-Always remember that there is so much more to who you are than a relationship.
When you focus so much on the relationship area, it’s easy to start thinking that you need to have arelationship to be considered a whole person.
This season of a person’s life is important because it teaches us a lot of things and helps us grow andmature into better persons.It doesn’t have to be a time of passive and futile waiting; it can be an exciting adventure of active preparation!
1.Singleness can strengthen our inward character qualities.a.Godly Contentment
A relationship is not meant to make us into a whole person – only Jesus Christ canmake us a whole person.
True contentment can only be found in an intimate love relationship with the Lord,not in anything else, including a romantic love story.
b.Gaining the strength to stand alone
Elisabeth Elliot said “Loneliness is a required course for leadership.” A true leader cannot be dependent on companionship for his or her security, but must learn totrust God alone. Singleness can give us this kind of backbone – courage, confidence,and leadership skills that any effective Christian must learn.
Discovering his gentle arms of love
– singleness is an opportunity to allow Christ’sgentle arms to encircle our hearts and discover how very much He loves us.
2.Singleness allows time to focus on practical preparation.
a.It is a time for us to discover and develop our talents and life skills.
God has created each of us with unique gifts, talents and heart desires. He has amaster plan for each of us.
When a relationship comes in our lives, we who are individuals often getswallowed up, and our identity becomes wrapped in that other person.iii.Singleness is a time to seek Him with an undivided, undistracted heart.iv.Being single is an opportunity to discover who God has made us to be and whatHe has called us to in this life.
b.Back to the basics
i.Being married in the real world takes teamwork. If we have the mindset that weare going to rely on our spouse to do all the practical work of living aresponsible adult life, we are in for trouble.In truth, most of us will be married in our lifetime. It only makes sense that we should plan and prepareaccordingly.