Engaged Couples Talk As long as the wedding cake lasts the man will be infatuated. But afterwards he willcome to himself and say: “That foolish woman wishes to be the master.” And then thesquabbling will begin at home.-Vincent Ferrer, sermon
Thomas More's advice to those married or engaged
Here Thomas More provides some excellent advice and guidance for holiness in love andmarriage:“Saint Paul here exhorteth men to love their wives, so tenderly that they should be of themind, that to bring them to heaven they could find in their hearts to die for them, asChrist hath died for Christian people to bring them to heaven, and that men, to that intentthat they may bring their wives to the glorious bliss of heaven, should here bring themwell up in faith, in hope, and charity, and in good works, like as God hath washed hisChurch of all Christian people.” (Complete works of St Thomas More, New Haven: YaleUniv. Press, 1973, bk, 8, pp 851-52).More tells us some advice for those interested in marriage:“And so, my friend, if you desire to marry, first observe what kind of parents the ladyhas. See to it that her mother is revered for the excellence of her character which issucked in and expressed by her tender and impressionable little girl. Next, see to this:what sort of personality she has: how agreeable she is. Let her maidenly countenance becalm and without severity. But let her modesty bring blushes to her cheeks… Let her glances be restrained; let her have no roving eye… Let her be either just finishing her education or ready to begin it immediately… Armed with this learning, she would notyield to pride in prosperity, nor to grief in distress – even though misfortune strike her down.” (To Candidus: how to choose a wife, poem number 143. Complete works of StThomas More, 3/2:185-7).
The secret to a happy marriage
A couple was celebrating their golden wedding anniversary. Their domestic tranquillityhad long been the talk of the town."What a peaceful & loving couple!" A local newspaper reporter was inquiring as to thesecret of their long and happy marriage."Well, it dates back to our honeymoon," explained the man. "We visited the GrandCanyon and took a trip down to the bottom on the canyon by horse. We hadn't gone toofar when my wife's horse stumbled. My wife quietly said, 'That's once'.""We proceeded a little further and the horse stumbled again. Once more my wife quietlysaid, 'That's twice.'"We hadn't gone a half-mile when the horse stumbled the third time. My wife quietlyremoved a revolver from her purse and shot the horse dead." I started an angry protestover her treatment to the horse, while I was shouting; She looked at me, and quietly said,'That's once'."And we lived happily ever after."
The importance of family
Family is important to God. He has a unique plan and purpose for every family. The bestway to discover what that plan entails is to put Jesus at the centre of our family life. JohnPaul II said that “God’s purpose for family is that it be a school of love, it be anenvironment where different members of the family can love and be loved by another.”