Sex vs. Headaches: Why Orgasms Are Better Than Drugs
By Jed Diamond, Ph.D.Jed Diamond, Ph.D. has been a marriage and family counselor for the last 44years. He is the author of 8 books, including
Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places, Male Menopause,
The Irritable Male Syndrome.
He offerscounseling to men, women, and couples in his office in California or by phonewith people throughout the U.S. and around the world. To contact Dr. Diamond,send an e-mail toJed@MenAlive.comor visit him atwww.MenAlive.com
I’ve been writing a series of articles about “Why We Have Sex,” a topic thatmost people find interesting and engaging. As a psychotherapist I have longnoticed that sex can relieve pain, both physical and psychological. Now thereare credible research studies offering surprising insights about the hiddenbenefits of sex. If you have a sex partner who needs a little bit of encouragement, you may want to let them know about these findings.Is Sex a Better Pain Reliever Than Ibuprofen?We’ve all heard or said something like “Not tonight dear, I have a headache.And it’s true that sex can cause blood to expand in the vessels in our heads andcause headaches. But it is also true that sex can relieve pain and many womenare using this method instead of dangerous drugs.In their book,
Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D. and David M.Buss, they report that “some women have sex with the goal of getting rid of aheadache.
I suffer from migraine headaches and although the attacks are few and far between and are generally mind, I find that when I have sex during my headaches, especially when I have a great over the top climax, it goes away before I know it.
–Heterosexual woman, age 41.When your partner has a headache it might be good to remind them that sexmight help. If your partner doesn’t trust your medical knowledge you mightremind them that even doctors recommend it.
My neurologist recommended reaching orgasm as a way to deal with the painof migraines. I have tried this and sometimes it does work. Often taking migraine meds and darvacet I will reach a relaxed state I call the “fuck mestage.” The pain may be still handing on in the back of my head but having sex and a nice orgasm will end the pain. I would rather do this with a partner, but I have used a vibrator to reach orgasm in an attempt to keep migraines fromrebounding. Using orgasm to end the migraine keeps the rebounds at bay.
--Heterosexual woman, age 43.