Legalized Child Abuse in Germany:

Sex and the preschool child

It's every parents nightmare - your 4 year old daughter's preschool

teacher calls and says "Hi, we just needed to let you know an older
child took your daughter to the Cozy Corner today, and when we
found them he'd stripped himself and removed your daughter's
panties and was fondling her."

But in some countries the conversation might continue a little

differently. "Your daughter appeared a little tearful and said loudly in
front of all the children (who had gathered around by then) that she
didn't want to "touch his gross penis", so we asked him to stop. We
talked about her inappropriate choice of words and how that could
hurt his feelings, discussed how it feels good to be touched
vaginally, reminded her that she is allowed to say no and made sure
they both had a positive self image about the exploration. The other
children had gathered up by then, so we were able to use it as a
teaching moment. You might want to work with your daughter- she
seemed very reluctant both to be naked and also showed a refusal
to engage in the sexual play appropriate for her age when presented
with the opportunity."

Would you call the police? Not in Germany! Extreme child

sexualization is gathering speed across Europe- where sex ed begins
as young as pre-school in some countries. This sex-ed isn't the
version Americans traditionally think of-featuring birth control
education and explanations of the reproductive system.

Germany's non-optional curriculum includes helpful songs to teach

your preschooler not to be afraid to masturbate. In addition, in one
government brochure (finally recalled and condemned by at least
some leaders after years of availability) fathers were encouraged to
give their daughter's vagina pet names like "honey pot" and not to
neglect the caressing of vagina and clitoris which for some reason
were neglected in daily care, leading to a loss of sexual pride in the
daughter, according to this brochure

Booklets from a subsidiary of the German government’s Ministry for

Family Affairs encourage parents to sexually massage their children
as young as 1 to 3 years of age. Two 40-page booklets entitled
“Love, Body and Playing Doctor” by the German Federal Health
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Education Center (Bundeszentrale für gesundheitliche Aufklärung –

BZgA) are aimed at parents – the first addressing children from 1-3
and the other children from 4-6 years of age.

“Fathers do not devote enough attention to the clitoris and vagina of

their daughters. Their caresses too seldom pertain to these regions,
while this is the only way the girls can develop a sense of pride in
their sex,” reads the booklet regarding 1-3 year olds. The authors
rationalize, “The child touches all parts of their father’s body,
sometimes arousing him. The father should do the same.”

Another product of the BZgA is a song book aimed at children of four

and slightly older which includes several songs espousing
masturbation. The song-book entitled “Nose, belly and bum”
includes one song with the following lyrics: “When I touch my body,
I discover what I have. I have a vagina, because I am a girl. Vagina
is not only for peeing. When I touch it, I feel a pleasant tingle.” (I
took this from lifesite who had a translation available-again, this
brochure's been pulled- finally. It's still available free online on
different websites)

The songs are still available for pdf download on the main
government sex ed website, along with an incredible play for
preschoolers to age six featuring a hairy blue phallic bear and the
fairy who was afraid to touch him because something bad might
happen. Don't worry- she touches him.

While the current German sex ed guide for Kindergarteners doesn't

explicitly say families should get in on the action, it does identify
infants as sexual beings and makes it painfully clear that children in
day care or kindergarten should be allowed to experiment with sex
in the doll corner, encouraged to masturbate without limits-
presumably even the limit of "in private" is too much- and expected
to ask questions traditionally associated with pre-teens in the US-
unless they've been "repressed" by their parents.

The official BZgA government brochure states: " ...we must not lose
sight of the fact that some children between the ages of three and
six do not have an unconstrained relationship with sexuality. This is
expressed in insecurity,inhibitions and anxiety about nakedness and
body contact. The underlying reasons can be rooted in family
socialisation. Children are quick to realise that the genital area is to
be shut out. They sense reticence in their parents, even when it is
communicated non-verbally. Children can respond by repressing
sexuality or only by pursuing their sexual needs secretly for fear of
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being found out."

The thinking is clear here. If you're not on board with teaching very
young children about sex, or ignore their genitals and don't allow
unlimited masturbation, you're a fundamentalist repressive
dinosaur. Your child will grow up with a complex. One wonders what
the alternative is- admiring and/or touching the child's genitalia?
Isn't that pedophilia? What are we recommending here?

Why aren't the parents doing anything? They tried and found their
hands are tied because their government ratified the Convention of
the Rights of the Child, the positive- sounding UN amendment that
unfortunately appears to take away the rights of parents and give
governments that sign ultimate say in matters relating to child-
raising and education. When the parents try to protest this, they're
told their children have a "right of education". Some in Germany
have gone to jail rather than subject their children to this "right".

Here's the BZgA's take on the parent's objections to the forced

kindergarten sex-ed curriculum:

"Parent-teacher evenings on sex education facilitate the work of

teachers in kindergarten. And if parents occasionally have a guarded
reaction to the subject or voice the opinion that their child is too
young for sex education, these statements should not be
prematurely dismissed, but rather taken as an opportunity to initiate
a discussion with parents about the importance of child sexuality.
Parental insecurities often mask the question of whether their child's
sexual behaviour is "normal". The parent-teacher evening can thus
be used to address the diverse questions, anxieties and insecurities
of parents..."

Isn't that nice? If you don't think it's appropriate for the teachers to
allow your kindergartener to be taken to the doll corner by another
child to play doctor while children look on, it's because you're
secretly afraid your kiddo's a deviant. Don't worry- the teachers will
help you get up to speed and overcome your own issues.

Or this discussion on appropriate teacher/child boundaries (note the

problem here is the behind-the-times-parent- not the teacher.)

A teacher is approached by a mother: "My child told me that you

showered together with the children yesterday after taking a walk
with them in the rain, and that you took turns soaping each other
up? What were you thinking?"
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They ran into a problem, though. For some reason, more and more
families starting pulling these undersexed children from the public
schools and teaching them at home. Hmm, wonder why?

The response? Germany declared that homeschoolers were a parallel

society and that homeschooling was now banned. Sweden- where
sex ed starts at age six- followed Germany. Swiss parents were
given the same booklet, but complained. Then things took a strange
twist.

Suddenly anti-homeschool articles started appearing in the UK.

Parents watched, wondering, as a formerly friendly and curious
media turned nasty. Article after article of heartbreaking
accusations of abuse in homeschool situations- though the children
written about were fostering violations or otherwise known to social
services, not the "hidden abused forced-marriage homeschooled
child" they kept trying to portray through slant.

Since only 38% home educate for religious reasons and many are
very liberal, it was hard to get the "weird cult" label to stick. They
kept hammering, though, using "we" as often as possible in articles,
as though the whole country was sure homeschoolers were a
squirrely bunch in need of intensive monitoring. They also failed to
point out that if abusers were hiding behind homeschooling (as they
liked to insinuate) keeping children in the attic hidden away or
something, they sure wouldn't bring them out to register with any
agency. Or that such legislation could shortchange the known
abused children they were already trying to monitor.

But, slowly public sentiment changed. Suddenly there was a debate.

Parliment introduced a bill . This bill would create a year of
mandatory government-prescribed sex ed (forced into even in the
private religious schools) but would also in the same bill give the
government the ability to overturn the current homeschool law and
go around traditional citizen protections by citing the "Rights of the
Child" treaty.

If it passed, it would mean the home educated families would be

forced to allow local authorities access to private homes without
cause, as if they were sex offenders in need of monitoring. It would
also allow interviews of young children alone without a parent
present. If the children won't (or aren't able) to perform for the
interviewer, the parents are helpless to prevent local authorities
forcing a return to traditional school for a variety of reasons, many
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ill-defined. The citizens of the UK protested, creating a record-

breaking response to the legislation. It was debated this week in
Parliament. It still may pass, though it looks like a long shot.

The anti-homeschool articles have now started in the US. In the last
two months the articles have picked up, trying to paint American
homeschoolers as a lot of backwards hicks who overprotect their
pale children and indoctrinate them into cult-like lives. While it's so
far from reality that it's laughable- especially considering the
diversity of America's homeschoolers and their reasons for
homeschooling (most providing an alternate teaching style for a
child who doesn't learn well in traditional classes)- it's an indication
of the direction we're headed.

In the other countries, home education seems to be the option that

closes before bringing in state-run sex-ed. It's a matter of checks
and balances. If home education is an option, people will of course
leave the schools if the sex-ed is abusive, and schools will alter
things accordingly to woo the children back. But, If home education
has so many rules that it becomes a heavily legislated second public
school and a non-option, there will be no leverage for parents of any
political leaning.

The US signed the Convention of the Rights of the Child while

Clinton was president, but thankfully never ratified. We are the last
UN country that's held out against it, and have the advantage of
watching the international effects on the welfare of children. It
wouldn't help our children- it's indirectly led to abuse.

Both the situation in Germany and in the UK show the CRC can be
used wrongfully to render parents- who are usually a child's
strongest advocates- helpless to combat abuse or mishandling of the
children. When a kindergarten teacher can shower and soap up with
your child against your will and with the blessing of the educational
system, something has gone horribly wrong.

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