Dr John Kenworthywww.developingleadershipstyle.com.sg
Level of influence
Influence is a two-way street. Everything you do and say has someinfluence on others - you are part of their external environment. Youeven exert a small degree of gravitational force on others; indeed, youexert gravitational force on the planet! Not a lot admittedly, but yourmass does attract other mass. You knew that you should have paidattention in science class now. Just as aside, it's quite a useful factoid for use when you have gaineda few pounds of weight - you do so in order to become more attractive! That's put paid to theglamour magazines.The same is true for other people exerting their influence over you. Everything that other people sayor do is a part of your external environment and that exerts an influence in turn over yourbehaviour.The external environment beyond other human beings also has some influence over you. Theweather for example - when it is raining, it is quite likely that you would alter your 'normal'behaviour by carrying an umbrella, or wearing a rain-proof coat. You know for sure that the weathercan have a major influence over your golf. When there is lightening, you would wisely move awayfrom the fairways under the trees or into the clubhouse. Being struck by lightning is one influencethat everyone can do without.The problem with influence is that human beings have a tendency to assume that there is little youcan do to change the way something influences you. Well, let me put this straight. You can and youdo.Let us take an example of something that influences us and we do something about it - almost fightits influence on our lives. One that affects us all and that is our friend gravity. You see, gravity is everpresent in our lives - there are a few exceptions but since that involves travelling into space I think Ican safely assume that does not include you. If, by chance you have travelled into space - myquestion is - how far can you hit a drive out there? Must be awesome.Back to earth. Gravity is a pretty constant force acting on our bodies - in order to combat the effectsof gravity we develop muscles and utilise energy to stand against it. Only when we are physicallydamaged - break a leg, twist an ankle, suffer paralysis and so on, do we truly appreciate how mucheffort is involved in keeping our body upright and moving. When we are reasonably fit and well, wethink little or nothing of getting up from a chair and walking, and most of the time, we do all thisunconsciously. We have programmed our brain to take care of operating the correct muscles,keeping balance, walking, and all the while supplying those muscles and cells with energy throughbreathing and circulating our blood. Now, if you had to consciously work out how to do all this stuff that we simply take for granted, you'd not have a great deal of time to think about much else - atleast, not consciously.