FORGIVENESS ISLIKE MEDICATION
In Pauline’s six years of caregiving atIdeal Care, she has seen amazing works of forgiveness in the lives of our residentsand their families. She was featured onthe cover of The Southeast Outlook inJune. The article shared a powerful storyof a mighty work of forgiveness that Godhas done in her heart which she describesas the best medication.
Season of Slaughter
“Tensions between Hutus and Tutsiswere high when Pauline decided to reachout to Taciana, her Tutsi neighbor, thoughshe is Hutu. The woman had a mean,crazy reputation in the community. Somesaid she had poisoned four men. Though people warned her not to go, Pauline feltit was what God wanted her to do andtook a friend along with her to Taciana’shome.“We are Christians. she needed toknow someone cared about her. I felt weneeded to be there for her,” Pauline said.During that visit Pauline’s two young sonsand her friend’s daughter played together in another room with Taciana’s threedaughters. At one point during their visit,Taciana left the room to check on thechildren, but came back in a few minutes.By evening Pauline’s youngest sonhad a fever and cried for water. She calleda doctor, then took him to a governmenthospital where she ran into the friend whohad gone with her to visit Taciana. Her little girl also was sick. Doctors learnedthat the two babies had been poisoned.The only time it could have happened waswhen they played together at Taciana’shouse.Both died within a few hours.Pauline struggled with what she knewabout forgiveness. No one knew whyTaciana did such a terrible thing. “AsChristians, we had preached about it and believed it,” she said. “Now we had tolive it.” In time she saw it as acommandment she could not ignore.
The Test of Forgiveness
A few months later, Pauline and her family fled across the boarder to Congo.By then, many of their friends and familyhad perished. They opened their smallmission house to the most vulnerableTutsis and Hutus. “We saw the peoplewere dying, hungry, thirsty and sick,Pauline said. “So people in our littlechurch began giving out water.”One day, as Pauline was giving water to refugees, she looked up to see Tacianain line, her hair wild and clothes soiled.When their eyes met, Taciana ran away, but Pauline followed after her. “We haveforgiven you,” she said. “We will helpyou.” Pauline and her husband helpedTaciana find her surviving familymembers. After the war, few Rwandanstalked about what happened, keeping their horror stories to themselves. But Pauline believes faith and forgiveness is the keyto healing. She encourages people to telltheir stories, often opening the door bytelling her own.”
Medication for Families
Aging loved ones can bring out a lotof strife among families. Sometimes it is between siblings, but it is also often between children and parents. As Paulinedisplays holding onto bitterness is not anoption for Christians. At Ideal Care westrive to resolve conflicts and encourageforgiveness within families. This can bethe best medication that a family can giveto an aging loved one.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on itsown way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth.Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
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Pauline MukeshamanaHow forgiveness heals.
John Jaykka cameto live with us fora short time,but for avery specialpurpose.
“For if you forgiveothers theirtrespasses, yourheavenlyFather willalso forgive you.-Matthew 6:14