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PARTNER SCHOOLS
EDITOR IN-CHIEF
(Coordinating School)
IES BAIX CAMP, REUS, SPAIN
www.iesbaixcamp.org
Project Coordinator:
Mónica Fernández
Assistants:
Pilar Aguilera, Miquel Ávila, Miquel Arcas,
Dolors Calabuig, Esperanza Escalona,
J. M. García, Noemí Gomis,
Press Club IES BAIX CAMP
Press Club V LICEUM OGOLNOKSTALCACE
Students OPTATIVA 2 ESO
DESIGN:
Miquel Ávila, Mónica Fernández
e-journal EDITOR
www.ejournal.fi/cfm33
College FRANÇOIS MAURIAC,
Léognan, FRANCE
www.ejournal.fi/mauriac
Project Coordinator:
Fabienne Pouget-Imbert
Assistants:
Dominique Saint-Hilaire, Jean-Louis Vuotto
Assistants: Marianne van Beuzekom, Michell Matteman
DESIGN: Dominique Saint-Hilaire
Press Club FRANÇOIS MAURIAC
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS:
A special thank goes to the long list of people from here and there who have shared
time and hope and have contributed with corrections, ideas, interviews, photographs,
articles, and much more!
COVER:
Love is like water.
you can’t live without it
Press Club BESSENYEI GYÖRGY
Kisvárda, HUNGARY
Project Coordinator: Juhász Gyöngyi
Press Club UMBERTO SORACE MARESCA,
Catanzaro, ITALY
www.iis-maresca.it
Project Coordinator: Antonietta Pugliese
Assistants: Ileana Veraldi, Maria Pane
Press Club JOSEPH LAGROSILLIERE, Picture taken by 4 ESO Students,
Saint Marie, MARTINICA IES Baix Camp.
Project Coordinators: Mylene Ngo
Assistants: Nathalie Cancel Teacher: Núria Anguren.
JAKUBA WEJHERA,
Contents
Wejherowo, POLAND
www.zspg4.wejher.pl
Project Coordinators:
Michal Obrocki, Lukasz Maj
3 FOREWORD
Press Club LISA MEITNER GYMNASIUM,
Neuenhaus, GERMANY
www.lmg.neuenhaus.de 4 TIME MACHINE
Project Coordinator: Irmgard Schöffel
Assistants: Marcus Pfeifer 7 QUIZ
Press Club ADYAMAN ANATOLIAN HS,
Adyaman, TURKEY 8 STUDENTS’ MEETING
www.adiyamananadolu.meb.k12.tr
Project Coordinator: ErcanYücetaş 10 POETRY:
Press Club VECHTDAL COLLEGE,
Thoughts of love
Hardenberg, NETHERLANDS
www.vechtdalcollege.nl 13 Meeting at Levice, Slovakia
Project Coordinator: Marja Ritterfeld
14 PHILOSOPHY:Is love important?
Press Club ZDRUŽENÁ STREDNÁ ŠKOLA,
Levice, SLOVAKIA 16 GETTING TO KNOW...
www.zssoaslv.edu.sk
Project Coordinators: Love rituals around the world
Imrich Laco, Oµga Remiaová
18 MUSIC STIRS MEMORIES
19 THE CRAZIEST THING
20 LOVE PROVERBS
21 IS SEX ED WORKING?
Survey
22 TOP 5
23 BARTENIUS’ CORNER

Love knows no bounds
As long as people will need to breathe, they’ll also
need love to live. Look inside yourself and you’ll find them: the
beloved ones in your heart. And it’s not only our sweetheart
we care about, but also our family and for many of us the most
important thing: our friends.
When talking about love you’ll
soon notice that there is no compa-
rable theme that can combine two
opposite things that easily: on the one
hand love is something absolutely in-
dividual, on the other hand it’s some-
thing really common. You wouldn’t
need a translator for love, because
Love is spoken in a language everyone
understands.
Love is spoken in a language
everyone understands
And isn’t that a perfect point
from which to start? Let`s see how stu-
dents feel about their families, what in
our opinion a wedding should be like,
how it was celebrated in former times
and what young people think about their
different kinds of relationships. Com-
paring our thoughts will show us that
there are so many interesting points
of view. We just have to express them!
MICHAELA SAß
LISA MEITNER GYMNASIUM, GERMANY
Foreword
Liebe kennt keine Grenzen
Solange Menschen atmen (müssen), solange wer-
den sie auch Liebe brauchen um zu leben. Frag dich ein-
mal selbst und du wirst sie finden: Die geliebten Menschen
in deinem Herzen. Dabei handelt es sich nicht nur um un-
sere große Liebe, sondern auch um unsere Familie und für
viele von uns zweifellos das wichtigste: unsere Freunde.
Wenn man so über Liebe redet, merkt man
schnell, dass es kein vergleichbares The-
ma gibt, das auf so einfache Weise zwei
so unterschiedliche Dinge miteinander
verknüpfen kann: Auf der einen Seite ist
Liebe etwas absolut Persönliches, auf der
anderen Seite ist es aber auch etwas allen
allgemein Vertrautes. Man wird Liebe nie
übersetzen müssen, denn Liebe wird in ei-
ner Sprache gesprochen, die jeder versteht.
Die Sprache der Liebe
kann jeder verstehen
Und ist das nicht der perfekte Aus-
gangspunkt? Lasst uns herausfinden, was
Schüler über ihre Familien denken, wie aus
unserer Sicht eine Hochzeit aussehen sollte,
wie sie früher gefeiert wurden und wie jun-
ge Leute insgesamt zum Thema Beziehungen
stehen. Wenn wir unsere Gedanken verglei-
chen, werden wir erkennen, dass es Un-
mengen an interessanten Sichtweisen gibt.
Wir müssen sie nur zum Ausdruck bringen!
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Time machine

Til death do us apart

True love stories from the past

“and they lived happily ever after”

by TOBIAS BERENDS, Germany

The first time when my grandparents met each other was on a wedding. My
grandpa was invited by his neighbour and my grandma by her cousin. They
talked and danced with each other. But at first they didn’t intend to meet
each other again.
Three weeks later
Three weeks later they accidentally met
again on a train ride. When they talked to
each other, my grandpa invited my grandma
to a theatre performance. Probably this was
some sort of farm town comedy performed
in Low German, which was all there was to
see for them at the time. When he picked her
up at her home he became acquainted with
her parents. The two fell in love and their
relationship flourished very fast.
Half a year later
Half a year later, they had already moved into
the same place. Another half a year onwards,
they got married. At this moment my grandmother
was already pregnant. She gave birth to five more
children.
The end
They lived together happily until the end of their
lives (just as in those fairy tales) and every one of
their children had offsprings themselves so that they
had many grandchildren.

ot arthritis “Love
m y grandma g is
coffee when my
“W h en n and
not bent dow m
an d s h e co u ld olish she g for my fa other pre
h er fi n g er nails with p ives i t h er a pares
colou r time t
d p a h el p ed her every make to him sh nd before
my gra n rthritis ther and sure h et
e will astes it to
n ti l h e d id not get the a y m o th er loves my fa ays
u “M why she alw like i
too.” th e re a s o n DANN t.”
ia this is a fried Y,
year, Slovak
best part of
7 yea
REBEKA, 8 h im th e r, Slo
vakia
giv es
chicken” ia
ar, Slovak
ELAINE, 5 ye

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HISTORICAL ALBUM
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o t s o f suga
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ts
Walnu
t ie n ce
Pa s
a ppines
and h e a t en
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I take you to be
my wife, 1955

Wedding cake from the beginning of 20th century, Slovakia

for better
or worse, 1960

from this day

forward, 1972

There are my grandparents in this photo: Helena and Joseph.

My grandfather used to work as a worker in the branch of
engineering. My grandmother was employed in textile factory.
They got married when my grandfather came back from the
compulsory military service in 1955. After three years my
father was born. My grandparents have been married for 59
years and now live in the small house just next to ours. until death do us
Marek Kupča, Slovakia part, 1980
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Time Machine

Görücü A Love until the end of time

Turkey
Marriage Matchmaking My grandfather name is Ömer. He was born in a rural village. And he spent his all life in
the same village as a Muslim cleric. He married with Görücü Method. At first days they
There is a tradition in Turkey called couldn’t get along with each other but after a short time their relationship improved.
Görücü in Turkish. Görücü method is a
kind of matchmaker style. When a boy And their marriage
gets 18 or 19 years old his mom and his changed to a really
sisters try to find a suitable girl for her. perfect love story.
When they find a girl for him, they visit My grandma was ill
the girl’s family. During this visit both during a long time
sides can see each other if the both my grandpa took
sides like each other. And their families care of her all the
approve their meeting. They start to time. In this kind
meet. After short meeting period they of situations it is
give their decisions about marriage. But possible to marry
unfortunately they don’t have a long again for the men
time for taking their decisions. Generally side in Turkey
they give their decisions in one or two however he didn’t.
weeks. Everybody who
In the east Turkey nowadays it is not so knew them and
popular but in all cases 20 or 30 percent the love between
of marriages in the east areas of the them thought that
country is depend on Görücü method. grandma couldn’t
live without Ömer.
In 1995 Ömer died at 90 years old. After his death, grandma couldn’t live without him
and died in a short time after Ömer.

Love in time of war

by NADINE HAJJ, 4ème2, Martinique

My parents had known one another since they were children. My father lived in Bkaatouta and my mother in Beirut, Lebanon.
They often saw one another and they realized they had a lot in common: they enjoyed strolling in the moonlight, going to the
cinema and to the restaurant. They loved bathing in the warm, transparent Mediterranean Sea.
Their families also knew each other and used to throw parties together. In 1981, because of the war, my father had to leave
Lebanon. He went to Martinique to visit his brother who lived there.
At the time, my parents to-be had no other choice but to talk on the telephone and write one another long love letters!!!

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 Quiz

Are you a good friend?

Try this quiz and find out!

1 Your friend has not done his/ 7 Your friend calls you while
her homework. What do you do ? you are watching your favourite
A Refuse to let him copy and explain TV programme. Do you … ?
him/her why. A Ignore the message.
B Tell the teacher. B Chat with your friend.
C Let your friend copy but tell him/ C Tell him/her to call later.
her it’s the first and last time.
Calculate your score:
2 It’s your friend’s birthday. ANSWERS
8 If you borrow money off a
friend, do you … ?
Do you … ? 1 A: 1 B: 0 C: 3 A Give it back soon.
A Buy a present. B Give it back after a while.
B Only say « Happy Birthday ! » 2 A: 3 B: 1 C: 0 C Forget to give it back.
C Always forget.
3 A: 3 B: 0 C: 0

3 Your friend has told you a

4 A: 0 B: 3 C: 0
9 How many friends do you
5 A: 0 B: 0 C: 3 have?
secret A Hundreds
A You keep it for yourself. 6 A: 3 B: 1 C: 0 B A big group of friends.
B You tell your parents. 7 A: 0 B: 3 C: 1 C A few special friends.
C You tell all your friends.
8 A: 3 B: 1 C: 0

4 I love my best friend because

9 A: 0 B: 0 C: 3 10 How long do you usually
10 A: 0 B: 0 C: 3 keep your friend ?
A He/she is rich. A Until I meet a better one.
B We have the same tastes and 11 A: 0 B: 3 C: 1 B As long as we are in the same class.
hobbies.
C He/she is in my class.
12 A: 3 B: 1 C: 0 C As long as we get on well, it could
be forever !

5 When you got out with 11 Your friend complains a lot

somebody, you tend to :
A Neglect your friend a little.
B Forget your friend.
C Keep on seing your friend regularly.
6 After the summer holidays,
your friend has put on weight:
A Whatever his/her weight, you still
love him/her.
B You tell your friend he/she should
exercise.
C He/she can still be my friend but
not in public.
about a problem.
Have you got any friends ? A You avoid talking to him/her.
1 – 12 points = B You listen to him/her and try to
friend if you tried ! cheer him/her up.
You could be a much better C You listen to him/her but when he/
she starts crying you run away.
13 – 20 points =
more !
friends but could help them
You are quite nice to your
12 Your friend is very ill and
has to stay at home for a week.
21 – 28 points = A You visit him/her as often as you
You are a very good friend ! can and bring him his homewok.
29 – 36 points = B You send “A get well card ».
C You phone him/her once in a while.

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Meeting

the European Feeling Hardenberg/ Neuenhaus May 2009

Three of the best days of my life
From the 25th of May until 27th May we were visited by some
people from other countries. There were students from Poland
and Italy. We had a lot of fun with each other. There was a
person from our local newspaper, who interviewed us. The day
after it there was a very big article in our newspaper about
our project. At our school we planted a tree. There were a lot of
pictures made. It was a very nice thing to do, because we got a
feeling of unity, just what we were supposed to feel. Luigi and
I had the most fun, because we kissed. It was really something
not to forget. Luigi, if you’re reading this, thank you, and I
see you in Poland! Anyway, we ate some pancakes, and then
we went to a big building, called the LOC, because there was
an Europe-market. We got a tour there, and they had a lot of
weird animals there in cages, like big snakes and bird spiders.
We had a lot of fun there, until they had to leave. Some of us
couldn’t help crying. It was very touching. But I still look back
at those days as three of the best days of my life!

Vera Korblet , The Netherlands

This trip was a great opportunity to practice English

and learn much about culture of many countries from all over
the Europe, for instance Italy, Germany or Spain. We were
under a great impression of Dutch mentality and of course the
Vechtdal College.
We talked about culture, languages, entertainment and of
course about the project. It is a big pity, that the trip lasted
only for three days. There was really not enough time to get
to know all of the great project’s participants, but we hope to see
everybody on Polish Summer Camp in June ;)! We will never
forget our adventure in the Netherlands, biking in Hardenberg
and, what is the most important, about our new friends and
their great teachers from the whole Europe. Big thanks Roy!

Luiza Czupajlo, Maciej Gryglewski, Poland

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 Holland/Germany

I will never forget you!

Everything started when we arrived in Hardenberg. I remember that day as if it was yesterday and I was really excited about the idea
that I would be able to exchange my beliefs and my culture with other people from different countries,
just to see what they think about me and my country. I remember every
single moment spent with them. For example
when we ate all together the first day
we were there, or when we visited all
the town by bike, when we played
together, when we laughed together,
when we tried to teach some Italian
to other teenagers, and they tried
to teach us some Dutch. But we
also cried together, yes, during the
last days when we knew that our
experience was coming to an end.
Now it’s 1.24 a.m. but I can’t sleep,
I’m looking at all the photos we took
together, and all the memories are
coming back, making me laugh,
because I’m still thinking about
ALL OF YOU. I swear that I’ll
never forget you, because I have
never met people like you….
….Vera, Janet, Jenet, Jazmine,
Anouk, Roy and the teachers
too! THANK YOU!

DANK


Antonio, Italy

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Poetry

the European creative mind in power

LOVE OF MY LIFE y of love

I never told you how
I truly feel d o n ’t fi nd the ke t.
a gre at deal If you id e your hear
You mean to me c h in s
sear
u my heart was sold mor,
The moment I saw yo o b is la c lau de l’a
er will never be cold Quan no t
r or.
The two of us togeth in s del teu c
b u s c a d
s everything else so fut
ile lo nia
Being with you make au tifu l sm ile Reus, Cata
I cannot resist yo ur be

pe you will like it

My gift is for you, I ho l admit
ur reaction, that I wil
I am dying to see yo
akia
Richard Bielik, Slov
W HEN I SEE YOUR
E YES Love
My Island of Flowers
N OTHING
Comes along
I was born on an island, loving the wind
Where the air smells of sap and nectar
You can rock yourself in the rays
E XISTS At first sight,
E VERYTHING
of the tropical sun,
D ISAPPEARS dde nly a nd unexpected.
My Island, you are beautiful Su
You contain gardens of various colours
Blue, white, yellow, red, L ISTENING ONLY TO Stays
Where hummingbirds come to take sugar
s)
For me you represent, O UR
(Rahel Deter
A small bright palm tree V OICES….
in multiple colours
Oh, my island loving flowers.
E CSTASY!
Italy
Célia Bazabas, 3è3, Martinique

On a plane..
On a plane that
never lands
LA ROSE NOIRE I’ll fly with my
boyfriend
Quand le soleil éternel se couche Near the sea, ov
er the sand
La lune des merveille se lève Looking for the
promised land.
La rose noire seule parmi les roses rouges He will say ,Han
d in hand
Comme un papillon des rêves. “Are we going to
And me to him N everland?”
Quand la rose noire apparaît : don’t you unde
I’ll love you until rstand?
Et que la musique de la chouette disparaît the end”
Le soleil éternel se lève. So sweet kisses
he’ll me send
La lune des merveilles se couche And our love w
ill never end!
L' amour éternel naît Roberta Raffael
Mais la rose noire disparaît . e, Italy

Poème de Valentine et Lauren, Léognan

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YOU
I love your smile
The way you laugh
I love your spirit
I love your heart
But I prefer your soul.
I love your deep eyes
Your sweet perfume
But who are you?
I don’t know you
I can’t touch you
I want to meet you….
Eleonore B., 3e3, Martinique
MY SWEET LOVE
I told the mountain my love
rocks ands trees mourned.
Birds and insects felt pity for me.
oh my sweet love.
I told my love to sky.
Clouds became rain and cried.
The color of rainbow fade
oh my sweet love
I told my love to the see
fishes and moss stayed silent.
Sands became a whirlpool
oh my sweet love
I told my love to earth
flowers fades.
The ant abandoned their nests.
oh my sweet love.
Elvan Karakaplan 12TM B,Turkey
Literary contest
LOVE - chase
By Barbara Szymańska , Poland
-My Dear, I gave you my soul and heart.
- That’s great Baby, now give your credit card!
- But Honey don’t you want to spend some time with me?
-Yeah, I want to spend some of your money on E-Bay!
… Love in XXI century can be a pain in the neck.
But how was it in medieval times? Let’s check!
- My sweetest Beloved, I shall love Thee till I die.
-Oh, The King of my Heart, do you promise to be mine?
- I will stay yours by the end of the world…
- And I will engrave onto my heart your lovely word!
All these lines above, I was just messing with you.
The truth is: it’s nice to have your Boo.
The apple of your eye…
That makes it easier to survive.
And when you find your soul mate, don’t want anybody else
…Together through life, that’s when you end your
‘LOVE-chase’
My love,
I wrote this letter especially for you
To prove that my love for you is true
Meeting you was like winning
the grand prize
Especially when looking into your beautiful eyes
Our life together has just begun
already we have had many moments of fun.
My love is so strong, it makes me fly
You are so beautiful, like the most beautiful sky
All of you is what I need
Together, we will succeed
Student of II. H Dominika Tothova,
Slovakia
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poetry

Love, *Love poem

Love
experienced Als het regent,
Tw hearts
o once, als het sneeuw
ch other never want to als je smelt va t
Trusting ea such kind of br lose n de hitte
d forever als je weg bent
For now an eathtaking
als de dagen ev
, als je hier be
nt
Everlasting feeling en tegenzitten
Lea Warrin
Hülsmeier, k, als je boos bent
Magdalena Germany als je gewoon
, als je blij bent
Germany als je gelukkig
niet meer wee
t hoe
bent of verdrie
als je ziek bent tig
Love of moe
dan zal ik er vo
A feeling or je zijn
dan is mijn hart
de jouwe
which shows y dat kun je niet
ou ik zal voor altij
veranderen
That you’re n d van je houden
ot Netherlands
alone
*The poem is about love, somebody says he loves somebody else,
LOVE and he is always there for her. And he says he always keeps
Svenja Voet, G
ermany loving her. If the girl is angry, he is there for her. If the girl
is happy, or not, he is there for her. As the weather is cold,
Happiness or warm, he is always there for her. And that can’t change!
A place
To be yourself
Ay, mi amor Where you are welcome
s fuerte Friends
Mi amor por ti e
amáis, Christin Kathorst, Germany
Amar, amamos, LOVE SONG
Rojo… es para ti Please stay with me forever,
artinica Amis I can’t breathe without You.
ny, 4è2, M Es sa ad
t
Coralie Blé grada You are the water of life,
Y pre
ciosa
. And I’m the enzyme inside.
Y res F r á g
isten il I need You and You need me.
Cono te a la ve
Ella,
s
cida
o
z; Without You my heart is freezed.
Una estrella pasa... Nadi iempre m no
ne H
ajj, 4 aravillo You warmes up my heart with flame,
Yo creo que eres tú è2 sa.
Quien me deja sola en esta vida
, Mar
tinic Luckily it wasn’t too late.
a
Coralie Blény, 4eme2, You are my light in darkness,
Martinica You are my aching weakness,
You are shining with the stars
When everything will be dark.
When I fell in love with you.
A mar con todo el corazón Quan tens amor, I couldn’t believe it’s true.
la vida és molt millor.
M entir por amor Pintat de rosa o negre,
But You awoke me to real
l’amor no és pecat, I must be with You forever.
O frecer por amor l’amor de fet no té edat. Feketer Norbert 11d, Hungary
R ojo... de envidia. Reus, Catalonia
Anne-Sophie y Pascal,
4ème2,
Martinica

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 Meeting at Levice

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The philosopher’s corner

Is love important?
Magic feeling or science?
“Sun is that for earth, what love for soul”
Love- is any number of emotions or experience related to a
sense of strong affection and attachment”- this is a short entry
in a dictionary. I think this is too general, because everybody
feels it in a different way. Somebody answers: love is closeness
to other person, they think it’s a type of friendship. Scientists`
argument that love is a quite normal, biological reaction.
An Austrian physiologist discovered chemical, love formula:
C6H5-NH-C2H5. He also described how our hormones work
in a organism, when we fall in love. Someone else created a
formula for happy relationship:
“The main reason for living”
Love is a feeling which every person senses in a different
way. The fact is that this feeling provokes happiness because
of special hormones. That’s why everybody has the ambition
to be in love. In addition, humans cannot live alone, they
need other persons, so it is also a primary instinct.
A lot of people think about the meaning of life. As a result,
love is considered as the main reason for living.
If you are in love or if you feel to be loved, it is not that
difficult to know that love is important in life. It confirms
you in your character and makes you self-confident.

Timo Völkerink, GERMANY

x + y = people feeling love for each other/ t36 - time/

Q - cookery/ S - spontaneity/A – atmosphere, mood/
M – love; deep attachment to somebody

These theories aren`t the only ones, but if we really want to

explain what love is, we might think of new definitions. Antoine
de Saint-Exupéry wrote a wonderful sentence:
You can see well only through the heart,
the most important is invisible for eyes.
I imagine, that love is an abstract concept. However for many
people love is the essence of life. This is the reason to get up
every day and overcome problems. Everybody wants to meet
true love. When we fall in love, we feel happier and better than Love is the only sane
before. If you give yourself to somebody, it will be the most
generous gift. and satisfactory answer
to the problem of
ove
The type of l human existence.
lfish love b
ased on Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
(g r) u n se
AGAPE - religion;
al re la ti onship and ly,
spir it u love, friend
H IL L A - (g r) platonic
P ithful;
unselfish, fa ve,
e at in g o r romantic lo
EROS- (g r) cr n d ness
rforms fo
h d o m in at ion role pe
whic
and longing, ( egoism)
SM - lo ve to yourself d
NARCISSI erland, an
T IS M - lo ve to moth
PATR IO !
FRIENDSHIP

by V LICEUM OGOLNOKSTALCACE JAKUBA WEJHERA, POLAND

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 The limits of Love
If young people talk about love, they talk about passion, sexual attraction and
falling in love. This teenage experience is so strong that it is often called “the
discovery of love”, “the first love” and teenagers don’t link it to their childhood
experiences of parents’ love, brotherhood, etc.

And what if a philosopher wants to talk about it? Is it possible to think about love
or it is a life experience that we can not express with words? Let me tell you about
some ideas from philosopher Erich Fromm in his book “The art of loving”, which
are going to let us deal with love and its limits in a proper way.

“Love is an art. It needs to be known and work.

What is love? Love is an active power within people, for which we overcome our
isolation, our separate self and we get together with someone else. (“In love the
paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two”).

What is this relationship like? Since we culturally link sexual desire to the idea of
love, we easily make the mistake of believing that we love when we physically
desire someone. Love can inspire sexual desire, and in this case, the desire is
to seduce and to be seduced. It gets confused with tenderness. However, if the
desire of physical union is not encouraged by love, it never leads to a relationship,
except in an orgy and temporary way. Sexual attraction creates, for a moment, the
illusion of a relationship, but, without love, this relationship lets the unknown as
separate as before.

Why do we love? “Immature love says: I love you because I need you. Mature love
says: I need you because I love you”. So love is not a question of chance. It is an
art. It needs to be known and work.

What are the requirements of love and what are its limits? Love is an active
concern about the person we love. Caring and being concerned imply another
aspect of love: responsibility. Being “responsible” means willing to meet your
beloved needs.

“Immature love says: I love you because I need you.

Mature love says: I need you because I love you”

But responsibility could easily deteriorate into domination and possessiveness, if

were it not for a third component of love, respect. Respect means the concern
that the other person should grow and unfold as they are. “I want the loved person
to grow and unfold for their own sake, and not for the purpose of serving me.” It’s
obvious that respect exists only on the basis of freedom, for love is the child of
freedom, never that of domination”, as an old French song says.

“Caring, responsibility, respect and freedom are the limits of love. Without them
there is no love. Loving means compromising without guarantee. Totally giving
oneself with the hope of producing love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith
and whoever has little faith, also has little love”

JOSE MIGUEL GARCIA LABIANO, Ies Baix Camp, REUS, SPAIN

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Getting to know...

LOVE RITUALS AROUND

THE GLOBE

The bride and groom give each other an egg to ensure fertility and happiness.

LIXUAN FENG, student from China at IES Baix Camp, Reus, SPAIN

Gipsy Wedding
The newly married couple dance flamenco. At night the party goes on until next morning.
Maria Ventura, 2 E, IES Baix Camp, Reus, SPAIN

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 ë wedding other cultures
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Polternight

7 future lives to come,

Indian Wedding

In Indian weddings, fire is a very important element.

Many rituals are performed sitting in front of the fire
since it is considered holy. There is a saying whereby
fire is like the witness to the wedding.
Similarly, the number ‘7’ also is very important. It is
believed, when the bride and groom get married, they
take 7 seven rounds around the fire and they are tied in
holy matrimony for not just the present life, but a total
of 7 future lives to come!
‘Polternight’ , on the night before the wedding:
Family, friends and neighbors destroy china in front Summit Pal, student from India
of the couple’s house. Superstition says that broken at IES Baix Camp, Reus, SPAIN
pieces of china bring luck.
by Tobias Berens, Germany

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Music stirs memories We've all had tunes stuck in our heads.
Some of them remind us of childhood
friends, places or events. Wherever
you are, when a song,“your song”
starts, everything which is all around
you,disappears and your memory lives
again, with all its colours ,its emotions,
and you realize that they are still inside
you. Then you know they will always be
UNFORGETTABLE for you.

Here are some memories with their songs

that we want to share with you!
www.ejournal.fi/cfm33 CARMELA -
ITALY
A te _JOVANOTTi
My song is “A te” (To
You) composed and sung
by Jovanotti. This song
has helped me to come
back to life, after a terrible period in my
life when I had been affected by a serious
disease ,the anorexia.
It was dedicated to ME by a person who
Anthony Birba – loved me and didn’t want to lose me.
MARTINIQUE My life was coming to an end because of
a “monster,” which had made me believe
La PLI SI TOL by to be nothing, but thanks to a special
Chiktay person’s love I found the courage to fight
for my life.
This song by the The beautiful phrase: " a te che hai reso
band CHIKTAY from ITSKE _HOLLAND la mia vita bella da morire"(to you, who
Guadeloupe reminds me of my childhood My memorable song is has made my life incredibly beautiful) for
love, when I was at primary school. I will Chris Brown - With You. me means that nothing is so important
never forget this light-eyed little girl It reminds me of my ex-boyfriend.It was as a special person who cares you and
of mixed origins that I saw crossing the a very good time with a lot fun!It was our gives you , day by day ,his love, because
bridge of my life, but that never stopped. song, and we listened it very much. “you’re his unique reason of life”.
 
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 The craziest thing
you would do for l o v e !
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us even if we are from different countries and Aşk sen nele
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Turkey
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a pig likes
I love you as
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Amor con amor se paga, Spain

Love can only be paid with love
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 Survey

Is sex ed working?
Where do you get most of your sexual Do you think teenagers are well informed about
knowledge from? sexually transmissible diseases?

Do you think that this information has an incisive impact Your idea of sex is closer to...?
on adolescents’ use of contraceptives?

Learning about sexuality in Germany, Rahel Deters, Germany

Primary school, worksheets and cartoons... I first learned something about sexuality and especially about the physical differences between
girls and boys when I was in in primary school. There we got worksheets in which we had to name the
characteristics of the feminine and the masculine body. I think it was a really embarassing topic for us
being little childs and not being used at talking about such things before. We already saw a film about
sexuality. It was a kind of animated cartoon showing two people having sex. At that time, the teachers
didn´t get into details and the film only talked of “cuddling”.

About menstruation and preservatives... We were 12 years old in the 6th grade and with that, it
became necessary to tell the girls something about their menstruation. The logical consequence then was
that contraception had to be comprehensible for everybody to avoid early pregnancy as well as sexual
disease. I remember a lesson in which boys and girls were separated to practise with a preservative and a
penis made out of wood. We also got a little box with some sanitary towels and tampons for the girls in it.

Grammar school: sex and its dangers... Later, in grammar school, eigth grade only brought some
new information about sex as well as its dangers, e.g., an infection with AIDS. The higher the grades, the more we were step by step taught about
new methods of contraception. The focus was now put onto the heritage processes and the way a fertilized egg develops.

All in all….Because of the great and extensive sex education at school, it became unnecessary to talk about such things at home. But whenever
I want, I can come and ask my parents about anything I don´t know. I think the way I learned about sex isn´t the normal way today anymore. The
earlier development of kids caused by new and often unhealthy dietary habits as well as the completely modern lifestyle nowadays demands that
the students know the facts of life earlier.

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TOP 5

LOVE LOVE Song ROMANTIC LOVE STORY

PRESENT FILM

1) Flowers My heart will go on 1) Titanic The Shadow Of The Wind

2) Jewelry (Céline Dion) 2) Twilight (Carlos Ruiz Zafon)
3) Cuddly toy 3) Love Actually
SPAIN 4) Love letter 4) Moulin Rouge
5) Dinner out 5) P.S I Love You

1) Little things Anlamazdin 1) Iziz Adam Leyla ile Mecnum

TURKEY 2) Flowers (Ayla Dikmen) 2) Titanic (Unknown writer)
3) Lunch or dinner 3) Romeo and Juliet
4) Love poem 4) Sweet November
5) Jewelry 5) English Patient

1) Jewelry My heart will go on 1) Titanic Twilight

2) Flower (Céline Dion) 2) Twilight (Stéphanie Meyer)
FRANCE 3) Kisses 3) High School Musical
4) Love letter 4) American Pie
5) A pet 5) Dirty Dancing

1) Peluches Questo piccolo grande 1) Twilight Amore 14

2) Jewelry amore 2) Titanic (Frederico Moccia)
ITALY 3) Perfumes (Claudio Baglioni) 3) I passi dell’amore
4) Roses 4) Amore 14
5) Little Hearts 5) Ghost

1) plush toy I´ll missing you 1) Dangerous connection Twilight

2) ring (Pap Diddy) 2) Dirty Dancing (Stéphanie Meyer)
SLOVAKIA 3) rose 3) Pretty woman
4) lovers photo 4) Pearl Harbor
5) other 5) Armagedon

1) Hand made presents 1) Titanic Romeo And Juliet

2) Flowers 2) Dirty dancing (Shakespeare)
GERMANY 3) Kisses 2) Twilight
4) Rings 4) Keinohrhasen
5) Journeys

UE 1) Jewelry Mon amie (Kim) 1) Titanic Twilight

IQ 2) Teddy bears 2) Twilight (Stéphanie Meyer)
IN
RT
3) Perfume 3) The proposition
A 4) Chocolate 4) High school musical
M
5) Notting hill

1) Flowers My heart will go on Titanic Twilight

POLAND 2) Teddy bears (Céline Dion) (Stéphanie Meyer)

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BARTENIUS’ CORNER
All you need is love kiss
feeling
hug
smack
friendship
girlfriend
gift
passions
sex
in love
sensuality
affinity
embrace
at sight
love
hearth
song
madness

By Marilena, Martinique

The backwards alphabet code

The house of words By Daniel Castillo, Ies Baix Camp

Try the to guess the code by giving a number to each word.

But, be careful! You need to do it backwards!!!

A-25, B-24, C-23…X-3, Y-2, Z-1

19, 9, 23, 13, 22, 11, 23, 9, 21, 13, 7, 8

By Daniel Castillo, Ies Baix Camp

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 © Polaris eyevine

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer

to the problem of human existence.
Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

IES BAIX CAMP, REUS, CATALONIA, www.iesbaixcamp.org

College FRANÇOIS MAURIAC, Léognan, FRANCE, www.ejournal.fi/mauriac
BESSENYEI GYÖRGY, Kisvárda, HUNGARY, www.besi.hu
UMBERTO SORACE MARESCA, Catanzaro,, ITALY www.iis-maresca.it
JOSEPH LAGROSILLIERE, Saint Marie, MARTINICA
V LICEUM OGOLNOKSTALCACE JAKUBA WEJHERA, Wejherowo, POLAND , www.zspg4.wejher.pl
LISA MEITNER GYMNASIUM, Neuenhaus, GERMANY, www.lmg.neuenhaus.de
ADYAMAN ANATOLIAN HS, Adyaman, TURKEY, www.adiyamananadolu.meb.k12.tr
VECHTDAL COLLEGE, Hardenberg, NETHERLANDS, www.vechtdalcollege.nl
ZDRUŽENÁ STREDNÁ ŠKOLA, Levice, SLOVAKIA, www.zssoaslv.edu.sk