I leftLove Systemsin winter 2007. For all of 2008, I was wandering the land of the normal. Ihad a rigorous job at a digital special effects company, and I could usually only find time to goout on weekends if I went out at all. And I had a girlfriend, a monogamous relationship with awoman I loved very much. For all intents and purposes, I went back into the Matrix (Savoynixed my request to have my handle changed to "Cypher" when I came back to work for LoveSystems). When my circumstances changed - I left my girlfriend, and my job left me - I thoughtfor approximately seventeen nanoseconds about coming back to the company that helped me,trained me, and gave me the chance to change the lives of thousands of men like me. Just likeseeing Tampa's palm trees again, coming back to Love Systems has given me a chance to look atthe world of dating science through new eyes, a new perspective I hope to give back to mystudents in the programs I teach. Here's what my own Luke 15 has taught me:
Top 10 Lessons From Years in the Game1.) If you don't use it, you lose it.
As I mentioned above, I was in a monogamous relationship for much of 2008. It ended badly.There I was, a master of female psychology, a world-class pimp, and I thought I'd found a girlworth trading in all the other girls. It turned out her tongue wasn't made of roses and her skinwasn't gilded in gold. She was flesh and bone, blood and water: just another girl. I'd beenteaching guys how to see women for who they really, really were, and I had been duped by a“10” with a great cover story. I felt like a fool and a failure.I took that feeling into my encounters with new women, and my game was trash because of it.The next few months were not pretty. Starting in January 2009, the pendulum swung the other way, and I was back in the saddle in a way even my pre-relationship self would envy. What Iexperienced, that slump after a serious relationship, wasn't weird. It's typical of any guy wholearns this stuff and finds himself weeks or months or years away. As I found to my delight,once you learn Love Systems, it's kind of like riding a bike, as long as you're willing to put thetime in.
2.) Nothing teaches like approaching.
Unlike a lot of guys fretting over their love lives, I had my history and knowledge as a LoveSystems instructor to fall back on when I hit my slump. Even still, I couldn't knowledge my wayout of my unplanned celibacy. What finally helped me was approaching. A lot. I had to make thetime. Anyone who's drawn to Love Systems tends to be smarter than your average guy, and