some of them were quite adorable. One after the other, the men who professed their undying love for her began to move on to the younger babes.Who is to blame for her delayed experience in getting married? I can hear everyone thatwill read this article say; Lara is to blame for her predicament. My question to youhowever, is- are you not making the mistake of Lara presently by the way you are usingup your time? I traveled some years back for a friend’s wedding out of Lagos; I took twoof my books (Marital delay and singles your spouse is not in church) along to give as agift to anyone that catches my attention. I met a young lady that I decided to give one to;I asked her to choose one of the books- she immediately picked singles your spouse is notin church. I asked her why she didn’t pick, marital delay, reasons, effect and the way out;her response was that she can’t go through a delay experience. That’s the mindset of single until the reality hits some of them.What you do with your time will tell a lot about the output and outcome of your life; I believe strongly that the prayer of desperation that people make on marriage issue willnot have been necessary if they had done what they should have done at the appropriatetime. I will like to continue on the topic-
ways to use your time to have a successfulrelationship
Spend time to pray-
There is a Nigerian adage that says, ‘
Whatever good you desire inlife, requires that you pray.
’ I tell singles to pray, so that they won’t have to pray later in life. What I meant is, it’s better to pray that you be delivered from temptation now,than to get into it and start praying for deliverance.I feel before a single should consider anyone for relationship, he/she should spend time toreally seek the mind of his/her Maker on the issue, it’s terrible to make decisions in lifeout of emotions or logical deduction alone. The difference between wisdom andsmartness is- wisdom comes from doing what you have been inspired to do by onesMaker. While been smart has to do with looking at the indices on ground to make vitaldecisions of life. Both are good, but one is better- wisdom.I will encourage every single to learn to pray; please pray about everything and anythingthat will enable your relationship succeed. Pray that the will of God be done in your lifeas it’s in heaven; pray about the suitors that come speaking sweet words you want tohear; pray about the kind of marriage you will want to have; pray for your future in-laws; pray, pray, pray.I heard a true life story years ago; a lady came crying to the pastor of her church with theword thank God, thank God. Her story was that when she was in the university, she hadtwo notable suitors; however, one was rich and the other poor. One was working andmaking lots of cash; the other was a student who was struggling to survive. When sheasked people for counsel, they kept telling her to go for the rich guy. Some of them eventold her that
the voice of people is the voice of God.
When she prayed about it, she feltthat God will have her give her consent to the poor guy; so she took the decision to do just that and most people thought she was crazy. Years later after graduating and been