The book's goal is to lead the reader to a more enjoyable andfulfilling lifestyle, helping them to become more aware of, notonly themselves, but others around them. Carnegie tries toaddress the everyday nuances of living, in order to get thereader to focus on the more important aspects of life.The book has ten major sections. The core principles of eachsection are quoted below.
Fundamental facts you should know about worry
If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir WilliamOsler did: Live in "day-tight compartments." Don't stewabout the futures. Just live each day until bedtime.
The next time Trouble--with a Capital T--backs youup in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H.Carrier:1.Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possiblyhappen if I can't solve my problem?2.Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.3.Then calmly try to improve upon the worst--whichyou have already mentally agreed to accept.
Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can payfor worry in terms of your health. "Those who do notknow how to fight worry die young."
Basic techniques in analyzing worry
Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "half the worry in theworld is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to basea decision."
After carefully weighing all the facts, come to adecision.
Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busycarrying out your decision--and dismiss all anxiety aboutthe outcome.
When you, or any of your associates, are tempted toworry about a problem, write out and answer thefollowing questions:1.What is the problem?2.What is the cause of the problem?3.What are all possible solutions?4.What is the best solution?
How to break the worry habit before it breaks you
Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy.Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devisedfor curing "wibber gibbers."
Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things--the mere termites of life--to ruin your happiness.
Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: "What are the odds against this thing'shappening at all?"
Co-operate with the inevitable. If you know acircumstance is beyond your power to change or revise,say to yourself: "It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
Put a "stop-less" order on your worries. Decide justhow much anxiety a thing may be worth--and refuse togive it anymore.
Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.
Seven ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bringyou peace and happiness
Let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage,health, and hope, for "our life is what our thoughts makeit."
Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than wehurt them. Let's do as General Eisenhower does: let'snever waste a minute thinking about people we don'tlike.1.Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it.Let's remember that Jesus healed ten lepers in one day--and only one thanked Him. Why should we expect moregratitude than Jesus got?2.Let's remember that the only way to find happinessis not to expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.3.Let's remember that gratitude is a "cultivated" trait;so if we want our children to be grateful, we must trainthem to be grateful.4.Count your blessings--not your troubles!5.Let's not imitate others. Let's find ourselves and beourselves, for "envy is ignorance" and "imitation issuicide."6.When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make alemonade.7.Let's forget our own unhappiness--by trying tocreate a little happiness for others. "When you are goodto others, you are best to yourself."
The perfect way to conquer worry
Prayer.(Next best way is "Work")
How to keep from worrying about criticism
Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. Itoften means that you have aroused jealousy and envy.Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
Do the very best you can; and then put up your oldumbrella and keep the rain of criticism from runningdown the back of your neck.
Let's keep a record of the fool things we have doneand criticize ourselves. Since we can't hope to be perfect,let's do what E.H. Little did: let's ask for unbiased,helpful, constructive criticism.
Six ways to prevent fatigue and worry and keep yourenergy and spirits high
Rest before you get tired.
Learn to relax at your work.
Learn to relax at home.
Apply these four good workings habits:1.Clear your desk of all papers except those relatingto the immediate problem at hand.2.Do things in the order of their importance.3.When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts to make a decision.4.Learn to organize, deputize, and supervise.