The Mistress Didi*, Classic Fetish
submissive vs. substandard by The Mistress Didi* ~ Page 3
serve his way
, which ultimately means to serve him. There isalways the agenda to receive his "jollies" and most often substandardsattempt to anger a Dominant with the desire to be "punished". dummesusually fall into this silly trap and the substandard gets what he wants withoutoffering any service ~ or tribute ~ at all. The good thing about this situation isthat even dummes learn to ostracize substandards and the offenders have tofloat from community to community until there is nowhere for them to go forthe fulfillment of their kink. Because their desire is to take without giving, theyare left unfulfilled and empty throughout their lives. A troll is always asubstandard and, usually, visa-versa.
desires to be an accoutrement to his Domme, making Herhappy that he is in Her service. In public, he makes sure to pay attention toHer every whim and desire to show his excellence as a submissive and toexhibit the excellence of Her training. he is proud to be a representative ofHer Domain. If he is fortunate enough to wear Her collar, he displays it like apeacock spreads his tail feathers. Unattached submissives offer theirservices to Dommes with respect and without attempting to illicit somethingfrom Her. (e.g., buy a Domme a drink at a party). A submissive takes pride inhis presentation to be someone a Dominant would not only want to Play with,but to consider for long-term service. A submissive dares to bare himself toThe Scene and trusts that The Scene will embrace him. submissives offer atrue value to The Scene; along with Dominants, they
either presents himself with flash in an attempt to attractDominants to Play with him or is wonderously lacking in his presentation.Given all that I've said about a substandard, one would think that he wouldmake some kind of effort to achieve his fantasy and appeal to a Domme.However, substandards believe that it is the Domme's pleasure - and perhaps,duty - to believe in his illusions of his worthiness and esteem. Becausesubstandards truly place themselves above the concept of the D/s lifestyle,they always top-from-the-bottom (
attempt to control the situation while pretending to be submissive
) because as kinksters, they need to manipulatethe fulfillment of their kink. When they cannot have what they want, they pulla "brat" move and try to behave in a disrespectful manner towards theDomme (one can often see this substandard behavior on message boards).The attention they hope to gain from this is completely contrary to their goal of