Notion 1 :That we must marry our daughter to someone within our own caste. I ask you, why ? Are good people only in our caste ? There may be somedifferences in food-habits etc. but do they matter more than differences of temperament or largeness of heart for happiness in marriage ? If we can beclose friends with people of another caste and work with them, why can wenot be happy in marrying them and living with them ? Notion 2 :That people of our caste will criticise us and we will be left with no friends.Are they really our true friends ? If they are, should they not care for our happiness and that of our daughters ? If they did, would they not stand by us? If they do not, then they are not really our friends, so why depend on them? After all, we all have friends among people of all communities and castes;so why not depend on our true friends, why depend on the caste people ?Aren't our friends the real community we live in ? Will they not help us if we are ill or in difficulty ? Surely the idea that only people of our caste helpus is sheer nonsense. Very often they only impose all kinds of restrictions onus and limit our freedom. So why stick to them, especially if that caneventually lead to the humiliation and burning of our daughters ? Notion 3 :That a girl must get married before she is 25 years old. One may wish thatfor one's son or daughter, but why make it into an obsession ? It is importantto be happy in life and if marriage will bring happiness then it is desirable, but why marry at all costs ? After all, many men and women do live areasonably happy life, and with great dignity, without marrying, by devotingthemselves to their work. So why have this fixation in our mind thatmarriage is essential and must be arranged by a certain age even if a good boy is not available ? Why treat the daughter differently from the son ? Whynot educate her, let her work and get married to someone she likes, if shelikes and when she likes, as we do with our sons ? I would rather let mydaughter remain unmarried than have her live with a greedy man who seeksher hand because of the dowry.