(note: this simple ball toss demonstration mostly illustrated the slower cadencenecessary to send and receive messages well). Think about “landing” your energy, one person at a time, one idea at a time.Do you know what “mirror neurons” are? (People will mirror one another inconversation). Know this and be aware of it, it is a way to see that you are onthe “same wavelength” or sharing common ground.
Loosen up before entering a conversation:
Actors physically stretch out their arms wide open toward the sky and thenshake them (somewhat “wildly”) to shake out tension. (Brown asks theaudience to do that with her). Try it…especially before speaking with peopleyou haven’t talked with before, you will feel “lighter”, more open and lessfearful.
Posture, stance, presence:
Indira Ghandi said: “no one can shake hands with a closed fist. So when youmeet people and speak withthem, keep your body open. Uncross your armsand uncross legs. Stand openly, with hands open, feet planted on the ground. Think of your voice as a ball toss, making certain that your voice is “landing.”Stand centered, to the center of the earth….Breathe and land your voice on theperson as the “fountain” that you are (Brown motions an arc with her arm, likethe same arc of the tennis ball in flight).
Give the common everyday words you use some respect:
When we say certain words over and over we tend to shorten and mutter the words, and this can sound small and dismissive. Say some words barely moving your mouth…and then say them again with good breath and widening yourmouth. You’ll notice immediately even you feel differently about the same word.For example, I work at the
American Repertory Theater.
(spoken quickly withoutmoving her mouth). Now, is this better: I work at the
Amer---i---can Rep---er--tory The—a---ter.
(elongated). Can you tell immediately how the words