o what is it?To me, inner game problems boil down to two things: your experience and your mindset. Every problem you run into with not just women, but life itself, can be attributed to one of these twoareas. I¶m going to get into both of these, and give some personal insights, so hopefully by theend of this article you¶ll have a clearer understanding of what exactly it is that you need to work on to fix your own issues.
When people ask me how I developed the kind of ³rock solid confidence´ that allowed me to putmyself out there on national TV, I always answer the same way: ³Practice.´ When you think about what confidence actually is you realize that it¶s simply doing something that you¶ve doneenough times to be comfortable with. It¶s only when we¶re thrown into situations that areunfamiliar to us that we start to lose confidence in ourselves. The sad and somewhat ironicreality is that most men are not comfortable talking to women simply because they don¶t talk towomen! It¶s a negative feedback loop that¶s perpetuated by a fear of ³what might go wrong.´This is bullshit! To be scared of the possible negative outcomes is to be scared of the very thingthat enables you to get better!Think about it this way. When you were learning to ride a bike, were you too scared to get on because of a fear that you might fall down? Maybe, but you got on anyway because you saw howmuch fun all the other kids were having. Even then you realized that the reward was worth therisk. Well, this is the same thing. I remember before I took my bootcamp(taught byTenmagnet),
I wasn¶t any good at meeting women. I used to get drinks thrown in my face, told off, or simplyignored. The bootcamp put me on the right path, and I had the model of how things weresupposed to go (and had seen instructors doing it properly ± up close), but I still wouldn¶t havemade the most of things if I hadn¶t gotten used to rejection enough that I could understand whereI went wrong. Getting used to rejection isn¶t easy, but the best advice I can give you is to simplyaccept it. Don¶t get mad at her or yourself, don¶t go home, just accept that it¶s a completelynormal and necessary part of the learning process. You can¶t make an omelet without breakingsome eggs. The sooner you realize that rejection is a necessary evil, the sooner you can come toterms with it and move past it.