Lady

ix
Waiting
JACK! KNALL
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MOTHERS WORKBOOK
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CONTENTS
A Mcssagc to thc Moms
How to Usc Tis Vorkbook
Week 1 !ntroduction Scssion. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !7
Day One !ntroduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !9
Day Two !dcal MomFormcr Prostitutc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2!
Day Three \ital Collcgc Prcp Coursc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
Day Four Cli Notcs lor Mom. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2
Day Five Guidcbook lor Parisand Parcnting. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27
Prcp Quiz lor Moms . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .29
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1!
Week 2 Raising a Young Lady ol Rccklcss Abandon. . . . . . . . 11
Day One Tc Shout Ycs Mom . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Day Two ur aughtcrsGods \csscls . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Day Three Your aughtcr: Prcgnant with Mcssiah . . . . . . . . . . . 19
Day Four Tc Sccrct ol thc Alabastcr 8ox. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4!
Day Five Raising aughtcrs Vho Listcn to
Tcir Hcavcnly Papa. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41
8asic !nstructions lrom Papa . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47
Week 3 Raising a Young Lady ol iligcncc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49
Day One Humility and iligcncc: Qualications
ol a VorldChangcr . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !
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Day Two iligcncc and !ntcrnal Jogging . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Day Three A Holy Hit List and Praying lor Hcr Crushcs . . . . . .
Day Four Holy Swcat and Piggy 8anks. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Day Five Hallmark Cards, JunkFood rawcrs,
and Holy Hugs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6!
Week 4 Raising a Young Lady ol Faith . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61
Day One Gctting Hcr Scvcn aily . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6
Day Two No8ozo Hcart Guard. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67
Day Three vcrcoming thc istraction ol 8usyncss . . . . . . . . . . 69
Day Four You Cant Smudgc Him ut . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7!
Day Five Kcys to Cultivating Faith Trough
Studying thc Vord. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71
Kcys to cctivc 8iblc Study . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Vhat is Availablc aily in Gods Vord: . . . . . . . . 76
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77
Week 5 Raising a Young Lady ol \irtuc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79
Day One Vhat ocs \irtuc Look Likc: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8!
Day Two Vhy Modcsty: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81
Day Three Vho Shc atcs Rcccts Vho Shc !s . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
Day Four Tc Grcat Scllcccption . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87
Day Five Pray lor a Tiggcr in Your aughtcrs Lilc . . . . . . . . 89
\irtucs Chccklist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9!
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91
Week 6 Raising a Young Lady ol cvotion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
Day One Rclcntlcss cvotion to Jcsus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97
Day Two Mom on a Mission. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .99
Day Three Tc Praycr !nvcstmcnt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !0!
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Day Four clivcr Us lrom thc Kingdom ol Scll . . . . . . . . . . . . !01
Day Five Two ncmics ol cvotion: ntitlcmcnt
and Glory Robbcrs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !0
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !07
Week 7 Raising a Young Lady ol Purity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !09
Day One Raising a Lady in Vaiting
in a ScxSaturatcd Socicty . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !!!
Day Two Tc Principlc ol iminishing Rcturns. . . . . . . . . . . . !!1
Day Three Always Pushing thc Limits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !!
Day Four Tc Cost ol Going Too Far . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !!7
Day Five Ncvcr Too Young . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !!9
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !2!
Week 8 Raising a Young Lady ol Sccurity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !21
Day One Mom: Tc Modcl ol Sccurity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !2
Day Two Tc Lovc Tank ccit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !27
Day Three vcrcoming thc ncmys Lics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !29
Day Four Rcady to atc Yct:. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !1!
Day Five caling with 8ullics, Mcan Girls, and 8ozo 8oys . . !11
Common Vorricslor Tccn Girls . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !1
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !17
Week 9 Raising a Young Lady ol Contcntmcnt . . . . . . . . . . . !19
Day One iscontcntmcnt that Suocatcs Joy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !4!
Day Two Scrving thcrs and Silcncing thc Vhining . . . . . . . !41
Day Three caling with Unrcalistic xpcctations . . . . . . . . . . . !4
Day Four Somc Kcys to clcating iscontcntmcnt . . . . . . . . . !47
List ol thc Top Tcn Vays to 8ust 8oyCrazincss . !49
Day Five Starving iscontcntmcnt and Finding
a 8iblical Modcl . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !0
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llas iscontcntmcntbustcr List . . . . . . . . . . . . . !2
Parallcls 8ctwccn thc Provcrbs 1!
Voman and Ruth . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !1
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !
Week 10 Raising a Young Lady ol Conviction. . . . . . . . . . . . . !7
Day One Tc Starting Placc ol Conviction. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !9
Comparisons 8ctwccn a 8ozo and a 8oaz . . . . . . !6!
Day Two Your aughtcr is Callcd to bc a StandardScttcr . . . !61
Day Three sscntial 8oaz Qualitics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !6
Samplc Mr. Right List . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !67
Day Four Appcaranccs Can 8c ccciving. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !68
Day Five Firc Vall ol Praycr Around ur Girls . . . . . . . . . . . !70
For Additional Study . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !72
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !7
Week 11 Raising a Young Lady ol Paticncc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !77
Day One ntcring thc School ol Paticncc. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !79
ont Scttlc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !8!
Day Two Mom: Tc Spiritual Monitor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !82
Day Three Paticncc Protccts. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !84
Day Four Sctting 8oundarics in Advancc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !86
Jackics PrcTcmptation Program. . . . . . . . . . . . . . !88
Day Five Vaiting lor Lovc, Rcjccting Lust . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !89
Truc Lovc List . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !9!
Together Mothcr/aughtcr Scssion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !91
Closing Rcmarks lrom Jackic. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !9
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A MESSAGE TO THE MOMS
M

om, youre up!
Vhilc ! want to cncouragc you to rcrcad thc prclacc to thc book
(or rcad it lor thc lirst timc, il you havc not opcncd your book yct), a
rcmindcr ncvcr hurts!
Thc wondcrlul thing about going through Raising a Lady in Wait-
ing in this lormat, and what you can cxpcct lrom mc along thc journcy
ahcad, is this: authcnticity and cxpcricncc. ! know whcrc youvc bccn
and ! want to coach you, drawing lrom my pcrsonal history, on how to
raisc a lady in waiting. To raisc up young womcn who wait lor Gods
8oaz and avoid 8ozos likc thc plaguc, it is so important, Mom, that you
undcrstand your rolc as your daughtcrs grcatcst coach and numbcr onc
chccrlcadcr. Gct out thc pom poms!
!m amazcd at thc skcwcd pcrspcctivc so many parcnts havc adoptcd
whcn it comcs to schools. vcn church and Sunday school! Scriously, it
makcs mc want to scrcam: You are the person God has chosen to raise your
daughter! It is no one elses responsibility! This pcrspcctivc is motivatcd by
downright lazincss. Now with school and church, thcrc arc positivcs to
thc invcstmcnt thcy makc in our kids, but it gcts ugly whcn wc incor
poratc mcdia and tclcvision into thc mix. 8asically, wc want to givc our
childrcn to othcr pcoplc and placcs so that thcy will raisc thcm lor us.
Thcn wc wondcr why our kids cnd up making somc ol thc dccisions
thcy donamcly, our daughtcrs dating 8ozo guys instcad ol waiting lor
Gods 8oaz.
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RAISING A Lady IN Waiting Daughters Workbook
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This study is dcsigncd to hclp you conncct with your daughtcr in
a way that lcw mothcrs do, and, ! pray, bc a stcppingstonc toward a
much morc honcst, opcn, and authcntic rclationship bctwccn thc two ol
you. 8clicvc mc, you arc going to nccd it whcn 8ozo comcs aknocking.
Vhcthcr you havc a grcat rclationship alrcady with no sccrcts or you
lccl closcd oll lrom onc anothcr, likc you two arc living on dillcrcnt
planctsmy praycr is that by going through this book and workbook
togcthcr, somcthing spccial takcs placc in your rclationship.
kay, so ! am not onc to bc vaguc. Thc somcthing spccial ! want
to scc happcn is you bccomc your daughtcrs tcachcr, chccrlcadcr, coach,
and spiritual monitor (!ll cxplain this latcr on in thc book!). Your kids
might not comc out and say it, but according to an cxtcnsivc study con
ductcd by USA Today Weekend Magazine, 70 pcrccnt ol 272,400 pollcd
tccnagcrs idcntilicd thcir parcnts as thc most important inllucncc in
your livcs. Vow! Not mcdia. Not pccrs. Not school. Not church. Ycah,
you Mom!
Likc ! said at thc bcginning, Mom, youre up. !l thcsc statistics arc
truc, you havc an awcsomc and cxciting opportunity standing bclorc you.
Hcrc is what ! would likc you to do ncxt: Read the preface to Raising
a Lady in Waiting. !t givcs you a glimpsc ol my pcrsonal story, and also
sharcs thc rcason why ! bclicvc this mcssagc is so important lor moms
to sharc with thcir daughtcrs. Thcn you will bcgin your intcractivc jour
ncy alongsidc your daughtcr. You will rcad thc book, and shc will rcad
thc book. You will lill out your workbook, and thcn shc will lill out
hcr workbook. You will do thc rcadings and cxcrciscs scparatcly, only
bccausc ! cxpcct both ol you arc trcmcndously busy.
That said, wc cannot bow down at thc altar ol busyncss. !t can
bccomc a god il wc arc not carclul. At thc cnd ol cach wcck, you and
your daughtcr will comc togcthcr lor a timc ol sharing, mcntorship, and
authcntic rclationship building. You will havc thc opportunity to talk,
opcnly and honcstly, about thc topic you both studicd that wcck and
sharc anything lrom your workbook cxpcricncc that might hclp your
daughtcr along thc journcy to bccoming a lady in waiting.
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A Message to the Daughters
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Abovc all, Mom, my praycr is that your young lady in waiting would
bc a pursucr ol thc Lord Jcsus Christ above all else. As Hc is thc most
important rclationship in hcr lilc, ! can assurc you, cvcrything clsc will
comc into its placc. Shc will nccd coaching along thc way, absolutcly.
Vc all do through this journcy. That said, whcn your young lady is lirst
and lorcmost onc sold out to King Jcsus, it will bccomc very difficult lor
hcr to givc hcr hcart away to anyone who trcats hcr in a way that hcr
King would disapprovc ol.
Hcrcs to thc journcy ahcad. !m so thrillcd. So cxcitcd. So cxpcctant
that a grcat God is going to do grcat things in both ol your livcs!
Much lovc,
Jackic
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HOW TO USE THIS WORKBOOK
H
crc arc somc tips on how to usc this workbook lor yourscll, work
with your daughtcr through thc chaptcrs ol thc book/workbook
scssions, and gct thc most out ol this cxpcricncc that you possibly can.
A NOTE ON THE TIME COMMITMENT
Vhcn it comcs to thc timc commitmcnt rcquircd, ! strcss quality
over quantity. ! know you arc both busy pcoplc. You arc busy taking carc
ol a lamily, raising childrcn, having a carccr, going to schoolall ol
thosc things that you as a mom and a woman nccd to bc doing.
!m also conlidcnt that your daughtcr has a rathcr hcalthy social cal
cndar, whcrc lricnds, school, sports, shopping, and all ol thosc othcr
things may bc taking up a good portion ol hcr timc.
Thc cxcrciscs in this workbook should not takc you morc than !20
minutcs pcr day. Again, it is so important that in spitc ol our busyncss,
wc do not sacrilicc thc most important things at thc altar ol thc myriad
ol littlc things dcmanding our timc. Thc invcstmcnt in your child is onc
ol thc most prccious and important things you can dcvotc your timc to.
Considcr that whcn it comcs to doing this study.
BREAKDOWN
Weekly Video Coaching Tip from Jackie
!l possiblc, watch this togcthcrmom and daughtcr. !l not, both
ol you can watch it scparatcly, but it would bc bcst lor you to watch
thc clip togcthcr. For about livc minutcs, ! am going to coach you on
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what to cxpcct in that wccks scssion, and what you should cxpcct to gct
out ol itmom and daughtcr. ! will lcavc you with an encouragement.
!t might bc in thc lorm ol a tcstimony. Maybc it will bc a lilc lcsson !
havc lcarncd along thc journcy, or a tcstimony somconc sharcd with mc.
Altcr watching this, you will bc rcady to takc on thc wcck!
Daily Readings from Raising a Lady in Waiting
Rcad your daily scgmcnt(s) lrom Raising a Lady in Waiting as pro
vidcd in cach scssion. This will hclp you go through thc book at a
comlortablc pacc and digcst all thc major conccpts and principlcs that
arc prcscntcd. vcry day, you will bc assigncd to rcad a ccrtain scction
ol thc chaptcr and answcr daily rcllcction qucstions.
ach chaptcr will bc brokcn into livc daily scctions. !t is rccom
mcndcd that you do thc rcadings/daily discussion qucstions on Monday
through Friday, so that you can dcvotc onc ol thc wcckcnd days to spcnd
timc with your daughtcr and rcvicw thc matcrial you covcrcd. Vhilc this
spccilic schcdulc is not csscntial, wc lind that this particular mcthod
tcnds to work bcst to promotc thc ovcrall goal ol thc cxcrciscs.
Daily Reection Questions
ach scction will havc corrcsponding aily Rcllcction Qucstions
dcsigncd to gct you intcracting with thc matcrial. Thcsc qucstions will
actually coincidc with what your daughtcr is rcading and rcsponding to
in hcr workbook.
Thc goal is that you will: !) rcad thc book, 2) go through thc
workbook activitics, and 1) at thc cnd ol thc wcck, bc ablc to havc an
honcst, opcn, rcal discussion about what you havc bccn going through
in thc workbook.
Daily Prayer for Mother and Daughter
Principlcs without praycr arc just inlormational tidbits. Praycr adds
substancc and powcr to what wc arc doing hcrc. ! want you, Mom, to bc
praying lor Gods wisdom to shapc you as your daughtcrs mcntor, and
also to shapc your daughtcr in thc proccss.
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How to Usc this Vorkbook
Also, kccp in mind thcsc praycrs arc dcsigncd to hclp, not hindcr,
your pcrsonal praycr lilc. !n othcr words, wc want to givc you somc typc
ol tcmplatc to pray, not to bc thc bcall and cndall ol your praycr lilc,
but as somcthing to jumpstart your praycr locus lor thc day, spccilically
rclating to your daughtcr. Vc must bc locuscd in our praycrs,cspccially
whcn it comcs to our childrcn.
Mother-Daughter time
At thc cnd ol thc wcck, prclcrably on Saturday or Sunday, Mom,
you nccd to gct with your daughtcr and spcnd somc timc togcthcr.
Maybc grab lunch somcwhcrc or collcc. This cxcrcisc is not dcsigncd to
bc somc cold, distant, Vhat do you lcarn about: kay. Got it. Now,
Vhat did you lcarn about going through this book: kay. Cool. Arc
wc donc now: Timc to go oll to scparatc cnds ol lilc again.
Pcrhaps othcr dcvotionals and books havc crcatcd such a stagnant
climatc in thc past, but quitc honcstly, ! didnt havc thc timc to prcscnt
this matcrial so that moms and daughtcrs just madc it anothcr must do
on thc list. You arc going through this matcrial bccausc you rccognizc
thc value and thc investment.
! am going to prcscnt this matcrial in a vcry simplc way lor you to
usc it howcvcr you lccl comlortablc. 8asically, ! am giving you a sct ol
qucstions lor both you and your daughtcr to answcr. !l cithcr ol you
dont lccl likc you can answcr a ccrtain qucstion, lcar not! Answcr it
bascd on what you think would bc thc right answcr altcr going through
that scction in Raising a Lady in Waiting. Mom, you may not havc all ol
thc answcrs and that is totally cool. Nonc ol us do! Usc this timc to talk.
Talk about what you rcad. Talk about somc ol thc cxcrciscs you wcnt
through. Vcrc thcy a strugglc: Vhcrc thcrc ccrtain qucstions that you
could not answcr: Vcrc thcrc qucstions that you could answcr and were
excited about thc answcr: ! am lccry ol giving too much structurc hcrc, as
this nccds to bc organic and rcal. Again, !ll simply providc you a list ol
qucstions to hclp guidc your discussion. Thc rcst is up to you!
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Week 1
DVD Introduction Session
INTRODUCTION SESSION
Lady in Waiting is not about nding thc right man,
but bccoming thc right woman.
The Lady in Waiting
recklessly abandons herself to the
Lordship of Christ,
diligently uses her single days,
trusts God with unwavering faith,
demonstrates virtue in daily life,
loves God with undistracted devotion,
stands for physical and emotional purity,
lives in security,
responds to life in contentment,
makes choices based on her convictions,
and waits patiently for
God to meet her needs.
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Day One
INTRODUCTION
Rcad: RALIW !ntroduction, pagcs 2123 (Rcad up
until thc Ideal Mom, Former Prostitute hcading.)
The principles in this book are intended to
guard and to guide: To guard your daughter
from a Bozo guy and to guide her toward a
man worth waiting fora modern Boaz.
DAILY REFLECTION QUESTIONS
1. !n gcncral, why do you bclicvc it is so important to guard your
daughtcr lrom a 8ozo guy:
2. Vhcn you rcad thc phrasc, 8ozo guy, what docs that mcan to you:
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3. How docs thc man whom your daughtcr cnds up withcithcr a
8ozo or a 8oazactually dctcrminc thc coursc ol your daugh
tcrs luturc:
DAILY PRAYER
Father, help me to guard my daughter from second-bests and
guide her toward embracing Your good and perfect plan for her
life. Give me wisdom on how to mentor her using these principles
in the days and weeks ahead.
And Holy Spirit, as (aughtcrs Namc) is reading through this
book too, open her heart to hear Your voice and stir her to also
pursue Your perfect plan for her life.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
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Day Two
IDEAL MOMFORMER PROSTITUTE
Rcad: RALIW !ntroduction, pagc 23 (Rcad thc
Ideal MomFormer Prostitute scction.)
If by any chance you are a mom who thinks it
is too latebe encouraged. Te breath in your
nostrils is proof of the hope that God is not
nished with you or your daughter yet.
DAILY REFLECTION QUESTIONS
1. Go on to rcad about Rahab in Joshua 2. This lormcr prostitutc
would bccomc thc mothcr ol 8oaz, thc lcading man in thc lovc sto
ry ol Ruth. Vhat mcssagcs docs Rahabs story spcak to a mom who
bclicvcs shc has mcsscd up bcyond lixing or has madc onc too many
poor choiccs in hcr lilc:
2. How docs this spccilically spcak to you as a mom:
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DAILY PRAYER
Lord, thank You for Your grace. You are the God of second
chances, and third chancesand one-thousandth chances. Noth-
ing exhausts Your grace, Your mercy, and Your kindness. I confess,
I have made mistakes in the past. I may be making them right
now. Instead of giving up, I push forward. I reject the enemys lie
that it is too late. The fact that I am alive and breathing means
there is hope that You are not finished with me or my daughter.
Fill (Daughters Name) with hope that You have amazing plans
for her, even if she feels like she has messed up beyond forgiveness.
Expose that lie to her and enable her to break free from condemna-
tion. And Lord, empower me to reveal Your overwhelming grace
and kindness to her as we move forward in this journey together.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
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Day Three
VITAL COLLEGE PREP COURSE
Rcad: RALIW !ntroduction, pagcs 2324 (Rcad
thc Vital College Prep Course scction.)
I know too many kids who are passing school
and unking life in their relationships.
DAILY REFLECTION QUESTIONS
1. Vhy do you think so many ol our daughtcrs (ycs, cvcn thosc who go
to Christian schools and arc attcnding church) arc making such un
wisc and horriblc choiccs in thcir cvcryday livcs:
2. Vhat docs this statcmcnt mcan to you: Too many kids arc passing
school and llunking lilc in thcir rclationships:
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3. Vhy it is important that you, as a mom, do morc than just buy
your daughtcr this book, but actually modcl thc principlcs on a dai
ly basis:
DAILY PRAYER
Lord, help me not to be ignorant to what is going on in the next
generationespecially in my daughter.
I pray for (Daughters Name), that You would protect her from
the poor choices available to her daily, and that You would enable
me to model these heart-preserving principles to her. I dont want
to just get her a book. I dont want to just tell her to do this
or dont do this. Father, help me to live this out before her
eyes. Above all, may my growing love and passion for You make
(Daughters Name) hungry for what I have.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
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Day Four
CLIFF NOTES FOR MOM
Rcad: RALIW !ntroduction, pagcs 2425
(Rcad thc Cli Notes for Mom scction.)
You can consider this the Cli Notes from my
decades of searching for transferrable concepts to help
mothers raise girls who will not become Bozo magnets.
DAILY REFLECTION QUESTIONS
1. Just as ! havc writtcn this book out ol my past cxpcricncc, lcarning
a thing or two about judging thc dillcrcncc bctwccn a 8oaz and a
8ozo, ! think it is vcry important lor you to stop and considcr your
pcrsonal clill notcs. Think ol past situations in your lilc whcrc you
wcrc pursucd by a 8ozo. id you cnd up giving in to thc pursuit:
Vhy or why not:
Note: Should you lccl dircctcd by thc Holy Spirit to sharc this with
your daughtcr, your pcrsonal history ol cxpcricncc is vcry important
in hclping hcr navigatc thc rclationship dccisions shc is making today.
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2. Vhcrc is your daughtcr right now, in tcrms ol bcing attractcd to thc
oppositc scx: !s shc not intcrcstcd yct and boys arc still gross: !s shc
crushing on a boy at school: !s shc currcntly in a rclationship: Has
hcr hcart alrcady bccn brokcn by a 8ozo: !t is csscntial that you arc
ablc to accuratcly idcntily whcrc shc is so you can most cllcctivcly
communicatc thcsc principlcs with hcr.
DAILY PRAYER
Lord, help me to discern where my daughter is on her journey and
begin to use Your wisdom to share with her principles that will
help her to make godly decisions in the years to come.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
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Day Five
GUIDEBOOK FOR PARIS
AND PARENTING
Rcad: RALIW !ntroduction, pagcs 2529 (Rcad thc
Guidebook for Paris and Parenting scction, takc your Prep
Quiz for Moms, and rcad thc inlormation that lollows.)
I feel like this book will be a helpful tour guidebook
as you maneuver through the challenges of raising
a Young Lady in Waiting and avoiding the tyranny
of a precious child becoming a Bozo magnet.
DAILY REFLECTION QUESTIONS
1. Vhy is it important to kccp your daughtcrs standards high, cvcn il
you bclicvc you arc raising a good girl:
8clorc moving on, ! rccommcnd doing thc Daily Prayer and thcn
turning ovcr to thc Prep Quiz for Moms.
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DAILY PRAYER
Lord, prepare my heart to answer the following questions trans-
parently and honestly. Whether I score well or poorly, I refuse to
get disheartened and feel like a failure. May encouragement or
discouragement help me to have a teachable heart so that in the
weeks to come, I can receive Your wisdom through the principles
I will be learning.
Thank You, Father, that I am learning how to invest in my
daughter and strengthen her standards.
And above all, help me to keep my eyes fixed on Jesus, the
Unchanging One. I cannot be attached to the outcome of my childs/
childrens lives, but I am attached to Jesus and I am so thankful
He remains the Rock of security no matter what life brings.
In the weeks to come, help my daughter to increase her trust and
confidence in Jesus, that He would be her Rock and unchanging
source of strength.
In Jesus Name, Amen.
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PREP QUIZ
FOR MOMS
K
cy Qucstion: !" $ %&'%(&') *+ &(,-' ( .+/01 2()3 ,0 4(,*,015 (Can
! hclp prcvcnt my daughtcr lrom marrying a 8ozo:)
1. o you know why oldcr guys datc youngcr girls:
2. !s your daughtcr growing in hcr lovc lor Jcsus, and docs shc scc such
growth in you:
3. !s your daughtcr cxpcricnccd in doing lor othcrs: ocs shc hclp out
at homc and at church: ocs shc scc this typc ol diligcncc in hcr
mom, who is hcr lirst rolc modcl:
4. Vhat is kccping your tccn lrom doing lor othcrs: !s your tccn too
sclllocuscd: ocs shc only do lor othcrs whcn it bcnclits hcr in thc
long run:
5. ocs your tccn havc a No8ozo Hcart Guard: ocs shc undcrstand
thc signilicancc ol gctting hcr scvcn daily: (Scc Romans 10:17.)
6. Mom, did you know that scx ruins a good rclationship or sustains a
bad onc:
7. Mom, did you know that that girls play at scx to gct lovc and boys
play at lovc to gct scx:
8. ocs your daughtcr grasp that il shc will continuc to pursuc Gods
hcart, shc will attract somconc who will cncouragc hcr to continuc
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to growand thcy will bc cach othcrs spiritual chccrlcadcrs: (Scc
Hcbrcws 10:24.)
9. Mom, do you know what thc No Zonc is: ocs your tccn know
about thc No Zonc and about staying out ol it:
10. Mom, do you know why tccn girls go too lar: Vould you know
how to cxplain thc law ol diminishing rcturns to your daughtcr and
hcr lricnds:
11. o you know why so many prccious girls marry 8ozo guys: id you
know that scx blinds a girl to thc 8ozo shc is dating or attractcd to:
12. o you know your daughtcrs lovc tank lcvcl: !l hcr carthly lathcr
is abscnt, that lovc tank nccds supcrnatural lilling by hcr hcavcnly
Fathcr. Sccurc in Jcsus, Hc must lill hcr hcart dclicit.
13. !s your tccnagcr mildly contcnt or an inccssant whincr: Mcccntric
girls arc 8ozo baitonc scllish tccn attracting anothcr and want
ing instant gratilication.
14. o you know how to bc a spiritual monitor ol your daughtcrs
crushing on guys:
15. ocs your tccn carry (in hcr wallct or on hcr ccll phonc) a list ol thc
qualitics that dcscribc Mr. Right:
16. ocs your tccn know how to avoid wcaring chains on hcr wcdding
day: (Scc Sccond Corinthians 6:14.)
17. How paticnt is your tccn: Vaiting is a prcrcquisitc lor a man worth
waiting lor, impaticncc is thc casicst way to bc 8ozo bait. (Vorsc
than waiting is wishing you had!)
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MOTHER/DAUGHTER SESSION
INSTRUCTIONS
You havc both gonc through thc introduction in both thc book and
workbook. Hcrc arc somc ol thc qucstions you can discuss during your
lirst mothcrdaughtcr scssion:

Vhat docs Jackic mcan whcn shc talks about a 8ozo
guy vcrsus a 8oaz:

Vhat docs thc story ol Rahab thc prostitutc say to you
about thc pcoplc God uscs to do grcat things:

Vhy is it so important to kccp high standards:

Vhat arc somc ol thc things that culturc, socicty,
and othcr pcoplc say about womcn who havc
high standards:

ccp down, do you think that womcn with high stan
dards arc ultimatcly lookcd down on or admircd (cvcn
il thcy arc sccrctly admircd):

Vhat arc somc ol thc bcnclits ol kccping your stan
dards high and not giving in to compromisc:

Vhat did you think ol thc prcp quiz:
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Vcrc thcrc ccrtain qucstions that didnt makc scnsc: !l
so, which oncs: (Most likcly, thcsc arc thc qucstions that
uscd phrascs wc will bc talking about in thc wccks ahcad.)
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