When a woman seems to be slipping away, most guys (at least most guys who don’t know Love Systems)will chase her harder. She didn’t answer the last text? Call her! Phone calls are short? Ask her out!It’s logical, but counter-productive.You want her to invest her time and emotional energy in you. But once you’ve asked her a couple of times, continuing to push the same offer on her will make her want it (and you) LESS.It’s the same with any kind of investment. Let’s say your friend Joe wants you to invest in his new business. You keep dodging the question but Joe keeps asking or hinting at it. The more he does this, themore SURE you are that you don’t want to invest. And after a while, you stop answering Joe’s calls because you smell his agenda a mile away.A BETTER WAYWhat if Joe recognized that you didn’t want to invest. Instead of pressuring you, he backed off, talkedabout other things, and only casually once in a while referred to his business but without asking you for anything. It sounds like it’s doing well, and one day he invites you to drop by and visit.Well, you can do that can’t you? And if you liked what you saw, what’s going to happen next? You’ll probably ask HIM if he’s interested in more investors. Just like a beautiful woman will often start hintingat date opportunities and places to meet up when you’ve got some emotional momentum going.The first key is to LOWER THE INVESTMENT LEVEL YOU ARE ASKING OF HER. There are manyways to do this, depending on the situation, but here are some of the big ones:
Texts instead of phone calls
Light, fun conversation instead of serious topics
Conversation for the sake of it alone instead of making plans
Shorter rather than longer phone calls (and text messages)In summary – take a step back, make sure she’s with you, and then start going forward and buildingmomentum again... together.
LOVE SYSTEMS SECRET #2: Be in the moment
Tell me if this story sounds familiar. You met a woman you’re interested in. She is all over you, insistsyou take her number, promises to make you dinner this weekend and implies that she might be thedesert...... but it’s not that same girl when (if?) you get her on the phone. She’s actually busy this weekend anddoesn’t suggest another date.Well, that’s not fair, is it?