Title: True Love DefinedBy: Jay W. BadryWord Count: 582Who can forget the scene from the movie,
whenthe priest utters the immortal words: “
Twoo wuv has bwot ustogever
”? But have you ever tried to actually define True Love?In his classic book,
Love Life for Every Married Couple
, Dr. EdWheat defines love in this way:
Love is the power that produceslove as I learn how to give it rather than strain to attract it.
My wife and I have used thisdefinition in counseling couples for years and have applied it to our own marriage aswell.Becky and I are in our 32
year of marriage and, while there were some prettydifficult days in our early years, we have built a strong relationship that stands the test of time
a busy travel schedule for us both. The foundation for our relationship iscaptured in Dr. Wheat’s definition of love:
Learning how to give it rather than straining to attract it.
I have a confession…I was a teen in the 70s. I know, visions of strange clotheslike Naru Jackets (if you don’t know, don’t ask), wide ties and memories of mirror ballsand disco come to your mind. This was a strange decade for America’s teens. So whydid we succumb to these weird fashions and cultural norms? We were straining to attractthe opposite sex…it’s just that simple. I realize that we were after “Puppy Love”, but asone man said, “Don’t knock puppy love, it’s real to the puppy.”