dreadful to happen, that I've done something wrong, that I've made a terriblemistake and the roof's going to fall in. I feel like I'm on hold, waiting. Waiting forthe school principal to punish me, waiting for the boss to find a mistake in my work. Waiting, always waiting." And like countless other adult children, Mary wonders, "Is there a purpose to my life? Where am I going? What's it all mean? Will I ever find the serenity that otherpeople talk about?" What is the meaning of this life? This is the anguish, the agony of the adult child.This book is for you if you've grappled with these feelings, these questions.This book is for you if your life often seems futile or utterly meaningless.This book is for you if your life is a mechanical repetition of loneliness, hurt, guilt,fear, confusion, and conflict.My aim is to offer strategies for self-change that can help you, an adult child of analcoholic, free yourself from the turbulence of your childhood so that your can better cope with the challenges of today. By taming your past, you can finally experience the full joys of adult living and loving and sharing.Is this a promise for a magic method of finding a permanent state of bliss. A quick cure for life-long conflict?Sorry.No miraculous key to total happiness exists. There is no effortless self-help guideto inner harmony in thirty days, guaranteed, without tears.But I do believe the strategies and exercises in this book can help ease the burdenof your anguish by giving you a far more extensive understanding of therelationship you had with your alcoholic family during your childhood andadolescence, and how that relationship is still affecting your day-to-day life.This new understanding, in and of itself, is not enough to help you master thepowerful and complex emotions that may be preventing you from creating anadult life that is as productive, fulfilling and loving as you desire.Understanding, awareness and insight are important first steps in the process of personal growth. But they are just that: First steps.