th August.TheGay Games will never becloser to our readers than
it is this year (the next one will be in Paris), but alas, there is no Team Indiana this
time according to Sondra Bolte, who will be at the games doing track and field. Sondra
lives in Columbus, Indiana.
But while things are grim for the Hoosier State, Kentucky, Illinois and (of course) Ohio
all have state or individual city teams set to head for Akron and Cleveland. Bolte noted
that over 100 Indiana athletes went to The Gay Games in Chicago a few years back
under the Team Indiana banner and had their own uniforms, so shes noticeably
disappointed that Indiana wont have a larger presence this time round.
Gay Games is on track to haveover 7,000 participants with a collective 20,000-30,000
participants and visitors. As of presstime, theyhave athletes from 38 countries registere and here in the Midwest states served by The Word,1,400+ athletes have signed
up to competewith Ohio and Illinois leading the list.The normal registration deadline
is 30th June so if you grabbed this copy early you can still squeak in. Readers can use
code GoAllOut and save $30. Note, too, there is late registration, but no registrations
will be accepted after 15th July, so as mom always said: do it NOW.
There will, of course, be athletics, but entertainment is also filling the games schedule with multiple things to do every night after the athletic competitions. Among the
highlights:
The Circle City Pride softball team was scheduled to finally start 22nd June, about the
time this issue of the paper went to press. The group is under the pride umbrella this
year so they wanted to wait until after pride week to throw out the first balls, at least
according to my sources. Construction at no less than two of the fields was also a factor. Now that theyve started, go watch or play and cheer for the team!
LOUISVILLE & DETROIT HOST TENNIS
Columbus and Louisville recently hosted tennis tournaments and teams from around
the Midwest attended, including IndyTennis. Louisvilles Talk Tennis Club hosted over
60 players at their annual Memorial Day meet. Upcoming meets include the August
meet in Detroit and another in Montreal.
Meanwhile in early June, IndyTennis hosted their first Pride Tennis Tournament at
Butler University.The group will hold their annual tournamentfrom 27th through
29th September. Last year 86 people came to their meet. Theclubhas moved back to
Riverside Park and meets Saturdays from 10 a.m. to noon. You can find them at www.
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RAINBOW RUN WAS A HIT
The Indianapolis Pride Rainbow Run featured 650 registered runners and walkers this
year and all moneyraised and will go to funding a new resource centre (75%) and to
the Greater Indiana Health Foundation (25%). Thanks to Vivian Farris and Donnie
Thomas, co-chairmen for the great job they did.
Saturday, 9th August Opening Ceremony -- Parade of Participants (representing

each country or state) with Lance Bass, Broadway stars and the Pointer Sisters.
Sunday 10th August Dancin, a10-hour dance party at The Festival Village.
Monday 11th August Boy George as the DJ for the games the White Party.
Tuesday 12th August Its baseball as The Cleveland Indians host Gay Games night.
Saturday 16th August Games Week finishes with the closing ceremony and the
Seven Deadly Sins after party.
See www.gg9cle.com for information on events, dates, tickets, entertainment and lodging, which includes the very affordable dorm rooms at two area universities.Participants and visitors are encouraged to make their reservations through thesite ASAP to
And finally for this month, as can be seen in the photo, The Hoydens are Indianapolis womens rugby group. They have touch rugby Thursdays at 6 p.m. in July and in
August they have Tuesday and Thursdays practice. They play teams from around the
Midwest. Get the details at www.Hoydens.org By the way, Charis Webb is the Indianapolis Hoydens rugby player in the picture being tackled by an Ann Arbor womens
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The personal is the political. Back in the early days of the womens movement, an oftrepeated mantra was the personal is the political. The point was that recognition of
how a particular political reality affected you personally was at least as important as
political activities such as protests and involvement in various movements, in no small
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about the connection between salience and action the importance of any particular issue to a person is one predictor of the level of that individuals political involvement.
All of this is consistent with common sense: unless something matters to you, you are
unlikely to participate in political advocacy around that issue.
Coming out is the perfect political expression of that insight. People who may have
favored equal rights for gay, lesbian, bi & trans folks in the abstract found the issue
much more salient when their own family member was subject to marginalisation
and discrimination. Suddenly, being an ally meant something more affirmative than
refraining from opposition or expressing an inclusive sentiment at a cocktail party.
It may seem obvious to us now, but in the early days of the gay rights movement,
coming out was a real gamble a gamble that might not have worked, and that took
a great deal of courage. Until there was a critical mass of out gay folks, out was a
lonely and sometimes dangerous place to be. Being out and proud didnt simply risk
social disapproval jobs were lost, families estranged and friendships shattered.
Today, after a generation of activism, the gay community is in mop up mode. Theres
still a good deal of bigotry, but thanks to coming out, the handwriting on the civic wall
reads Come on in. Out gays hold elective office, enjoy marriage equality in more and
more states and participate in pride celebrations that are more celebratory and less
defiant than in the old days.
If we needed any more evidence of the success of the gay rights movement, it can be
found in the fact that other despised minorities are looking to the gay, lesbian, bi &
trans community for strategic guidance.
I recently joined the National Board of the Secular Coalition for America. The Coalition includes a variety of organisations concerned with the marginalisation of nonbelievers, the war on women and science, religiously-based homophobia and especially
with efforts by bible-believing conservatives to move America toward godliness
a.k.a. theocracy.
According to recent Pew data, nonbelievers defined as those who answer none
when asked about their religious affiliations number around 20% of the American
population. In 2000, some 14% of the public self-identified as part of the Religious
Right. And yet, the Religious Right exercises far more political power. They havent
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liberty, they have been the most effective foot soldiers in the war on science.
Lawmakers and not just Republicans fall over themselves to pander to the obsessions of that 14%, because unlike the nones, theyve been so public and visible that
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A number or topics to cover this month as we start to see the days shorten and head
back from mid-Summer toward Autumn (Really!)...
Remember that not everybody out there can speak text and abbreviated chat, so if
you decide to text or contact someone on that smartphone or tablet, you might want to
keep that in mind.
Even though I have a lot of young friends (the kind who keep me young when it comes
to the various abbreviations and cyber talk) some days even I get blind-sided. Here
are a couple or three I have recently learned and been reminded of (and there are a
whole lot more):
1.) I was texted by a friend last week If you can go, hmu. That sent me scratching
what hair I still have, before another pal said what the first one meant by hmu was hit
me up as in contact me, so the message meant what wed say was give me a yell if
you can go! Whodda thought hmu meant that?
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of yeah I am or just yeah
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But there are pitfalls to these
shortcuts, too. I finally had
to get rid of busy as one
because what it would type
was Sorry Im busy right
now and dont have the time
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having Sorry Im busy right
now and dont have the time
to talk.
3.) Theres new (and to me obnoxious and overly silly) lingo about other things. I had
an e-mail from an ad agency exec Id sent a note to about ads for this paper saying
Thanks for reaching out... I was like huh? Thats todays speak for contacting me
so what this goon really wanted to say was thanks for reminding me or thanks for
e-mailing me. I am told you also now reach out if you call or phone someone, but
to me, well, I just call and hope I reach out to a real person and not their voice mail
if that old term is even still in use!
You can space and get that

fixed but I found all too
often Id forget that little
issue and it was ending up
in a lot of spots and not
just where I wanted it seen!
Like predictive text it can be
funny or it can make folks
think you cannot type at all
so use it at your risk and
peril...and as we do here
at the newspaper: always
proofread before you hit
that send button!
4.) And finally on this topic, I didnt hear from a friend recently and sent three texts
trying to reach him, before he texted back and told me on no uncertain terms: Quit
blowin up my phone! I was later informed this means Quit repeatedly texting. I saw
the first one and am busy but when I can I will get back to you. Just send one! The
things I learn! Free free to blow up my e-mail (ted@midwestword.com) if you have
others I should have included here.
I need to hit on a topic I have addressed here a bunch of times once more due to
questions. The questions deal with updates, especially as Apple recently announced
their new Yosemite operating system due out this Fall, with a beta version out
already for developers and for the rest of us in the next weeks. The question is Should
I update? and the follow-up is always why do I have to?
2.) A pal recently got a new phone and sent a text saying I need your digits! I
thought he meant he needed a hand with this or that, until he sent a follow-up (guess
he has a lot of older friends who like me did not get it) to explain that digits is the
younger sets way to say telephone number. If you have someones digits you do not
have their fingers, but you do have their telephone number! If you get that hmu!
Next lets pause for a bit about shortcuts and predictive text. Im sure theres not a
single reader who has not typed one thing and had something else appear when he or
she has hit send on a text.
Thats called predictive text where your iPad, phone or other device is trying (and
often failing) to predict what you are wanting to type before you finish a word or when
you spell one wrong. Its a great help if you type yoy instead of you and it gets
corrected but if shirt comes out you-know-what its possible (depending upon who
you are texting) the you-know-what will hit the proverbial fan.
So what to do about it? Well, my partner and a number of friends strongly disagree
with me, but if there are going to be errors, I want them to be MY errors, so I have
gone into the control panels (in the iPhone its under general and then keyboard) and
turned off auto correction.
That means I might type sh** and not shirt, but at least I can make the error and I can
(hopefully) see and correct it in time. There are all manner of often-hilarious type-itfor-me corrections which make the rounds on Facebook, but in truth sending the
wrong message to the wrong person (especially if its the boss or mom) is not all that
funny and can land you in a heap of trouble.
While we are on this topic, there are shortcuts anyone can set up in their device.
These are a letter or two, which when typed brings up a word of phrase which you
might commonly use or need in your day-to-day texts or chats. For example, my best
friend and I (for reasons still unexplained) have fun saying have you expired? instead
of hi when we begin a chat to see if the other person is there. He has to type in the
whole expression, but on my iPhone typing the letters ux tells the phone to do the
whole phrase.
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Familiarity breeds content and most folks figure out where stuff is, how to use this
or that in their operating system (OS) and they get bent out to shape by the mere
suggesion that they update. Thats why I do so as soon as I possibly can to put me
on the very same learning curve as everybody else, and give me a chance to ask stupid
questions sooner, not later. Its also good to update ASAP because it might be days or
weeks or even a month or two, but sooner or later all those apps you are using on that
phone or pad are going to be updated to the latest and if you dont HAVE the newest
OS they will eventually malfunction or quit working. Easier to get and stay current
and not get caught out later, so to those asking: yes...update if you have not already.
Back up your device, then grit your teeth and update. You might be stressed today, but
you will thank me later!
Finally, a topic for a hot second we have discussed before too, but not in some time
...and thats that things online can, do and will occasionally break down. There might
be some obvious explanation (car hit the pole out front and took out the cable) or big
thunderstorm or there might not be anything to see or feel or know other than nothing
loads or works. Its rare for the whole net to go down, but parts can and do, and your
WiFi or dsl or cable or phone can and may go out with little warning.
My suggestion is to reboot your modem (if its the WiFi or hard-wired connection)
or ask the coffee shop or bartender if you are out to do so. You can also restart your
phone or other device and just be patient, but sometimes nothing works. You could do
what I feel is a waste of time and call your providers tech support for help, but I have
found that 99 out of 100 times, things will self-correct if you will but be patient.
In a worst case scenario, just turn off the device, read a book, listen to the radio or
better yet, get outside for a bike ride or walk. Ill be willing to bet by the time you get
back things will be up and ticking over just fine once again and you will have burned a
few calories youd not have if youd just sat there waiting.
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Perspective
By Panther Daddy / Word Columnist
As I write this article, I am paying particularly close attention to the time left on the
battery of my laptop. For some reason, known only to the Muses of the local power
company, we lost power around 7.30 this morning and at 12.18 p.m., still, no power.
I have driven around in my car for about 45 minutes looking for a place that had a
connection.
The only establishment that I could find with lights and a working cash register was
the neighbourhood CVS. After making a purchase and getting hit on by the somewhat enthusiastic man working the cash register, I decided to go home and wait it
out. Having grown up in the 50s and 60s, power outages were pretty common and
somehow, we obviously survived. It was inconvenient for sure but life stopping, not
particularly.
My experience this morning reinforced for me how much we have become so dependent on our technology. Luckily, Ive had some experience with being without
power, figuratively and literally.
It took a few minutes of searching but I was able to pull up those memories and
skills from somewhere in the recesses of my brain and put them to use to enable me
to muddle through a day of being disconnected.
So much of our lives anymore are lived with our faces semi attached to screens of
some sort, pushing buttons, gleaning information, cataloging it and saving it for
future use. This is something that we used to do with our natural born, electrical
impulse system and for some unfortunate people, they will never know the thrill that
comes with that process. This isnt to vilify technology as it is a very useful tool. The
question is more what are we missing by our constant need to stay plugged in to the
information highway.
I recently attended a weekend of workshops put on by KINK U. The idea behind the
KINK U classes is to bring in experts from the world of kink and BDSM to a city
near you and provide the community with technical information about the different
forms of kink related play.
This particular weekend, the classes ran the gamut of needle
play, rope bondage, flogging 101, sounding and a class called
The future of Kink Education. The idea behind the future
class was to discuss the role technology plays in providing information to the BDSM curious and to hone the skills of the more
advanced players in the field.
However, what struck me as a class participant wasnt so much
the discussion of technology, because in actuality, there was very
little focus on that.
For me it was sitting with a group of men, all from different
generations, different skill levels and interests who were actually
having a conversation and interacting with one another as human beings. It was an opportunity for us to experience another
human and sense and observe each other in our natural state of
just being ourselves.
Instead of reading about Millennials and Gen Xers, I got the
experience of learning about the individuals within those confining, descriptive boxes.
They also got the chance to experience people who by virtue of
our age, are considered Old Guard and hopefully saw that we
are not necessarily the stubborn, judgmental curmudgeons they
have read about on the internet.
There was some real bonding that took place and it appeared all
walked away having learned something different from what we
expected.
For me, that surprise gift, was the best part of the entire weekend. Well, plus I got to flog a submissive whove Ive been wanting to get at for quite sometime.
It was truly a special experience to be able to unplug but at the
same time get connected in more ways than one. This is what
our community is supposed to be about: real connection.
I want to encourage the readership to check out the KINK U
classes if they do come to your area.
If there are none scheduled, contact them and make arrangements for them to come and do a workshop series for your
community.
They can tailor them to your target audiences specific needs
and interests. You can find out more about them at www.titansofthemidwest.com Click on the KINK U link.
Until next month,
Panther Daddy
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Core Redevlopment Heads For Cincinnati

structures and being
pioneers in bringing new
life to old neighbourhoods.
Weve found a former
schoolhouse there which is
in good shape to make into
our first project outside
metro Indy.
Continuned From The Front Page

Core, which is known to Word readers in downtown Indianapolis as the group which
took an empty metals firms old building by the zoo and turned it into the sold-out
Harding Street Lofts, and along the way did Senate Manor, Chelsea Manor, a 17-unit
building on Capitol Avenue and turned historic Bush Stadium (below) into a sold-out
138-unit apartment project plus (opening in July) built the Stadium Flats off 16th
Street where the stadiums old parking lot was, has decided to branch out.
That Cincinnati property

was the former school for
Performing & Creative
Arts which was built over
a century ago. In its soon-to-be new life, it will be called Alumni Lofts, Cox
said.
We will be doing 150 apartments in the building, ranging from $700
studios to large two-story apartments close to 2,000 square feet and
everything in between. We are hoping to start leasing there next Spring
and be open by the end of next Summer. We are saving many of the
historic features of this school, too, including blackboards, which will
be integrated into the units. We will do the same with the 100-year-old
hardwood floors, the cabinets and the buildings 14 Rookwood Pottery
fountains. We will be cleaning them up and making them be a part of the
lofts, he said.
Asked to compare the Cincinnati project to Indianapolis reuses, he said
the principals are the same, though the firm has not done a schoolhouse
in Indianapolis. In Cincinnati, we are doing our thing and when this
is complete the units are going to be really cool with crafted original
hardwoods plus literally hundreds of historic windows and sashes.
The main reason is not that they are tired of their hometown or that they have a lot of
vacancies in fact most of the buildings they have repurposed are either totally sold
out or, in the case of Stadium Flats was 3/4 spoken for before its even open but that
the firms bosses said downtown here at least buildings which meet their needs is
pretty much already either been done or is presently a work in progress.
Michael Cox, partner and director of development for Core Redevelopment told The
Word, The only reflection on Indianapolis and why we are in Cincinnati is we want
to redevelop and be catalysts to see neighbourhoods come back, but in Indy most of
the buildings wed do have been done or are being done, so here the opportunities are
limited. In Cincinnati there is a huge stock of buildings that are historic, located in
areas about to boom, well-situated and of a scale that will fit what we want to do. Add
to that, Cincinnatis urban renewal is a few years behind Indianapolis so there are
opportunities.... we still are looking in Indianapolis because it it our hometown and
base, but for the next year we are looking and working hard in Cincy and hope, too,
that the gay and lesbian community will give our newest projects a look as they have
in Indianapolis.
Added to the lack of acceptable areas and buildings in Indy is a survey which was
done for downtown Indianapolis which sees a possible upcoming glut of new and
restored apartment properties.
This combination led Core to look a bit further afield as they wish to continue as
their name says to RE-develop old properties and breathe new uses into them and
their surrounding areas, mainly as housing at affordable prices.
Maggie Mallory, who manages the Cores properties in Indianapolis, said recently that
with 667 units (545 of them downtown) Core management sees few properties left
which can be viably converted here. There are some vacant sites, such as North Illinois
Streets Gatling Gun Club, but they are either, she noted, too small, in too bad shape or
off the beaten path for conversion, which has led the firm to look at Cincinnati, which
has few conversions, a downtown which is trying to come back and holds promise and
a market for the firm to expand.
One of the reasons were going to Cincinnati, she said, is that we like saving old
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Mallory, who has been to the Cincinnati property several times said the
windows, which said are everywhere, as well as the old schools still inplace features will truly be unique. These include the theatre, complete
with arches and stage, a gym with an elevated track and a spiral staircase.
If their Cincinnati work is
anything like whats been done
by Core Redevelopment in
Indianapolis, look for lines to
form early to snap up the units
and for the work to be unique and
top-quality, with modern kitchens,
washers and dryers in the units
and safe, easy-to-access parking
both for cars and bikes.
Youd be amazed, Mallory
noted, Id say over 30% of our
residents in Indianapolis bicycle
to work, school or for errands.
Demand for bicycle storage is honestly higher than
it is for car parking and we expect, given our target
rental audience and location for that to be the case in
Cincinnati, too, she concluded.
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By DJ "Miss" Hill / MJ's Cafe / Dayton
DjDandys top 10 for July 2014
01. Iggy Azalia Fancy
02. Rupaul Sissy That Walk
03. Naughty Boy F/Sam Smith La La La
04. Calvin Harris Summer
05. Disclosure F/Sam Smith Latch
06. Beyonce XO
07. Kylie Minogue I Was Gonna Cancel
08. Gia Bombs Away
09. Cher I Walk Alone
10. Avicii Lay Me Down
Hello and welcome to the July rundown in the music world. As we look back on a
successful pride month (unless you are in Fort Wayne or Lafayette, where you still
have prides to come), music is red hot on the dance scene right now.
I was excited to have the opportunity to hear Dave Aude live at Talbott Street during Indianapolis Pride. The energy in the room was amazing and everyone had a
great time.
London Rose, who I talked about in the last article, also sang her hit Kick Drum
during the night.
cal sound that seems as if it is right out of the late 80s or early 90s. When I first
saw the video for Thats Desire I wasnt exactly sure if it was new or old. The song
has to do with being attracted to people because they are rich, which seems to play
into 80s extravagance. However its inclusion of a sample of C+C Music Factorys
Keep It Comin is what drew me to listen to this song. I love old music samples.
Sub Focus f/MNEK Close This is another house music gem from the UK. This
is the 7th single released from the album Tarus. Sub Focus has been very big on
satellite radio this past year with several big hits from their album getting airplay.
This particular song is house-oriented as opposed to the hit Tidal Wave, which had
a dubstep sound. It is not as radio friendly, but seems to have a chance at early
evening club play.
Ultra Nate/Samuele Sartini So Glamorous Continuing to move up the sales
charts and starting to reach the dance floors is multi-talented Ultra Nate who has
been making great music for over 20 years. This is a soulful, well produced, disco
sounding record that will have you shaking your booty to the beat. This is not the
typical big room dance mix that Ultra typically put out last decade, but a more
intimate sounding record that is more in tune with what drives most dance floors
today.
MNEK I Wrote A Song About You MNEK (pronounced like his actual last
name Emenike)is singing about a love lost, (or is it) on this new track. Pure heaven
to listen to this gentleman sing. This track is a full melodic production that will
hopefully get video support. I look for this to continue to be a great year for this
young man and feel like he is just getting off the ground in his career. Hopefully
his success in Britain will translate to audiences here in the US.
Well I have had a busy month and it continues for me the next few weeks.
I am off to Denver Pride as I pen these words this week, so I will miss Columbus
Pride this year. I will have more exciting news and music reviews for next month,
so check back.
Thank you for checking out my articles here in The Word and know that the dj
community appreciates your continued support on the dance floor.
Iggy Azalias Fancy and Dj snakes Turn down For What dominated the airwaves
and the dance floors in June, but it seems a shift in genre is continuing to happen.
House music is pushing into top 40 radio and onto the dance floors in a big way
in the U.S. The UK group Disclosure continues to release singles from their debut
album Settle. These singles are getting tons of club play and the song Latch is now
on American top 40 radio.
If you havent heard this album, I do highly recommend it. They have recently
collaborated with another UK producer, Friend Within, on a new non album track
called The Mechanism.
This track has video support as well but the reason I mention it is because of the
bass line. This waw sound seems to be making its way into a lot of the new releases for underground house this Summer.
Sam Smith has just released his first full length ep In The Lonely Hour that has
already been highly praised. He is featured on the pop hit La La La by Naughty
boy, included as a bonus track. It should definitely be a fun 4th of July at many of
our clubs.
Now lets go around the world and check out a few interesting musical groups for
this month...
Client Liaison Thats Desire Australian indie band Client Liaison is obsessed
with vintage 80s and 90s Australia. This eclectic duo promotes a fashion and musi-
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get seriously involved with someone after a break-up.

The truth of the matter is, it should be when you are healed from what came before.
And just like a black eye or a scraped knee or the common cold, everyone heals at a
different rate. The real trick is knowing when you are truly healed. And that means
thinking of your ex in a calm new light with none of the sadness or anger that were attached to them, and learning to accept your own role in the cause of the break-up.
Rebounding isnt the only sports term people use in relationships. We also pitch and
catch, and there are tight ends and eligible receivers. We score, we make passes, and
we get to first, second or third base. Sometimes, we even beat the defense with a little
roughing and stickhandling.
But to hew more closely to the terminology of basketball, even when we rebound,
there will be guarding and incidental contact, and there will always be transition. And
release.
Im going to begin by referencing some men that have probably never been mentioned
in a gay newspaper. Men like DeAndre Jordan, Kevin Garnett, Dwight Howard and
Dennis Rodman. Well, maybe Dennis Rodman.. I mean he did dress in drag a couple
times, remember?
Does anyone out there know what all of these men have in common? And heres a hint:
its not date rape or horrible taste in jewellery. The answer is that they have all led
the NBA in rebounds. Thats a basketball term for those of you that are unfamiliar. In
the NBA, thats a good thing. But when we talk about rebounding in relationships, it
doesnt usually lead to a score.
When we break up with someone, most people go through the basic stages of grief
and why not? It is a death of sorts, after all. Getting involved with someone right away
can help these stages pass by with less pain, if any at all. After a break-up, we all carry
the questions and the turmoil that follow the end of a significant relationship. There is
a gaping hole in your heart and in your life where your partner used to live. The time
spent with an ex is now empty, and every minute spent alone seems to last forever as
the sadness and the loss fill you up again and again.
Then, suddenly, someone shows interest and it distracts from the sorrow. The new
person smiles, holds your hand, offers emotional support and replaces that ache of
loneliness while repairing your damaged self-esteem. Emotions that were lacking in
the relationship with the ex are now projected on the new partner. There is comfort
with this new person, and you think youre starting with a clean slate. But even when a
slate is clean, you can still read what was written on it before.
Now lets say you are this new person. It feels incredible to be so needed by someone
and you feel like you turned their life around by rescuing them from sorrow. But is the
person who is rebounding thinking about the long-term, or are they living in the moment so they dont have to think about what they just went through?
Sometimes when people part, they feel like time was wasted and there is an inherent
need to quickly move on to make up for the past months or years. But is it real? When
we rebound after the end of a relationship, are we giving the new person who we truly
are? Or are we merely displacing the emotion that we have lost?
Some people believe that we rebound to prove to ourselves that we wont repeat the
pattern that came before. Some believe that its a competition to see if you can find
a new mate before your ex-partner does. And some believe its just finding solace in
someone else while you lick your wounds. Does it matter if it was nine years or five
months or even 420 days? Whats gone is gone, right?
The person we decide to rebound with makes all the little things about your ex fade
away like the remnants of a rain-washed chalk drawing: the way he kissed you, the
way he said your name, the way his fingers tangled in your hand, his skin against
yours. Or does it? No matter what happened in the previous relationship, it is part of
your life and it will always be there like fingerprints on your heart.
Sure, the 23-year-old lifeguard may be blindingly handsome and totally enamored
with you, but its not something serious that will last forever. Its merely a distraction,
a quick fix; a Band-Aid over a broken heart that is still seeping love from its shattered
depths. It feels great in the moment, but its not what you truly want. To quote Julia
Roberts character in the movie Closer: he tastes like you only sweeter.
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That is the real question here, because to rebound actually just means bouncing back
and we all eventually bounce back after having our hearts broken. Some people say
you should wait a year. Some people say you should wait half the length of the relationship.
Just out of curiosity, where do people get these figures? Most people cant figure out 15
percent of a restaurant check but they can give you an exact date on when you should
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July is supposed to be the month of things that go bang and boom, but as with
fireworks, some things fizzle while others sizzle and some relationships just make
up their own fireworks, too. All that said, lets see what we have had come in to the
mailbox... First off, we are amazed that some folks think they can lose weight
and advertise that they are dieting and then work in the food industry (when
they have work) and fill their Facebook pages with recipes and photos from
lemon curd to cheesecake and biscuits they made, but never actually lose a
single ounce. As our owner has discovered, you cannot actually lose weight unless
you walk and work out more, eat less and pay attention to (ahem) what goes into
your mouth. To the person we are speaking about here its not gonna happen unless
you make it happen so put down that fork or you will be er, ah, forked!... Speaking
of forked, a well-known forker in the Midwest has finally departed his serving
job and we hear has gone on to better and bigger things. In any case, we wish
him all the best and to those who have avoided where he worked like the proverbial
plague while he worked there, the coast is now clear to return. Will we pussies say
who or where or even what city? No way in hell, lol!... Speaking of no way, no way
did our owners make it, but we hear a good time was had by all who helped
this columns good friend Nik celebrate a big birthday a few days ago. We hear
he celebrated by throwing himself out of a perfectly good airplane above the clouds
and then posted photos of his skydive on Facebook. He also threw himself what we
hear tell was a fun birthday bash. The invite for any and all went out on Facebook but
damn, while we cats might be night owls the owners arent and that party (at least if
the invite was to be believed) started at 1 a.m.! Dont millennials sleep anymore?...
Speaking of sleeping, wed be asleep were we not to say we have been enjoying
the adventures of former Indy chef supreme Kathy Jones who picked up stakes
(and steaks, too, since she is a chef) and moved lox, stocks and barrel to Sitka,
Alaska. Kathys partner Holly will be joining her later this Summer, but meanwhile the
former head chef at Iozzos Garden of Italy and later owner of her own fish market in
Indys City Market has been having a grand time cooking, meeting eagles face-to-face
and a whole lot more. Keep those adventures coming, Kathy, cause your friends back
home love living vicariously through your travels in the 49th State!... Speaking of
states, we pussies would like to state that its unfair that a certain bartender at
English Ivys has sworn his crew to refrain from handing our owners any tidbits
for this column while they are in enjoying their Weekender Breakfasts or Surfs
and Turfs. Guess word has reached him that some of what gets said can end up in
these pages, huh? Speaking of Ivys, though, congrats on the new staffer who will be
familiar to locals as the long-time manager at The 10. We hear rumours that it might
be reincarnated, but as of presstime have nothing official. Just rumours and more
rumours... Speaking of rumours (this time spelled roomers) congrats to two of
these cats fave people on the great new digs they landed in Toronto. We got some
photos and it looks like indeed life is good. We wish you guys the best and miss you,
so come visit sometime... Speaking of visits, its never a good idea to visit an ex
hoping she will come back. We understand one girl recently did this and ended up
not only still an ex, but now an enemy as well. Its better to leave an ex be an ex and we
should know cause we sure have enough of em!... Speaking of enough, it sounded
like someone had had more than enough to drink before putting up a rather
hilariously hateful post about a certain vehicle in the Indy Pride Parade. We do
not know if we found the reporters comment about some of the decor funnier than
the comment about one of the vehicles passengers who was described in a derogatory
term we will not repeat (though we agree with) but we will admit we all laughed until
our whiskers very nearly fell out!... Speaking of fallout, we are sure there wont
be much but we do want to send a certain writer a dictionary as a welcome to
Indianapolis gift. The reason? He came out recently with a publication and on the
front wrote that it was the Premier Issue. Uh, ah, sorry friend, but the word you
wanted was premiere which means first or inaugural. The word you used means best
or foremost and allow we Word cats to assure you that when it comes to publications
in this town, you aint it LOL... Finally, this paper and a lot of other places in the
area remind regularly of the importance of HIV/AIDS testing, but our owners
saw the power of peer pressure at work at Metro on a recent Wednesday. Seems
they were doing free tests upstairs when a cute young man, sporting a Band-Aid on his
arm joined three friends sitting at the bar and proudly announced Its my first time
to get tested and Im negative! The friends all looked up from their drinks and said
Well then we should see, too...why didnt you take us up there with you? With that
they finished their drinks and all made it upstairs in time to get tested before the tester
finished his day. We didnt hang around to hear their results, but the moral (regardless)
is: get tested, know your status and take some friends you care about with you! Meow!
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Food For
Thought
By Ted Fleischaker / Word Publisher
A few different restaurant comments this time around, one in Indianapolis, one a little bit
further afield and one in Illinois, so fasten the seatbelts its time to travel!
MORE THAN SOUP
I continue to be amazed and happily filled with the great variety on the menu at
Soupremacy in the Circle Tower where Market Street meets Monument Circle. About the
only two gripes I have with Soupremacy are their limited seating (go before 11.30 or after 1
if you expect a seat) and the fact that several of the regular soups have become so popular
they sometimes run out if I am late. The Chicken Velvet, since L.S. Ayres is long gone and
the Indiana State Museum went stupid and closed the Ayres Tearoom except at holidays
and for catering is the best to be found anywhere. They also have, if you like me are a
Summer cold soup fan, some of the towns best Gazpacho, running neck-and-neck with the
one served a few blocks away at Delaware Streets Stars Cafe. The good news is Stars has
theirs on offer Wednesdays and Thursdays now through Labour Day and at Soupremacy
its every day (but Sundays when they are closed) until further notice. Im in heaven!
But this is more than about soup, and while the non-soup choice at Soupremacy includes
salads and some awesome bread, I found out a secret: they will serve the smoked salmon
with capers, onions, tomatoes and cream cheese (from the breakfast board) at lunch, too.
If you ask nice, they will offer it to you Teds way which is not on a bagel, but on one of
their toasted baguettes. Go on, try it because while lox on a bagel is traditional (and what
I get at nearby Einsteins often) that smoked salmon is even better on the baguette. Its not
on the menu that way, but ask the boss and she will make it happen. It goes great with any
soup.
SPENCER IS WORTH A TRIP
The drive down either Indiana 67 or via I-70 west then south from the Cloverdale exit on
U.S. 231 to Spencer, Indiana, will take you about an hour either way, but the trip is one
back in time and will feature true culinary nostalgia if you schedule it to include lunch or
dinner at Chambers Smorgasbord, just off the Spencer Square at 72 West Market Street.
Chambers (which we visit every Spencer Pride) is a throw-back to the 70s and before, and
is good, old-style country cooking combined with always-friendly servers and is one of the
last restaurants anywhere which still proudly calls itself a smorgasbord a term popular
when I was a kid in the 50s and 60s but which has been replaced today by buffet or
dropped altogether as places try and become more high-tone often with a loss of good
food along the way. Here little or nothing comes from a Sysco Box, but it all comes from a
busy kitchen one can clearly view through a service window by the steam tables.
On these tables are some of the best traditional foods anywhere great fried chicken,
Nashvilles famous fried biscuits with apple butter, pulled pork, green beans and just
plain, good country style eats. Theres a traditional salad bar, too, with nothing fancy but
a nice variety of dressings, croutons, chopped ham and turkey to go on a salad and more.
They do offer a salad-only option if you wish just that, but one look at the whole bar and
you will take the package (dessert and soft-serve ice cream are included). Besides, four of
us had lunch on a recent Saturday with soft drinks included for under $35. Want to talk
about a bargain in todays times? Besides, after lunch you can head over and see the newlyrenovated 1920s Tivoli Theatre two blocks away or spend an afternoon at McCormicks
Creek State Park which is a couple miles down the road just outside town.
AND HERES WHATS BREWING IN SPRINGFIELD
We do gay pride in Springfield, Illinois, and while I adore seafood and they have some of
the very best (yes in the middle of the prairies) at Chesapeake Seafood House, were there
a couple days and am constantly on the lookout for additional spots to dine that 2nd night.
This year at pride someone tipped me off to Obed & Isaacs, a rather cool microbrewery
which is in an old house in downtown and which is unique in a number of awesome ways.
For one, if you are a beer drinker, they not only brew theirs right on the spot out back, but
as they own several buildings, they use underground pipes and pipe it from the brewery to
the taps. That means no barrel, no storage and beer thats totally fresh.
Secondly, the atmosphere as they use almost every part of this historic property is
very cool. Old living and dining areas, bedrooms and more are in use, as well as a very
quiet and fun (for people-watching) outdoor patio.
And lastly (foremost really) the food and service were excellent. Our server explained all
about the places history, the local family which owns it and more. She also noted that their
menus are unique from a British selection (great bangers & mash) to a build-your-own
burger bar where you pick every component on a special checklist/form and then hand it
to the staff for preparation. Overall, pricing was fair (two late lunches with all the bells and
whistles about $30) and its a place wed love to have a bit closer.
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