7 Smoke Signals Your Man Could Be Living a Double Life!

By Millenia Blackhttp://www.milleniablack.com

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ould you know it if your man was leading a double life? Would the signs beobvious to you or to your family and friends?Most of the time we know when the top isn't spinning right in our relationships,but we don't

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to know, so we conveniently "overlook" the obvious when itcomes to our men. Other times we're in the dark about their secretive tricks untilsomething definitive happens and the light switch is thrown…Then suddenlyeverything is bathed in a painfully bright light.Well, never fear...reinforcements have arrived!Now, make sure you read with both eyes and listen with both ears—BUT be sureyou're not looking for the fire unless you already smell smoke...After speaking at length with several private investigators and divorce attorneys,I'm going to share the top 7 "smoke signals" that your husband or live-inboyfriend could not only have another woman out there, but perhaps a wholeother family outside of his home with you:

Signal #1. He has reason(s) to travel consistently or frequently.

If your man has a job or hobby that requires consistent and/or frequent travel—look out. According to experienced private investigators, this is the NUMBERONE cover for a second, or even a third, hidden family life.

Signal #2. YOU are in the dark about his TRUE financial income and/or holdings.

Does he have complete autonomy of the household finances? Whether he doesor not, how do you know he doesn't have bank accounts you may not knowabout? Are you sure he doesn't have trust funds, mutual funds, IRA’s, stocks andbonds, or even annuities hidden from you? How about credit cards? A creditreport may be a good place to check on those.Moreover, what about life insurance policies and wills? Do you have access to acopy of his will? Are you sure you know who's listed as his primary andcontingent beneficiaries? Better find out. According to top divorce attorneys,many women are CLUELESS in these areas until either someone dies or it's allaired for a judge to hear in court.

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What's more, are you sure you know his exact income? And could he possiblyreceive hefty stipends or bonuses you aren't clued in on? Better get busy findingthat out too.

Signal #3. He has reason to be in regular contact with an ex-wife or girlfriend but (by either choice or circumstance) you're excluded from mostof his interactions with this person.

This is a big one. If he has children, property, business, etc. from a prior marriageor relationship, this constitutes reason to be in contact with an ex-whatever.Beware the "old and familiar" syndrome. Sometimes you'd rather not be involvedwhen he's dealing with his ex, but in most regards, that makes it quite easy for him to re-ignite a whole other life with that person.Take note: this sign could also be present with his or YOUR own best friend,YOUR own sister, YOUR own mother, YOUR own daughter, etc. You'd besurprised what private investigators see in their line of work! Don't be a fool.

Signal #4. You have little or no access to his pager, cell phone, or e-mail.

Another big one, but self-explanatory. Pretty easy to have another woman, other children or in-laws contacting him if he makes sure he's not in danger of youanswering the phone, checking on the pager, or reading his e-mail. Privateinvestigators agree—you shouldn't have to demand access to these things, butthey shouldn't be inaccessible to you either...get it?

Signal #5. He regularly attends the usual "couple's" events...but somehowyou don't.

If you find that more often than not, he winds up having cause to go solo toweddings, holiday events or social functions, I'd start scratching what mightappear to be the surface and get down to the nitty-gritty of exactly why that maybe happening. It could be that it wasn't an event your side of his life could"safely" attend. Perhaps these are the times that his "other family" is on his arm...

Signal #6. He's frequently not in the mood for sex or there's been somechange in sexual appetite or behavior.

Have whips and chains entered the picture from out of left field? Has the "sextalk" suddenly become chock-full of color after 10 or more years of black andwhite? This could mean sex has gotten more inventive elsewhere and he's readyto spice it up with you too...