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Pen Pals

Pen Pals

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Published by Daniel Abshear
My personal story of an event that has occured since a bogus restraining order was filed against me towards the end of last year.
My personal story of an event that has occured since a bogus restraining order was filed against me towards the end of last year.

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Published by: Daniel Abshear on Jan 18, 2010
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As many know, my wife of 20 years filed false claims against me of violentabuse against her one unforgettable day in August of this year.Molly, my wife, did this in order to acquire a tactical advantage in a divorceshe clearly wants that I was completely unaware of until she filed a retrainingorder against me that prevents me from having any contact whatsoever withmy daughter as well, whose name is Hayley.My wife told her free army of legal professionals that she suspects that childabuse was happening by me against Hayley. This particular claim is far moreabsurd than the abuse claims Molly made about me, which included a claim byMolly that I tried to kill her one night.So of course, I ended up in jail in the first time of my 43 years soon after thesefalse allegations were made against me by Molly. The second night I was in jail,I decided to write Hayley a letter.Now, writing Hayley fractures the restraining order falsely issued against me,since this is contacting Hayley in this manner. But since I was already in jail, Ireally was not concerned about breaking this abusive enforcement of psychoticlaws now against me.As I wrote her that night, I was not the fun dad I usually am with Hayley due tomy state of mind. However, I never wrote anything to Hayley indicating hatredor anger towards her mother, Molly. Nor did I, in my words to Hayley, debateher mother's false accusations against me.My undergrad is in child psychology, and I learned with my education that it isnever a good idea to attack a parent in any way during a split of the parents,which is what is happening with our family right now. So I wrote to Hayley thatI will always love her mother because her mother gave Hayley to me almost 12years ago. This is the woman who put me in jail.I also wrote to Hayley that the destruction happening to our family right now isdifficult to understand for both of us, but we should try and grasp this situationtogether in time. I told Hayley with my writing to her that I loved and missedher, and that I hoped she would write me back soon.I mailed this letter to her grandparent's house. These are Molly's parents, andare very wonderful people who have been married for more than 60 years.They understand the importance of a father in a child's life.I only mailed this letter to Hayley after trading my breakfast the next day inorder to get a stamped envelope from another inmate.Hayley wrote me back soon afterwards, and I was thrilled beyond belief. Yet
her letter understandably was cautious. She shared a bit with me about schooland her friends. What really got me was the end of her letter to me:P.S. Daddy- everything is going to be OK, no matter what....I cried when I read this from her. She understands more than I fully realizeabout my own frame of mind, and what is happening to our family right now. Ished tears as I recall this that she wrote. She wrecked her father, and this isnot the first time.So my next letter to Hayley was much more jovial than my initial letter to her:Dear Hayley....Hey, guess what? We are pen pals now.....YAAAAYYYYYY!!!!!Then I went on to tell her how cool she is. I discussed what she wanted to befor halloween. I effortlessly made her laugh what I wrote to her in this letter.The words I shared with Hayley came from my heart.Her next letter to me was much more upbeat. She was thrilled that we werepen pals now. She expressed clearly how happy she was that she was gettingmail from her daddy now. This made me comforted greatly. I was at peace withher emotional and mental state now.The next letter composed by me to Hayley was apparently as enjoyable to heras she read this. The letter included beautiful drawings from Tommy, my cellmate in jail. This letter also included acts that Hayley and I frequently do toeach other when we are together:High five, girlfriend!Big hug from dad!Forehead kiss!Hayley put the drawings by Tommy that I mailed to her on her school lockerwalls, she told me in her writing to me afterwards.Tommy, my cell mate artist during that time, is a 22 year old homeless guywho was in jail for assault on another adult. He had been homeless for much of his life. And Tommy did have anger issues.It took me about 2 weeks to gain his trust. Once this happened, I discussed withTommy more benign outlets for his anger urges, and the importance of thinkingbefore acting. Tommy also has done illegal drugs, so we discussed the impactof such drugs on his health and behavior.I'm in jail with Tommy due to accusations that I'm a violent person- accusationsagainst my wife from my wife. Yet I'm doing anger management with guys like

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