The Qualia of Love

When we talk about love and forming unions, the meat of the matter that were talking
about is identity, namely collective identity. Two people with two separate identities fall
in love with each other. By way of falling in love, each person internalizes the other, and
thus the two separate identities unionize into a collective whole.
What this boils down to is an internalized needing/longing of the other person. n an ideal
scenario this process of internalization is symbiotic, where each person is e!ually
internalized by the other, and therefore, both persons have an e!ual need of each other.
That is to say they have formed a collective, unionized identity, where each one carries
the other from within.
"owever, in the less idealistic world the unions we form are not e!ual. That is, a lover
may internalize the beloved to the e#tent that his own identity has become entwined with
the beloved, and yet this is not the case for the beloved to the lover. $erhaps this is where
some fundamental problems occur in most relationships, as one hasnt established that
essential union. nevitably, the relationship will end.
%nd here the !uestion will arise, are we now presented with an identity crises& The
answer is no because the collective identity is still retained within the lover. That is to say
at base the lover still carries within him the beloved.
This is admittedly a thoroughly poignant fact. "ow sad it is that he now harbors within
himself the very embodiment and !ualia of his former love ob'ect, even perhaps until his
death. The ne#t stage of development for him, now, is to come to terms with this.
But how will he do so& "ow could acceptance ( how could amor fati be adopted& n what
manner would the autonomous man navigate to relin!uish his suffering&
The sentiment want to leave you with is, after the person you love most has left, then
what now&