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Showing Kavod to Children - Eitan's Menorah Column Aug. 2010

Showing Kavod to Children - Eitan's Menorah Column Aug. 2010

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Published by Eitan Gutin
My first article for the Tifereth Israel Menorah, focussing on the myriad ways in which we can show Kavod (honor and dignity) to our youngest members.
My first article for the Tifereth Israel Menorah, focussing on the myriad ways in which we can show Kavod (honor and dignity) to our youngest members.

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Lilmod U'lilamed - August 2010
Eitan Gutin
Thank you to everyone who has made me feel so welcome in my first weeks as a part of the TI family. This column will be the first of many related to how and what weteach and learn as Jews. I want to extend an open invitation for comments onwhatever I write.
 There is a story that was told to me a few months ago by my teacher and friend, Reb Yitzhak Buxbaum:
Tzipora Rosenberg had special sensitivity and a rare understanding of theother person’s heart, especially children. At family celebrations she made sure thatthey had a place at the table, were properly taken care of and were not pushedaside.Once, her five-year-old niece was at her house for lunch. The girl returned homebeaming with happiness and said “It was so wonderful there!” Her mother assumedthat she had been entertained or offered special sweets, and asked, “What was sowonderful?” Her daughter told her, “Aunt Tziporah gave me such
!”  The Hebrew word
usually means “honor” or “respect,” but like many words inHebrew it is also a concept. For example, we often use
when we speak aboutparents, due to the Fifth Commandment to "Honor your father and mother." It isassumed that showing
to one's parents involves heeding their wishes, showingthem deference, and caring for them as they age. We speak also of 
for a rabbiand for a teacher. There are even discussions of what one should do if showing
to one's rabbi would be in conflict with showing
for one's parent!However, Jewish text rarely covers in any formal way how to properly show
toa young child. Even today, many adults do not think of children as being worthy of being treated with the honor and respect that the Hebrew word
implies.Instead children are an "other" to be interacted with and played with, but only madeto feel welcome under certain parameters.One of the most important lessons every new teacher learns is that the moreprepared one is for class the better the class is likely to go. By preparing, theteacher is showing the students--whether they are children or adults--that theirtime and intellect are both being treated with respect. In this way a teacher shows
for his or her students, whether they are adults or children. Tifereth Israel shows
to children by making them, and their families, feelwelcome in the community. I have been in places where just entering the mainservice with a toddler draws strange looks. At TI the same entry to the room duringservices draws smiles. We continue to show
by offering appropriate servicesand experiences for each age and stage present in the synagogue on a typicalShabbat or holiday morning.Since learning this story from my teacher I have taken it to heart as well. I examinethe interactions that I have with my 3-year-old son, Lev--especially the more difficultinteractions. Am I, as a parent, treating Lev with respect? It's a tough question,

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