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The Climate of a Healthy Relationship Part 3 - Forgive

The Climate of a Healthy Relationship Part 3 - Forgive

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 November 16, 2003
The Climate of Healthy Relationships
Part 3:
Forgiveness is the glue that holds two imperfect people together!How can you make forgiveness the climate of your relationships?1. ______________________________________________________ forgiveness.Forgiveness is _________________________________________________.Forgiveness isn’t ____________________ . You forgive with your  _____________________ not your _______________________.Forgiveness isn’t ____________________ . You forgive with your  _____________________ not your _______________________.2. ____________________________ forgiveness __________________________.Ephesians 4:32, Mark 2:1-12, Luke 24:47, Acts 13:38, Ephesians 1:7, 1 John1:93. ____________________________ forgiveness __________________________.A. _______________________________________________ ahead of time.Romans 6:10, Hebrews 7:27, 10:10, 1 Peter 3:18B. Keep ______________________________________________________.Ephesians 4:26, Matthew 5:23-24C. ____________________ forgiveness; __________________ when asked.
 For Life Group Discussion:
What is the most difficult part of forgiveness for you?Who do you need to forgive now? What is your next step?
 November 16, 2003
The Climate of Healthy Relationships
Part 3:
How many of you remember the 1970 hit movie, "Love Story", starringAli MacGraw and Ryan O'Neal? When Jenny lay dying, Oliver was weepingand saying, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry", and Jenny said that famous line, "Lovemeans never having to say you're sorry."Do you buy that? I don't think Ryan O'Neal did! Two years later in his1972 comedy, "What's Up, Doc?" with Barbra Streisand, she bats her eyes athim when he apologizes and says, "Love means never having to say you'resorry." O'Neal looks at her disbelievingly, and then says, "That's the dumbestthing I've ever heard!" The comedy is closer to the truth than the romance!It really is the dumbest thing you’ve ever heard. Any two people who love eachother have to say “I’m sorry” a lot—every day—multiple times a day. Why?Because they’re imperfect! Relationships always involve imperfect people andrequire lots of forgiveness if they are to work and last. The truth is that love meanshaving to say you're sorry
; love means forgiving the other person frequently.Today, we’re going to talk about how to build a climate of forgiveness inyour relationships.
Offering and announcements:
Huge way-to-go! You gave $12,910 to provide turkey dinners for Thanksgiving—that’s enough for 860 families! Thank you!We have been looking for ways to help our community, especially the poor.Randy Sylvia has been championing this cause since the first of November; hereare some options. (Handouts)I told you last weekend that we are $180,000 behind budget for the 2003calendar year, and we’d like to make that up these last six weeks. I know that budgets don’t motivate most people. “Help us make budget” doesn’t make most of us jump up and grab our checkbooks! So let me personalize it.Our budget has four large categories. First, personnel. Your offerings paythe salaries and benefits for our paid staff of 45 full and part time people. Theyinclude maintenance and facilities staff, technical personnel, clerical and officestaff, and pastors and ministry directors. These are the people who make all thatour church does possible; and your offerings allow them to do that.Second, ministry. Your offerings pay the expenses involved in providing thewide range of services that we offer. For example, it costs money to provide a
Page 2quality children’s program each week, or a junior high or senior high group, or Life Groups, or starting a new church. Your offering makes all the ministries of our church possible.Third, giving. We give almost 20% of all our offerings away to help the poor and needy, to help start new churches, to help other ministries that are doingGod’s work in our city and beyond, and to Christian missionaries around theworld. Your offerings are helping thousands of people here and around the world.Fourth, operations. These include things like the mortgage, utilities,insurance, maintenance, repairs, and equipment. I’ve had people tell me, “I don’twant my offering to go for the mortgage or utilities; I want it to go straight toministry.” I tell them that if everyone had that attitude, we’d be meeting outside inthe cold. Every church, just like every family, has these expenses; your offerings pay for them and make this possible.That’s where your money goes—that’s what the budget is about. It’s aboutdoing God’s work—it’s about people—all of it, even the operations expenses. Idon’t look at our mortgage or utilities as investing in a building. It’s investing inthe people who use the building. Your offering is an investment in God’s work,which is about people. Any questions?
Worship, Prayer, Sketch:
 No Accident.
That sketch has really happened. There are lots of stories of people whodecided to forgive instead of be bitter, to help someone instead of punish them. Andit illustrates a very important truth: who benefits most when you forgive someone?You do! Forgiveness sets you free. It liberates you, the forgiver, from bitterness andfrom the responsibility of being judge, jury and executioner. Often people refuse toforgive because they want to punish the offender; but the person you’re punishingmost is yourself. You make yourself miserable! Kim did herself a favor and forgaveAnn.It’s not just the forgiver who benefits; forgiveness also liberates the forgiven.Ann experienced the relief of being forgiven. Forgiveness sets the forgiven free fromthe need to defend herself; from the guilt of the past; and gives her opportunity tochange. When you are forgiven, you don't have to defend yourself any longer; youdon't have to live in the shadow of past failures; you can move on, you are free tochange.Forgiveness needs to be the climate of your relationships; not just anoccasional thing that you do, but an essential part of the environment, just like the air you breathe. Without forgiveness, relationships suffocate. How many of you haveany friction in your relationships?

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