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Beginning in the primeval days of childhood, even before language develops, the
ties between brothers and sisters often stretch far into old age, enduring longer than any
other attachment we have. Parents die, friends drift away, and marriages dissolve. But
brothers and sisters cannot be divorced; even if they do not speak to each other for twenty
graduation marked important changes between parents and children. The bonds
between husband and wife are celebrated by engagements and weddings, legalized by
marriage and annulment. But there are no rituals of church or synagogue that celebrate
sibling bonds. It is a kind of a law which is unspoken, but which is taken into the heart
by all individuals.
Despite the fact that brothers and sisters have strong ties, however, there remained
the reality that siblings often have differences of opinion. Most of the time, they argue
over issues ranging from trivial and insignificant, to major and serious. Drastic
consequences, such as physical harm to any family member, marital problems and
damages to the psychological well-being of an individual, may occur if these conflicts are
left unresolved.
Parents want their children to enter adulthood with good sibling relationships.
After all, in most cases sibling relationships are the longest relationships that any of us
will have in life. As siblings grow up together they develop a long history of shared
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experiences. But it's mostly the experiences not shared that can cause differences leading
The primary aim of this research study is to identify the factors which trigger
sibling rivalry. By recognizing and understanding these issues, the research team would
be able to come up with solutions which will be vital in avoiding the possible
Filipino families who are being subjected to sibling rivalry, and it also aims to present
preventive measures for parents who plan to have more than one offspring, so as to avoid
2. How do these factors affect the siblings’ relationship with each other?
3. What are the usual steps that parents take to solve sibling rivalry?
5. What are the most effective measures that should be taken to stop siblings form
6. What advice should be given to parents who desire to have a big family?
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Significance of the Study
Parents. With the help of this research study, parents would be able to solve their
siblings’ conflict with each other. Through the realistic and practical solutions that the
research provided, parents may help promote harmonious relationships within the
household.
Siblings. Through this research, brothers and sisters may discover the true cause
of their conflicts and misunderstandings, and may be able to strengthen their relationship
with each other. The solutions provided will be beneficial for them, so that they would
First-time parents. For the couple who wishes to have a big family, or even just
another child or two, this research study would endow them with advice to on how to
prepare their child for the possibility of a sibling. This will help them ensure that there
will be no instances of resentment and jealousy between the child and the new baby.
Other researchers. For other researchers who aim to study family dynamics
and relationships, this research study may be a significant tool for their endeavor. It will
help them to identify sibling’s relationships with each other, conflicts and
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Definition of Terms:
Sibling rivalry. It is a term used to describe the conflicts or arguments that occur when
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CHAPTER II: Related Literature and studies
Sibling Relationship
individuals who share common biologic origins from both parents. Because the
maintain it. Sibling relationship lasts longer than most others with siblings typically
sharing a long history of intimate family experiences. Moreover, the sibling relationship
is more egalitarian than other relationships. (Half-siblings share biological origins from
only one parent, whereas stepsiblings and adoptive siblings have no common biological
origins. Depending upon family circumstances, they may or not may share other
closeness gradually decrease in early adulthood, are low in the middle adult years, and
rise again in late adulthood and old age-is well supported by research findings
(Bedford,1993). Apart from such a general trend, individual sibling relationship seem to
wax and wane life circumstances. In a 4-year longitudinal study (Bedford, in press) about
two thirds of the respondents reported a change in feelings toward sibling over time,
related to life events. The direction of the change depended upon the interactions and
interpretations of the siblings in reaction to the events, and it was likely to be positive
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Sibling differences
Applying the methods of behavioral genetics (twin studies, adoption studies) to sibling
differences (Scarr & Gracek,1982), has helped to make it clear that not only does genetic
cognition, but that the environment shared by siblings also provides little explanation for
such phenomena. Authors of two excellent reviews of this literature (Dunn & Stocker,
1989; Hoffman, 1991) conclude that environmental influences not shared by siblings
must, therefore, account for the differences. Siblings may not only experience different
environments outside the home (different playmates, different teachers, etc.), but
environments experienced by different siblings within the home may also differ as a
experienced by one sibling but not the other (Dunn & Stocker, 1989).
(Brody, Stoneman, & Burke, 1987; Bryant & Crockenberg, 1980; Dunn & Munn, 1986;
Plomin & Daniels, 1986; Stocker, Dunn & Plomin, 1989). Older children (Furman &
Buhrmaster, 1985) and adolescents (Daniels, Dunn, Furstenberg & Plomin, 1985) have
reported differential parental treatment. Such differences were associated with sibling
adjustment and relationship to each other, when one sibling perceived him- or herself as
the deprived or unfavored child. In interactions with one another, older siblings tend to be
initiators of behavior; the younger siblings were followers (Abramovich, Corter, Pepler,
& Stanhope, 1986; Brody et al., 1987; Dunn & Munn, 1986; Rodgers & Rowe, 1988).
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However, the situation may be somewhat more complex than presented above.
Hoffman (1991) points out that the child is an active interpreter of his or her environment
as well as an elicitor of parent and sibling behaviors. As a result, the child’s interpretation
of parents and siblings influences determines whether the characteristics of the sibling or
their opposite will appear in the child. Furthermore, the child’s age, gender, and physical
appearance (attractiveness, resemblance to the parents, and so on) at the time of a given
between elderly sisters were reported in Bayen, Gruber-Baldini and Schaie (1991).
Sibling rivalry may be considerably greater in adulthood than what was previously
thought, decreasing little with advancing age, based on the use of projective techniques
(Bedford,1989) and extended interviews (Gold,1989). Rather than just using single
dimensions or a profile of dimensions, Bank and Kahn (1982) identified several types or
and disownment. Gold (1989b) identified five types of sibling relationships- intimate,
congenial, loyal, apathetic, and hostile. These typologies were upheld by data reanalysis
using a “fuzzy set” clustering methodology (Gold, Woodberry, & George, 1990) , in a
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To the extent that the existence of such types can be generalized, they may prove useful
As a parent you want your children to enter adulthood with good sibling
relationships. After all, in most cases our sibling relationships are the longest
relationships that any of us will have in life. As siblings grow up together they develop a
long history of shared experiences. But it's mostly the experiences not shared that can
Depending on your family structure, your children might experience several types
of sibling relationships. Full siblings have the same biological parents. Half siblings share
only one biological parent. Step siblings are gained because of divorce and remarriage.
Jealousy
Jealousy refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person
anxiety about maintaining support, intimacy, and other valued qualities of her or his
relationship. Given that attachment relates to anxiety regulation, support, and intimacy, as
presence of a rival:
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"In most young children the mere sight of mother holding another baby in her
arms is enough to elicit strong attachment behavior. The older child insists on remaining
close to his mother, or on climbing on to her lap. Often he behaves as though he were a
baby. It is possible that this well-known behavior is only a special case of a child reacting
to mother's lack of attention and lack of responsiveness to him. The fact, however, that an
older child often reacts in this way even when his mother makes a point of being attentive
and responsive suggests that more is involved; and the pioneer experiments of Levy
(1937) also indicate that the mere presence of a baby on mother's lap is sufficient to make
When children see a rival contending for a caregiver's attention, the children try to
get close to the caregiver and capture the caregiver's attention. Attempts to get close to
the caregiver and capture the caregiver's attention indicate the attachment system has
been activated. But the presence of a rival also provokes jealousy in children. The
jealousy provoked by a sibling rival has been described in detail. Recent studies have
shown that a rival can provoke jealousy at very young ages. The presence of a rival can
provoke jealousy in infants as young as six months old. Attachment and jealousy can
Some degree of fighting is perfectly normal. It exists in every family that has two
or more children, so take comfort in knowing you are not alone. Some siblings get along
Having awareness about what causes sibling rivalry can help you begin to
understand this dynamic. When you can get to the root of an issue, it is easier to
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brainstorm solutions. Just like adults, children have their own personalities and
temperaments and sometimes their differences clash. Age is another factor involved in
sibling rivalry. An older child may feel burdened by more responsibility or a younger
child may be caught up in trying to compete with his older sibling. In addition,
differences in interests change as a child ages. What is fun for a 5 and 7 year old may be
considered immature for a 10 year old. A child's sex can cause resentment as well. Let's
face it. Boys and girls are treated differently. A boy could be jealous of how his sister's
emotions are pampered. A girl could envy the time her brother spends wrestling with his
father. A child's position in the family can also play a role in sibling rivalry. We often
expect more from our first born children. By the time the 2nd and 3rd come along, the
rules loosen somewhat. And sometimes the baby of the family receives very special
treatment. Everyone tries to make her happy when she is mad or sad. At times the
youngest will be overly assertive to gain her equal place in the family.
All of these issues can play a part, but the most significant factor that affects
sibling rivalry is parental attitude. As parents, we know we should treat our children
equally and fairly. And most of us probably try very hard to do that, however
inconsistencies will still exist. There may be a child you get along better with because of
your personalities. Perhaps one or more of your children are easier to handle so they have
a tendency to receive more loving treatment from you. Children pick up on every bit of
inconsistency and they don't always understand why things are different for each child.
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CHAPTER III: Methodology
This chapter describes the method of research used by the research team to
complete this study. It will explain the research design, research locale, samples and
sampling technique, instrumentation and method of collecting data, and the statistical
Research Design:
qualitative method for their study, with an open-ended questionnaire as the primary
source of data. The purpose of the descriptive method is to systematically describe the
situation or area of interest factually and accurately (Andres, 1998). It is the process of
gathering, analyzing, classifying and tabulating data and making accurate and adequate
Research locale
The study was conducted chiefly in the urban areas in Manila. This city, being
the nation’s capital, is a primary location for residential neighborhoods. Since the
respondents composed of parents and children, the residential areas in Manila is the best
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Sampling Design
sampling design. It is a sampling design in which every one in the population of the
inquiry has an equal chance to be included in the sample. It is also known as lottery or
raffle type of sampling. The research team selected 120 respondents, in which 60 are
parents and 60 are offspring, from different areas of Metro Manila through this design for
their survey
Instrumentation
their data. There were two kinds of questionnaires constructed by the research team,
one for the adults and one for the children (Copies of the questionnaire may be found at
Appendix A). A cover letter was sent to the respondents along with the questionnaire.
The respondents were assured that they will be treated with strictest anonymity and
confidentiality, and that their responses will be used only for the purposes of research. (a
Treatment of Data
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CHAPTER IV: ANALYSIS, INTERPRETATION AND
PRESENTATION OF DATA
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