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There\u2019s something fundamentally and psychologically true about the old adage that \u201copposites attract.\u201d In fact, the most common negative pattern that couples get stuck in is when one partner plays the role of a pursuer, seeking emotional inti- macy. The other plays the role of a distancer, seeking autonomy and space. When relationships are at their best, either partner can play either role on any given day. So when partners become entrapped and consistently have to play the same roles, it\u2019s often a sign of trou- ble in the relationship.
Round and round the cou- ple goes, each partner becoming increasingly frustrated that their needs aren\u2019t being understood or respected by the other (who hap- pens to need something completely different). This negative cycle tends to play out repeatedly. It\u2019s present in arguments about who will cook dinner, in discussions of how the couple will spend their weekend, and in the struggle for both part- ners to be interested and willing in having sex. Different topics, differ- ent days, same negative cycle.
The Pursuer-Distancer pattern arises for very valid reasons and often comes to the surface when there\u2019s been a major change in the couple\u2019s life, such as the birth of the first child or a significant financial setback. It\u2019s during these times of increased stress that each partner is trying to get their indi- vidual needs met under difficult circumstances. The Pursuer has an undeniable and valid need to feel their partner is \u201cletting them in.\u201d
The Distancer has an undeniable and valid need to feel their partner approves of them and isn\u2019t trying to control or smother them.
If this description fits your rela- tionship, you may breathe a sigh of relief that your situation is proba- bly more normal and more common than you have ever realized. There are highly effective and proven ways in which couples break free of their Pursuer Distancer cycles for good when both partners are willing to get to know one another on a deep- er level through couples therapy. (And yes, couples therapy does cost money. But the expense is minimal when you compare it to the emo- tional and financial expenses of separation and divorce.)
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy goes to the heart of these individual attachment needs and addresses them more successfully than any other form of couples therapy. In fact, research studies have found that 70-75% of the cou- ples who utilize this type of therapy not only survived their relation- ship crisis but stayed together and reported being happy in the rela- tionship years later. Thirty-percent of Flourish Counseling\u2019s clients are couples who are working to create more stable and satisfying rela- tionships. The way in which their relationships transform over the course of therapy is awesome and heartwarming to witness!
Contact the relationship experts at Flourish Counseling for more information on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy by visiting www. FlourishCounseling.com or by call- ing 303-455-3767.***
If you live in the Berkeley neigh- borhood you might get a knock on your door this week by AmeriCorps members or other volunteers work- ing to \u201cgreen\u201d the neighborhood. They will offer to swap your porch light bulb to a compact fluorescent bulb, help you cancel unwanted junk mail, and provide applications for $25 street trees, which typically retail for $100 or more.
The volunteers will also be ask- ing Berkeley residents to answer six quick questions about how they currently get around (e.g. car, bus, bike, walk). This information will be used by Groundwork Denver to launch a new transportation program this spring that will help northwest
If you live in Berkeley and are willing to take the mini Travel Survey, please go to www.NWDenverTravelSurvey. org. After you take the survey you will be entered into a drawing to win one of three $50 gift certificates to a merchant of your choice in the 44th and Tennyson area.
Please call Groundwork Denver at 303-455-5600 if you have any ques- tions about the project, if you would like to take the survey by phone, or if you would like a tree application.
Groundwork Denver is a local non- profit that engages communities to improve the physical environment. www.GroundworkDenver.org.***
The decorative brickwork, wrap-around porch and other fanciful details are prominent features that make this 1892 beauty a gemstone in the neighborhood. If you can identify where this home is located and its architectural style, your name will be entered into a drawing for a free dinner at North Denver's new favorite restaurant, Tocabe. Send your answers to editor@ northdenvernews.com. Answer and winner will be posted in the March issue of the North Denver News.
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If elected as the next state sen- ator representing Senate District 34, a top priority will be the econ- omy: making hard choices about the state\u2019s budget, finding ways to increase resources and improve services, and building a vital job market in the state. As a citizen, it is already a top priority, and one I hope to impact positively in all I do. I have learned there are ways that I can improve the local economy today. By
taking a few simple steps I can partici- pate in the healing of my community and in new begin- nings for many who are currently seek- ing
employment or starting a new business or hop- ing to grow their current enterprise. I share these with you, and I am sure you can add, a few ways in which we can each partici-
the power of our own pocket- books. By making the choice to shop and entertain locally, we are supporting businesses and the jobs they create. A study by Civics Economics found that for every $100 spent at a locally owned business, $68 additional dollars are added to the local economy, compared to only $43 for every $100 spent at a national chain store.
By shopping locally, we keep our community unique, reduce our impact on the environment, and create local jobs. Did you know that the small business community is the largest employ- er nationally? Supporting local businesses is a great way to lever- age our tax revenue as well. Local businesses require much less infrastructure \u2013 so fewer state dol- lars support them, leaving more funds to provide services such as education and healthcare. We also support the entrepreneurial spirit of Colorado, building local pros- perity and a business community that loves, values, and stays in Colorado. Visit www.coloradolo- calfirst.com for more information.
ways to volunteer in our com- munity, but what does it do for our economy? First, it has indi- vidual impact: many careers have been launched by volunteering first and getting hired later. It also has community impact: vol- unteering at a local food bank or
shelter means more service can be delivered to more people in times of need. Our local nonprofit community serves a wide range of needs and services from hospitals and hospice care to youth centers and homeless shelters. To pro- vide these services, local nonprofit agencies depend on financial sup- port from individuals, businesses, and foundations to provide servic- es. Unfortunately, as the economy has suffered, so has the support of
these critical agen- cies. Volunteering your time can help a critical support agency maintain its services in our com- munity. Lastly, the economic impact is
significant: Colorado\u2019s nonprof- it community is the third-largest indus- try in the state. Volunteering is a sustaining practice for this industry, leveraging
vices to ensure quality program delivery. There are many agencies in our community that would welcome your time. You can find them at www.metrovol- unteers.org.
time you reuse an item, such as turning an empty pinto bean can into a pencil jar, you save money and the planet. By actively recycling and purchasing recy- cled products, we are all helping to build the new green economy while creating new jobs. Unwanted goods can be donated to a local agency like www.theARC.org, and consignment stores are a great place to find a new pair of jeans (our neighborhood has plenty to choose from, including the ClothesHorse on Tennyson). Gently used books can be taken to The Bookery Nook which will get them to needy kids and their families. These efforts put less strain on our own pocketbooks, reduce the amount of waste going into landfills, create jobs and industries that can grow and sus- tain our economy, and teach our children and us to be thrifty and to care for the things we have.
This article is the second in a series that will reflect on many subjects important to our com- munity. Please look for my next article in next month\u2019s edition of the North Denver News. And if you wish to learn more about me, please visit my website at www. luciaguzman4colorado.com.
Luc\u00eda Guzm\u00e1n is a candidate for the Colorado State Senate, Senate District 34. ***
February is definitely the time of year when everyone that doesn\u2019t have it already is searching for true love.
For all you males out there looking to win the love of your heart\u2019s desire, here\u2019s a really big tip \u2013 flowers and candy are not the only things that can elicit a warm,
fuzzy feeling. Huge points are to be gained by the selection of a thought- ful accessory \u2013 purses, shoes, boots, scarves or cos-
Well search no more \u2013 True Love has been waiting for you at 42 Broadway for three and a half years. Staffed
by owner Sarah Lilly-Rex and executive assis- tant Vix Ana, the shop has one big differ- ence over the big shopping center
and mall retailers \u2013 price.
\u201cOur price point for shoes is $22 to $38,\u201d Sarah
just really unique. I want women to have fun and not have a stressful expe- rience. We\u2019re based on very trendy
She also assured us she\u2019s careful no animal products are contained in the accessories she sells.
One unidentified shopper said she likes to shop there because she likes lots of shoes \u2013 implying she can have more pairs by shopping there.
The shop has a bright and varied assortment, which also includes sunglasses, hose, boots of every style and texture. Some sale items are marked down to as little as $12.
For men seeking a dynamite gift for their honey, Sarah has some helpful advice. If you want to get your girl a pair of shoes she\u2019ll love try to sneak a slipper out of her closet to bring along because sizes vary by manufacturer. Pay atten- tion to the colors she likes and what she has already. Or go to the shop and take some pictures with
Choose from a wide selection of pumps, peep toes, Mary Jane\u2019s, gladiator san- dals, flats and a whole collection of trendy, styl- ish footwear.
you can send her to the shop and have her take pictures of the things she likes. Sarah will help you find them and choose an item
Or you can pick something from a dazzling array of attractive cos- tume jewelry priced from $12 to $16.
Ladies if you can\u2019t depend or wait on your fellow to enhance your wardrobe, this is the shop for you. On the front window there is what you could only call a business philosophy or mission statement. Excerpts follow\u2026
\u201cWe believe you are gorgeous. We feel you should be able to buy those pink heels for the party Friday and still afford the champagne.
\u201cWe believe that the right shoes can change your mood/your day/ your luck. \u201d
Fellows stop and think about that \u2013 this is the power you can wield if you learn your way around women\u2019s accessories.
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