Attachment is an important part of child development, but nevertheless it is not
the whole story by any means. We enter this world pre-formed for a particular
pattern of events, and we are capable of developing in a manner that determines
those events in a particular way. I will call this plan our \u2018destiny\u2019; it is a part of
our genetic inheritance. In many cases that plan is disrupted.
Firstly it can be disrupted by our parents, carers and teachers etc. who are
unwilling or unaccepting for us to follow that destiny. Thus we are channelled
into a plan that may not necessarily causes us direct harm (though it can) but
that will sufficiently divert us away from our \u2018destiny\u2019 that we will find our lives
uncomfortable and unfulfilling \u2013 unless we are able to reorientate ourselves in
Secondly we happen on an environment that can be friendly or unfriendly; and
usually we all find ourselves on a continuum somewhere between those two
extremes. It is in this environmental continuum that we encounter our
attachment future for the first time. A secure attachment will enhance that
environment; an insecure attachment will depreciate it.
Thirdly we encounter life\u2019s early vicissitudes, what these are and when they
occur will interact with our original \u2018destiny\u2019, by which we may have the ability to
overcome them, or not. Here again that ability will be a continuum.
Fourthly we reach the period of latency, and to some extent depending upon our
security of attachment, we will begin to develop our adult status. With whom we
relate at that time, together with our degree of burgeoning independence, will
determine a part of our personality, and thus our behaviour. This may be a
period of fluctuating activity, during which our personality and ability will place
us in a particular place in our society. It may also be the time when we can gain
some salvation from a poor past, especially if we have been able to relate to a
strong attachment figure who influences us for our benefit.
Finally we will reach the stage of the mature adult, when most of us will have
become the person that is recognised by others as being \u2018me\u2019. Our life\u2019s events
from there may precipitate further changes, and these are so variable that it is
unwise to try and catalogue any. However it must be said that the way in which
we have achieved the acquisition of a conscience and of values within our
society will affect how we respond to the challenges that will beset us.
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