verbiage that seems to fit. After the client's reaction to the headlights has been EFT'd to zero,you can then ask...
"What else about the accident bothers you?"
At this point the client may bring up other aspects such as,
"The screams in the car"
"Myanger at the other driver"
"My anger at the doctors,"
etc. The list can be quite long.Usually, though, it contains only one or two aspects. Tap on these other aspects until the clientcan no longer find anything bothersome about the accident.As a test, ask them to "run the movie" of the accident in their mind in vivid detail. This will bring up any trailing aspects for tapping. Eventually, the client should have no charge on theaccident. It will just be an unfortunate event in their life--and that's all.One mistake that is often made along the way, however, is to tap on "the headlights" and thenask a much too global question such as,
"How do you feel about the accident now?"
Thatquestion doesn't ask for any new aspects. It just asks for an overall feeling. In fact, if there areany other aspects (such as
"the screams in the car"
) the client will report
because they still have intensity. Remember, the client doesn't distinguish between theaspects. To them, it's all one big problem. You have to make the distinction by firsttrecognizing that aspects exist (that's just simply experience) and, second, asking the rightquestions to bring them to the surface.Aspects can happen with almost any emotional issue--examples might be....
A war trauma can have aspects such as the sight of blood, the look in a comrade's eyes before they die, the sound of a hand grenade, etc.
A rape experience can have aspects such as the smell of the assailant's breath, theimpact of a fist, the penetration, etc.
A fear of public speaking can have aspects such as the sight of a microphone, theonlooking eyes of the audience, a memory of being ridiculed as a child, etc.Another thing to recognize is that an aspect can also be an emotion. Thus, some clients reportthat the anger they had regarding a given event has shifted to sadness. Pick up on these clues.These different emotional aspects are taking you deeper into the problem. They areopportunities for greater healing and present you with great possibilities for mastering your craft.Our DVD sets are loaded with live examples of aspects which you can replay over and over again. I don't think you will find better examples anywhere of how to address this importantsubject. Pay particular attention to Dave and his fear of water in The EFT Course. This hour
long, very thorough session, is a classic example of aspects and how to address them.