Most people don’t have every possible advantage for every possible activity. I’m good at basketball, but I’m kind of slow. With women I don’t have a deep voice or naturally goodlooks. The only reason I got so good with women and dating was that I made the right changesto my personality.Most women are the same way. They dress to show off their ‘best’ assets and neutralize their worst.You can do the same. There are lots of obvious things you can do to neutralize what’s holdingyou back, or (usually more accurately) what you THINK is holding you back. For example:
Wear shoes that give you extra height. Like an inch or two.
Look different. Both Mr. M and Bonsai have fashionable outfits andhaircuts that short-circuit the “boring Asian guy” stereotype before she even talks tothem.
Dress to avoid, sure, but don’t explain or excuse. If you gained a lot of weightduring a stressful time in your life and you want to work it off, that’s great. You canmention that in passing (when talking about goals) in the “Comfort phase.” Not before.If you don’t know what the “Comfort phase” of a pickup is, you need to brush up on basic pick up technology. Get the free download of theLove Systems Triad model.And then there are specific routines you can use for different situations – to turn any obstacleinto a strength or to deflect it.One of my best natural friends (yes, naturals use routines – it’s human nature to repeat whatworks instead of reinventing the wheel) is 5’7. He loves tall women and has a great routine – itworks because he is funny, and comedic delivery is huge – on how much tall women love him because there’s no risk they’d even be looking up at him and see nostril hair.Physical obstacles go further than that. At the 2008 Love Systems Super Conference(every
October the world’s best pick up artists come to one of the hottest hotels in Las Vegas for aweekend of fun, information sharing, and training), there was one guy who came in oncrutches. He went home with a beautiful woman the second night – prettier than most guys haveever dated.So, it should be no surprise that one of the best pick up artists in the world – Mr. M – admits thathe is: “Asian, short, and not really good-looking.” And yet he picks up Playboy Playmates.