Common road blocks and how to handle them: (1) Temperature
Problem: She thinks she's going to be too cold if she takes off her sweater, it's not coming off. You don'teven want her to be aware of the temperature.Solution: Make sure the environment is comfortably warm and nice. It should be a little bit warmer thannecessary, so getting undressed is desirable.
(2) Too Many People
Problem: If she thinks others are looking at her, or feels she might be embarrassed if someone sees her,she's not taking anything off...no matter how bad she wants to.Solution: Know where you're taking her, and plan to have one or two places that have some privacy.
(3) Self-esteem
Problem: She might be occupied (thinking about) how you'll perceive (see) hernaked body. If she'sself-conscious about her body, she'll be reluctant to take anything off.Solution: Let's say that she's worried that her stomach is a little too flabby. Just lift her shirt up a little bitand kiss her bare stomach, and then compliment her on how beautiful and smooth her skin is.Tell her that her skin is so nice to touch, and you're really happy to be spending time together. Keeptouching her bare skin to get her used to the fact that you approve of her body. If you compliment thespecific area of her body that she's worried about, it'll make her realize that maybe it's not a big deal, andshe'll almost always let her guard down.
(4) Too Much Light
Problem: This ties in with self-esteem. If you think she's holding back because of her body, she probablyis. Most women are extremely self-conscious about exposing their bodies in the bright light where youcan see every single flaw.Solution: Have the lights down really low. Plan in advance and buy some colored lights or a black light.It's just enough light to see what you're doing, but not enough to show any of her problem areas. Havesome candles close-by too. Most women find candle light romantic.
(5) The environment
Problem: If your apartment is really messy, she'll be too distracted and her awareness will be on her mindtalking, telling herself what a slob you are. A messy place gives her an impression of what kind of personyou are. It shows thatyou don't care about the details, and that's a big turn off to women.Solution: Clean up your place, and make sure it smells good, but not overpowering. Don't light a bunch ofscented candles and stink up your place.
(6) Is this a one-night-stand
Problem: Most women ask themselves this on a date. If she makes out with you, she's telling you that shelikes you, and that she wants to invest some time in a possible relationship with you. If she has thisquestion in her mind, it might be enough to stop her from going any further until she feels secure that youwant to see her again after tonight.
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