Parshas Matos - Putting Kids before the Kids
Rabbi Maury Grebenau
Two of the tribes are taken to task by Moshe for their request to receive their portion of land on the other side of the Jordan. Moshe
s castigation of the tribes shows his clear displeasure with their request, but it is not immediately evident what was so objectionable. Rav Avigdor Nebenzahl points out that the major issue here is one of hasty decision making. The Midrash connects this incident to a pasuk in Mishlei (20:21),
If an inheritance is seized hastily in the beginning, then its ending will not be blessed.
The Midrash continues that these two tribes were punished by being exiled years in advance of the other ten tribes. What exactly was the nature of this
and why was it so detrimental? It is interesting to note that the Talmud (Makkos 9b) tells us that there were just as many
, cities where accidental murderers went into exile, on the other side of the Jordan as in Israel proper. This is quite an anomaly, as one would imagine there would be far more incidents of accidental murder in the area where ten tribes lived that in the area where only Gad and Reuven chose to dwell, due to the significantly larger population. On further examination the key to this discrepancy may be the very issue we are discussing. The acquisition of this land was done in great haste without careful consideration of the issues. Rash choices frequently lead to overlooked hazards and preventable errors. This would be the exact type of attitude which might cause a significant increase in the number of accidental deaths. It was the very nature of the tribes on this side of the Jordan which caused such an upswing in accidental deaths. Recently Malcom Gladwell published a book titled
which argued for the efficacy of decision making
from the gut.
I was amused to notice that a few months later a second book was published called
This author argued for the careful consideration of major decisions. While we do not wish to become mired in indecision, there is much to be said for careful thought before significant choices. This would seem to be the message of the story of the tribes of Gad and Reuven. They quickly opt for the land which gives them a good grazing opportunity; the land which will be the most economically beneficial to them. Moshe points out the mistake in their priorities. Originally the tribes ask for land so that they can build cities for their
cattle and their children (Bamidbar 32:16). Moshe corrects them by switching the order, children and then cattle (32:24)
. In their haste Gad and Reuven lose sight of the correct priorities. Perhaps the message was to put the spiritual needs of their children before their economic needs. Living in Israel proper closer to the Temple and Sanhedrin would lead to a more spiritual experience for the people of Gad and Reuven and for their children. In their haste to take advantage of an economic opportunity they neglected to take the spiritual lay of the land into account.
See Bamidbar Rabbah (22:9)