Enthusiasm is the vital quality that arouses you to action, while self-control is the balancewheel that directs your action so that it will build up and not tear down.Without self-control, you will surely injure others as well as yourself.
The man who actually knows what he wants in life has already gone a long waytoward attaining it.
No man can control others unless he first controls himself.Now let us examine the scope of meaning of the term self-control, as it is used inconnection with this course, by describing the general conduct of a person who possessesit. A person with well-developed self-control does not indulge in hatred, envy, jealousy,fear, revenge or any similar destructive emotions. A person with well-developed self control does not go into ecstasies or become ungovernably enthusiastic over anything oranybody.Greed and selfishness and self-approval beyond the point of accurate self-analysis andappreciation of one’s actual merits, indicate a lack of self control in one of its mostdangerous forms. Self confidence is one of the most important essentials of success, butwhen this faculty is developed beyond the point of reason it becomes very dangerous.Self-sacrifice is a commendable quality, but when it is carried to extremes, it alsobecomes one of the dangerous forms of lack of self-control.You owe it to yourself not to permit your emotions to place your happiness in the keepingof another person. Love is essential for happiness, but the person who loves so deeplythat his or happiness is placed entirely in the hands of another, resembles the little lambwho crept into the den of the “nice, gentle little wolf” and begged to be permitted to liedown and go to sleep.A person with well developed self-control will not permit himself to be influenced by thecynic or the pessimist; nor will he permit another person to do his thinking for him.A person with well developed self-control will stimulate his imagination and hisenthusiasm until they have produced action, but he will then control that action and notpermit it to control him.A person with well developed self-control will never, under any circumstances, slanderanother person or seek revenge for any cause whatsoever.